I’m home for a couple weeks to visit my parents and my four siblings. My mom has been saying some pretty inappropriate things to me. She doesn’t like that I work in my room and I’m alone. Or that I hardly see her during the day. She compares me to other young ladies my age. I’m also I’m finishing school my second degree. I had to go back to school for. Most of the days I been home she angry and mad. She calls me names or says im a freak bc of my religion. We’re the same religion but I don't know why she was making fun of me. She screams if im not up before 9:00 am. I don’t know what to think of her behavior.
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Some days she says I’m mentally ill or retarded I don’t listen to her but it makes me not want to visit the family bc of her.
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That's rough, I'm sorry you have to deal with that from your mom. No one should be putting you down or name calling, especially family. A few thoughts:
- First, know that her behavior isn't a reflection of you at all - it sounds like she's got some issues of her own she's taking out on you unfairly. Her anger isn't about you.
- When she starts in on you, try keeping your cool as best you can. Don't engage or defend yourself, just let her rant. Gives her less power that way.
- Spend as much time out of the house as possible. Maybe go to the library or spot with some siblings so you're not alone with her.
- Is there another relative you trust, like an aunt or older sibling, you could talk to? Might help to get support from someone else in the family.
- Long term, set boundaries. Calmly tell her her comments are hurtful and need to stop. Then leave the room if she keeps it up.
- Focus on school and your future so you can be independent. Don't let her put you down about your choices.
Wish I had better advice, just try taking care of yourself as best you can. You deserve better treatment - don't let her harsh words get to you, easier said than done I know. Stay strong!
There's a lot or possibilities why she is like that. I imagine a major one is she may not quite be right in the head herself. It sounds similar though to a parent who for so long has only liver for their child and when they stop acting how they want they over react in childish ways. Does she have a life outside the house herself?
I don't blame you for not wanting to visit her. She seems mean and cruel. She's the one who has the problem not you.