What's the worst thing your parents have ever done or said to you?

[Desconhecida]

[Anonymous]

I consider myself fortunate to have really good parents, but this one year, in regards to my mom, it was when she re-discovered religion when I was in high school. She started going to church hard core whereas for our entire lives, religion was never big in our household and we'd never gone to church outside of holidays or special occasions with friends. All of a sudden and out of nowhere, according to her, we were now "bad sinful children." She started making comments about our souls being in peril and that we NEEDED to go to church with her so we could get into heaven.

This led to a massive blow up in the car one day when she was taking me to school where I was literally screaming at her, "I am a good kid! I don't do drugs! I've never been in any kind of trouble! I'm in every club! I'm a straight A student, I have a job, I have a clean room!...literally what exactly makes me some sort of demon child all of a sudden?!?" Then she yelled back, "you're going to go to hell if you don't start going to church! You are a heathen!" It really messed with me because I could not understand why she felt that way. And it was even more confusing because my dad is an Atheist which she has of course known since before she married him, so it was like, okay so you're saying we're all going to hell then. I didn't speak to her in earnest for weeks after that and eventually after my dad had several talks with her, she stopped her quest to "save our souls." To this day, though, I refuse to go to church with her and she knows why.

[Prettygurl12]

"It's a pity you're so dumb because you're not pretty enough to get by on your looks."

[TheBMG]

My parents were always so proud of my being able to clean my plate, Eat all of my food, or eat a Big Mac when I was 6. I’ll admit, I was lean and always active. Then suddenly in Middle School I began gaining weight. I did not change my eating habits, I was staying as active if not more active. I put on 65 lbs from 6th grade to 8th grade. My parents came into my room while I was doing homework. They came in with a picture of me when I was younger, skinnier. My mom begins to ask me, “what happened to our skinny kid we were so proud of.” In my mind, I was like so you’re not proud of me now that I’ve gained weight. Turns out I think my body was just getting ready to grow. By my eighth grade year, I went from 5’6” to 6’1”. My mom was so “proud” that my freshman year she was bragging about how I grew and was wearing smaller waisted jeans. In fact I was a 36" waist in 8th grade and was 186 lbs. When I graduated Highschool I was a 32" Waist weighi g 172 lbs and was almost 6'5". I starved myself at times in Highschool because I never wanted to gain weight like that again. I have body image issues to this day. My swim coach told me I was getting too thin for my frame. I was so confused.

[mobiusforniner]

My dad told me if he knew what id become, he would have aborted me. I am a second level manager, with wife and kids and making six figures. I guess it wasn't good enough

[Alwayreckles93]

I have so many things, I'm stupid your not that beautiful I was way more beautiful then you when I was younger I was in better body shape then you. It took me three years to save up for my car and my mom took advantage of me and stole it. My mom is a horrible mother. She was verbally and physically abusive to me. The list goes on I no longer speak to her. Good thing is we live in different state. My mom made a horrible choice let's just say if I didn't live home I wouldn't be here today answering your question I would have been dead. Yes dead.

[Anonymous]

My mother has said many times before that she wanted to beat me until she saw blood and then keep on beating me. It never happened, but when you're a kid, you take it seriously. And the worst thing she's ever done to me was be physically & verbally hostile. I can recall many things like her choking me against a wall, screaming & cursing at me and my siblings over little things, breaking things when angry, of course hitting us harder than a parent should hit their kid, etc. I'm honestly surpised I'm not somewhere in prison. Even typing this out makes me feel a bit of anger towards her. But what do you do when the person that abused you is also responsible for the most love you've ever received? I'm conflicted.

[Unknown_Swan_]

That's honestly awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
This is the problem with these types of issues. A lot of dark water has gone under that bridge, but at the same time a lot of love has also. Still that behavior of hers is not justified in the slightest.

I'd learn to forgive, and by forgive, accept what has happened, but don't forget it. None of what happened is your fault! Therapy for yourself might add some further clarity you need to get through this.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, I don't forgive. But I don't resent in the same way normal people would so it's not dangerous or anything. Because I understand that we don't have as much free will as we think we do. And her tendencies are because of the way she was raised. She endured more physical & mental abuse than I did when she was a kid. Which caused her anger issues that caused her abusive behaviors. So I view her just as I view everyone that suffers. An unlucky primate.

And I'll probably go to therapy when she's like dead or something. Because I wouldn't want them to arrest her or anything.

[Unknown_Swan_]

That's understandable.
And that's also a very incisive way of looking at her psychology.
I was never physically abused as a kid, but some very questionable things went down that I won't go into. So in a way I can kind of relate to how you feel.

You can always try therapy, but keep it anonymous. A therapist/psychiatrist is bound by law to keep things confidential. But that doesn't apply to some crimes, so I guess you could wait. The main thing is don't let it eat you up, you look like you're a similar age to me so the pain may be still fresh. If you're hurting, seek help. I'm always around every few hours on here.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks man, you're very kind! I don't think it eats me up 🤔 But you never know though. Since I still feel negative emotions when I do think back & I can't even talk about it with the person that was the cause of them, maybe I should look into anonymous therapy. I think I'd prefer therapy where I can just talk to the person & spill out all of my emotions. I could even lie about the person who caused my suffering to avoid any police involvement. Like say that it was a stranger or something.

And I do have very severe anxiety. Wouldn't be surprised if she was the cause of it. Didn't happen just once, but even something as simple as being in the same car with someone who's punching & screaming at the driver (who was my father) while stepping on the gas pedal & jerking the steering wheel could give a 10 year old ptsd. Now I don't think I have ptsd but I do have very addictive behaviors & destructive mindsets that severely hinder me from wanting to really try in life. I have no dreams of being anything anymore.

