Anyone have a family member or friend with bpd, how do you handle them?

[Deserter2]

Do you tolerate them or did you cut them off?

[Anonymous]

Friend. I might also have it myself, but I have no diagnosis. I've just done a lot of research, and said friend with BPD told me they believed it was possible I had it too. So take that however you want to.

Anyway, my friend seems to keep their symptoms pretty internalized, or perhaps mostly directed solely on their romantic partners. I've had no problems with them. I care about that friend a lot and they're one of the most understanding and empathetic people I know. They might not always realize they've hurt you, but they're very apologetic and always try to make things right if they realize or if you tell them that they have hurt you.

However, they have confessed to me that they used to be quite abusive in past romantic relationships, both verbally and physically, which is something they're not at all proud of. I don't believe they're abusive to their current partner, at least from what I've seen of that dynamic. I believe my friend has worked on their self a lot. But they've definitely struggled with the more outwardly toxic aspects of BPD in the past.

[rosemilk]

the only way to handle them and protect yourself is to cut them off. if they're not actively doing therapy work, i want no part of that behavior.

[Agape93]

Girlfriend. Boundaries

[LazerBean]

No, thankfully.

[Zestyassmf1997]

With a cattle prod.