I consider myself fortunate to have really good parents, but this one year, in regards to my mom, it was when she re-discovered religion when I was in high school. She started going to church hard core whereas for our entire lives, religion was never big in our household and we'd never gone to church outside of holidays or special occasions with friends. All of a sudden and out of nowhere, according to her, we were now "bad sinful children." She started making comments about our souls being in peril and that we NEEDED to go to church with her so we could get into heaven.
This led to a massive blow up in the car one day when she was taking me to school where I was literally screaming at her, "I am a good kid! I don't do drugs! I've never been in any kind of trouble! I'm in every club! I'm a straight A student, I have a job, I have a clean room!...literally what exactly makes me some sort of demon child all of a sudden?!?" Then she yelled back, "you're going to go to hell if you don't start going to church! You are a heathen!" It really messed with me because I could not understand why she felt that way. And it was even more confusing because my dad is an Atheist which she has of course known since before she married him, so it was like, okay so you're saying we're all going to hell then. I didn't speak to her in earnest for weeks after that and eventually after my dad had several talks with her, she stopped her quest to "save our souls." To this day, though, I refuse to go to church with her and she knows why.
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"It's a pity you're so dumb because you're not pretty enough to get by on your looks."
My parents were always so proud of my being able to clean my plate, Eat all of my food, or eat a Big Mac when I was 6. I’ll admit, I was lean and always active. Then suddenly in Middle School I began gaining weight. I did not change my eating habits, I was staying as active if not more active. I put on 65 lbs from 6th grade to 8th grade. My parents came into my room while I was doing homework. They came in with a picture of me when I was younger, skinnier. My mom begins to ask me, “what happened to our skinny kid we were so proud of.” In my mind, I was like so you’re not proud of me now that I’ve gained weight. Turns out I think my body was just getting ready to grow. By my eighth grade year, I went from 5’6” to 6’1”. My mom was so “proud” that my freshman year she was bragging about how I grew and was wearing smaller waisted jeans. In fact I was a 36" waist in 8th grade and was 186 lbs. When I graduated Highschool I was a 32" Waist weighi g 172 lbs and was almost 6'5". I starved myself at times in Highschool because I never wanted to gain weight like that again. I have body image issues to this day. My swim coach told me I was getting too thin for my frame. I was so confused.
My dad told me if he knew what id become, he would have aborted me. I am a second level manager, with wife and kids and making six figures. I guess it wasn't good enough
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I have so many things, I'm stupid your not that beautiful I was way more beautiful then you when I was younger I was in better body shape then you. It took me three years to save up for my car and my mom took advantage of me and stole it. My mom is a horrible mother. She was verbally and physically abusive to me. The list goes on I no longer speak to her. Good thing is we live in different state. My mom made a horrible choice let's just say if I didn't live home I wouldn't be here today answering your question I would have been dead. Yes dead.
My mother has said many times before that she wanted to beat me until she saw blood and then keep on beating me. It never happened, but when you're a kid, you take it seriously. And the worst thing she's ever done to me was be physically & verbally hostile. I can recall many things like her choking me against a wall, screaming & cursing at me and my siblings over little things, breaking things when angry, of course hitting us harder than a parent should hit their kid, etc. I'm honestly surpised I'm not somewhere in prison. Even typing this out makes me feel a bit of anger towards her. But what do you do when the person that abused you is also responsible for the most love you've ever received? I'm conflicted.
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For my mom it was probably the time she came at me with a baseball bat. In fairness, I suppose, she was going for the TV in my room but I wouldn't move to let her.
For my dad, it was a mix between him physically fighting with me or him throwing me out of the house on multiple occasions. I'd stay with friends for a few days until my mom said I had to come home or she'd call the police to come get me (I was still in high school).
My dad particularly hated anyone who questioned him and unfortunately I have a quick wit and an inquisitive mind. It was a bad combination. They forced me to work for a "family business" in middle school with no pay. I say "they" but it was really just my mom while my dad just stayed out of it. I had to wake up at around 3AM and clean a building before school, then I would be sent with no breakfast and not enough lunch money to eat lunch every day. I was threatened with beatings if I didn't work for them. They also threatened to beat me for getting 85s. They were both able bodied ans had enough money to live comfortably for just the two of them. I got their leftovers for dinner and didn't get new clothing or even a cheap $30 phone for communication. I wasn't allowed to leave the house either. The worst part is that my mom would literally not trust me to stay home some times and take me with her to run errands. But instead if letting me go with her, she would threaten me and make me stay in the car and keep the windows rolled up even when it was 80 degrees outside. This went on until I was around 16.
"Wow. You're disappointing me." - my mom, looking at my first "F" on a report card.
I don't know, I guess the "I'm not mad, just disappointed" shame is too real.
That's really the worst thing. My parents are pretty great.Well they told me my sister was a bitch which I later found out she wasn’t and they also told our cousins that I didn’t want to talk to them so they dropped off the end of the earth for me and they also tried to stop me from getting a job and license when I was 18
I am pretty fortunate in that regard. My parents were pretty patient.
Now the teachers and school administration in grade school... They were another story. They could kiss my ass.I’m not going to go into details. But there is a reason my biological father was in prison.
I brought you into this world I can take you out. I logically don't understand why people would say that if I ever had my own kids I will never say that.
lose me as a son, at 14 years i am now 67 years and at school I could not read till I left school and at 40 i went back to college to get what I had missed at school?
I'm quoting something my own father said to us, his sons: "Now your grandfather is dead, you can go and visit him !".
My mother has threatened to abandon me on multiple occasions if I upset and/or anger her too much. She's also threatened self-harm and implied it would be my fault if she acted upon it.
‘I hate you’ from my mum when I was younger as well as other things
When my mom called my stupid since I was a kid and when she said "no man will ever love you" I guess she was right because I always make stupid decisions and still single
My dad would tell me that I’m stupid. I wanted to go to nursing school and he told me I wasn’t smart enough and I wouldn’t be able to pass.
Thanks to God there is nothibg i can count as worst
When I was a kid she threatened to send me to an orphanage if I don’t follow her orders. She even pretended to call the Center. I still remember cuz it was scarring.
Told me "when you grow up, you can do it YOUR way".
That seldom happens.My mom spoke bad about me to my boyfriend in front of me. My mom has done a lot of things but never apologizes.
Continued to drink after being told had she not had such a high alcohol tolerance she would be in a coma.
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