Obviously to some latin parents and others, they react as if it was the end of the world if their children (either late teens or adults) backtalk to them. It's more like ''Oh what did you just said'' and ''Omg, oh no you didn't'' and you're toast right there.
Who has never done that and instead said ''yes sir, yes mom'' to everything said? I doubt it. You would have to be Mother Teresa yourself. It's only natural to challenge a couple things you don't agree with or get emotional over certain topics, esp when you're younger.
Seriously, a teen or young adult that lost his/her cool once in a while with the parents but otherwise is a balanced person that did well in school isn't the end of the world. Aren't there worst things in life than backtalking to your parents?
How about ok so they never talkback but secretly are doing really bad things behind their parents' back? Or have secret addictions that's bad for their own health? I'm sure that would be a lot worse than a kid that got moody once. How about not talkbacking to your parents but stealing or robbing a bank? That's worse.
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You're right, it's definitely not the worst thing in the world, but they're still limits. I definitely back talked here and there and once when I took it too far my mom slapped me in the face. She did apologize for it later that same night but I probably had it coming. I learned respect because of my parents
Actually it was right that she apologized. She was in the wrong for slapping you. There are other ways to handle it without involving getting physical with someone.
I can't stand the parents that hit for that and don't even apologize but instead expect the child to apologize. What ever happen to two wrongs don't make a right?
I have no issues with her slapping me, my parents did not beat me or anything this was rare my mom has only slapped me twice in my life and I was being extremely disrespectful both times.
Yet it would be wrong for an spouse to slap their partner during a verbal argument or for your boss to slap you because you were disrespectful at your job. That would be assault right there but suddenly some people praise a parent that lost self-control and smack their teenager or adult child for backtalking.
If I get the chance to still have a child (I'm 36 now... will be 37 on April), I don't plan on ever hitting them. I just go by the logic that you don't hit a loved one, someone you love.
I get what you're saying but I disagree with you in this. It'd be one thing. If it was a constant thing then I would say there's a problem. But when it's a rarity like this I don't see an issue. I learned my lesson from it and I've never hit anyone and besides situations like this, I've never seen my parents hit anyone. My parents had four kids raised us all the same and we're all very respectful, were they perfect parents? No no one is but they raised four kids that all became respectful adults
The one good thing is she didn't excuse it and actually apologized, which is rare. Owning up to something wrong and not doing it over and over again is what makes the difference. I've seen other parents excuse it and don't feel bad not even one bit and even go saying ''Do it again and I'll smack you harder''. That's wrong.
I understand what you're saying but it was a last resort thing when I was being completely disrespectful. Any other time was when I said fuck knowing she hates that word. I don't think she felt as bad at that time, but I know she still doesn't like doing it.
But I'm curious, you say slapping teens/young adults. Does this carry over to spankings as kids?
Some parents (esp the year or ethnic group) go directly to spanking with a household object if they're backtalked to. I think that reaction is too much, overdone and even abusive.
and they don't even feel bad for doing that, for hitting the child with a damn belt or wooden spoon or paddle, etc. That's too much of a reaction for simply getting backtalked to esp if the child just lost his/her cool a bit.
Well I was spanked growing up, it was not the first or only option my parents used, they never used a tool just their hands. I do not believe my parents did anything wrong by spanking us growing up.
I think the reason several people are now against it is because some parents would overdo it when spanking with household objects, overdo it to the point of leaving a couple bruises or few welts. That was straight forward abuse. For instance 10-15 lashes with a belt just for backtalking would be too much.
I would agree with that, there are definitely some who go way too far with it. My parents never left marks and like I said only used their hands. I agree with spanking within reason like my parents did. I agree no belt or spoon and don't leave marks.
Your age in your profile is obviously not accurate.
It's true. I'm 36 years old and I'm speaking for the younger people that have backtalked to their parents
Mmm hmm