Ofc she's not the main cause. I think that other factors could have possibly been more potent. Like being verbally bullied & rejected by my peers during developing stages, my dna being predisposed to certain brain states, etc. But boy it sure would be nice to be able to look at my own mother and not have memories of her being the worst human to ever impact my life.

Guess it makes sense that I'm now an antinatalist. 🤣

[Ez-Bri-Z]

For my mom it was probably the time she came at me with a baseball bat. In fairness, I suppose, she was going for the TV in my room but I wouldn't move to let her.

For my dad, it was a mix between him physically fighting with me or him throwing me out of the house on multiple occasions. I'd stay with friends for a few days until my mom said I had to come home or she'd call the police to come get me (I was still in high school).

My dad particularly hated anyone who questioned him and unfortunately I have a quick wit and an inquisitive mind. It was a bad combination.

[Anonymous]

They forced me to work for a "family business" in middle school with no pay. I say "they" but it was really just my mom while my dad just stayed out of it. I had to wake up at around 3AM and clean a building before school, then I would be sent with no breakfast and not enough lunch money to eat lunch every day. I was threatened with beatings if I didn't work for them. They also threatened to beat me for getting 85s. They were both able bodied ans had enough money to live comfortably for just the two of them. I got their leftovers for dinner and didn't get new clothing or even a cheap $30 phone for communication. I wasn't allowed to leave the house either. The worst part is that my mom would literally not trust me to stay home some times and take me with her to run errands. But instead if letting me go with her, she would threaten me and make me stay in the car and keep the windows rolled up even when it was 80 degrees outside. This went on until I was around 16.

[Account]

I am so sorry you went through all that.

[BipBipLeddus]

"Wow. You're disappointing me." - my mom, looking at my first "F" on a report card.

I don't know, I guess the "I'm not mad, just disappointed" shame is too real.

That's really the worst thing. My parents are pretty great.

[Z1pTD]

Well they told me my sister was a bitch which I later found out she wasn’t and they also told our cousins that I didn’t want to talk to them so they dropped off the end of the earth for me and they also tried to stop me from getting a job and license when I was 18

[ArrowheadSW]

I am pretty fortunate in that regard. My parents were pretty patient.

Now the teachers and school administration in grade school... They were another story. They could kiss my ass.

[boobliker]

lose me as a son, at 14 years i am now 67 years and at school I could not read till I left school and at 40 i went back to college to get what I had missed at school?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

I’m not going to go into details. But there is a reason my biological father was in prison.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I brought you into this world I can take you out. I logically don't understand why people would say that if I ever had my own kids I will never say that.

[mstbooblover]

I'm quoting something my own father said to us, his sons: "Now your grandfather is dead, you can go and visit him !".

[awkward_author]

My mother has threatened to abandon me on multiple occasions if I upset and/or anger her too much. She's also threatened self-harm and implied it would be my fault if she acted upon it.

[AnimeLOVE]

Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry :(

[awkward_author]

@AnimeLOVE You don't have to be sorry. It is what it is.

[muscularbumblebee]

‘I hate you’ from my mum when I was younger as well as other things

[AnimeLOVE]

Oh no :(
I'm sure she didn't mean any of them :)

[muscularbumblebee]

She did. I don’t talk to her anymore. But it’s alright lol

[Anonymous]

When my mom called my stupid since I was a kid and when she said "no man will ever love you" I guess she was right because I always make stupid decisions and still single

[annabananna]

My dad would tell me that I’m stupid. I wanted to go to nursing school and he told me I wasn’t smart enough and I wouldn’t be able to pass.

[talka20]

Thanks to God there is nothibg i can count as worst

[Anonymous]

When I was a kid she threatened to send me to an orphanage if I don’t follow her orders. She even pretended to call the Center. I still remember cuz it was scarring.

[Anonymous]

I was kicked out of home at the age of 12. I haven't been close to them ever since.

[Anonymous]

Continued to drink after being told had she not had such a high alcohol tolerance she would be in a coma.

[Massageman]

Told me "when you grow up, you can do it YOUR way".
That seldom happens.

[xJayleenx]

My mom spoke bad about me to my boyfriend in front of me. My mom has done a lot of things but never apologizes.

[motownplayer2000]

My dad and I fought once out in the backyard.. good old fist fight..

[Caunsos]

My mother compaired my mental ability to someone that most likely has alzheimer.

[collie22]

my mom did so many things she gone now, i'm now working on my healing

[TexasRed95]

Well my dad choked and beat me for years. So that would be the worst.

[whosnumber1]

my mom never apologizes for anything. it's so annoying.

[paigefaithful]

Read my diary, stole 700 dollars from me, gossiped about me, told my secrets to others, etc.

[abc3643]

They gave birth to me.

[Anonymous]

My mom called me a slut and humiliated me in front of her friends

[douride2]

My mother said she should have gotten rid of me.

[sheikalana]

I'll kill you if you do this again.

[skyeee_]

compared me to my friends

[jahaims]

Beat me, tell me they were gonna get rid of me.

[michael1469]

A Red Foremen moment... dumbass.

[BestWoman]

it breaks my heart to remember the old days

[Dora89]

Your not pretty enough.

[Somegirl678]

nothing that bad

[Agape93]

That I deserved it.

[lilaccc]

she's autism.

[Anonymous]

Im worthless