Sorry to hear about your situation! How old are you kids? If they are still under your roof, what you can do is daily having normal conversation with them and state how much you love them and literally being there for them. Do the household chores and drive them to school practices, gym, and literally be their for them as a dad.
If they are older and have moved out. Still continue to show respect, love and empathy towards the situation the family is in. Be there for them, continue to try to have conversations with them without being too interactive and constantly tell them when you get the chance, that you love them. If they need the distance, give it to them.
Important is that since you have shared your side of the story, don't continue bringing up and don't justify your actions. Never talk down/bad about your ex cause she is still your kids mother and in fact allow them to have conversations with her and be supportive that she is getting the treatment she needs without escalating the conversation. Even apologizing for escalating the whole situation to where you stand today (even though you did nothing wrong and rescued her) and mentioning you never wanted to hurt anyone's feeling, can go a long way. Not necessarily makes everything great, but can make them feel you have empathy of the situation.
Believe me, as they grow older and become more mature, they will understand the situation and your actions. You have to allow them to make their own assessment and judgement. It is a long road ahead, just have patience and hope the mental ward helps her get better. She may hate you now but things will change if she gets the proper treatment.
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first, because they're very upset... and also because they're kids, don't expect the kids, to be the grown-ups... you're the adult here
also, as the adult and the father... if you have not gained their trust, that is on you...
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It sounds like things are looking for now. Maybe they put her on some medicine to help her thinking.
One thing I had to learn is to give myself permission. Learn to give yourself permission to believe you did what almost anyone would do in your situation.
Give yourself permission to say out loud that you are not responsible for other peoples behavior. Right? You are not responsible for a person's mental illness.
Your ❤️ heart is in the right place to make the future better for your family.
If you do sell the house and split the money, who will take care of her if you're not there anymore. So, please give that some serious thought.
As far as I am aware I don't think mentally ill people are ever cured of it and you could have more rodeo's with her. Why prolong the agony of being in a dysfunctional family? You deserve your own life. Perhaps now that Pandora's box has been opened, maybe this is the time for the two of you to split the sheets?
This is not an easy decision for either of you, but it a necessary decision to make. Otherwise you will be her caregiver until the end.
Remember hon, start learning to give yourself permission OK?
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You have to be sure of the actions you take. Don't expect people to notice or praise you.
Kids don't understand everything, and their opinion is based on their fears. You, as an adult, should make them feel safe even if their mother was taken away in the moment of the crisis.
You mentioned she is ill. Secure the specialist's help and support her. Her actions come from her illness. She needs help, and your kids also should be provided with the support of a psychologist.
Being in a relationship with a mentally ill person is not easy.
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when i tried killing myself and was discovered like right after... my grandma who was the only person in my life like ACTUALLY there for me was so disappointed. i could see it on her face and all the other emotions. i felt so fucking ashamed to the point it almost put me over again. even like now it crushes me thinking about it
im not saying what your ex-wife did is okay and it's awful you're going through that, but i told that story to like give you like an idea how a suicide attempt can make you feel. everyone reacts differently to that feeling and im sorry that's how she did. turning your kids against you is terrible
try to push through and be the best person you can. you staying strong is something your kids gonna appreciate one day and hopefully her tooUrgh. I hate to be the voice of dissension here, but someone who is serious about killing themselves isn't going to thank someone for prolonging their suffering. So if you're expecting praise/thanks...
In this kind of situation, you need to do what you think is right because you think it's right. Not because you expect to be lauded as a hero.
The fact that you knew about it and she made a big display out of it sounds like the proverbial "cry for help" and attention. If she really wanted to be successful, you wouldn't have known about it, you'd just be arranging a funeral.You did the right thing in calling the cops, and the kids will understand that one day and they will see their mother was really sick. There is no way she can get them kids away from you if she's trying to kill herself. You're kids are probably scared and confused right now. I wish you and your kids the best!
Because they’re all Biden supporters and don’t believe in God. You more importantly also contributed to saving this person’s eternal life, I commend you as Da Biggest Bird
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She is mentally ill. This is how mentally ill people act. If she acted normal all the time, she wouldn't be mentally ill.
If she used to cook all the food and shit, you start doing it. Clean the toilet and all. This will minimize your kid's sense of lack and soon they'll get used to not having her around.
She is fucking up your kids lives. They are going to have lingering psychological issues when all this is done. Only a truly messed up person would put their family through all of that
I hate your kids are blaming you. They’ll understand soon enough
I think it's her who is behaving like an asshole and wants to have kids against you.
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