When you have problems with another user on here, how do you usually deal with it?

[Laciejordan]

I haven’t been having problems, but I see others talking about it, because of that, I’m just curious how most handle it. Also, I’m not talking about stalking behavior or belligerent behavior, I’m talking about just not agreeing on anything and them constantly wanting to debate everything and anything.

Block them.

Ignore them.

Continue engaging with them.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

If it's not belligerent or stalking, I generally don't mind it. I might not continue to engage in it if they insist on debating since I'm not into debating. Yet if it's civil, I enjoy it as long as it's not too extreme. I won't block unless they become belligerent or start stalking my posts.

One thing is that I do think debating is a very poor form of communication between two parties unless we're appealing to official judges, like a judge in a courtroom or an audience in a formal debate. It makes little sense to me to debate on the internet unless people are voting on the winner.

So I much prefer a "sharing" style of communication. We share how we arrived at our viewpoint and even potential areas where we could be wrong to each other. It doesn't seek to "win", it seeks to develop mutual understanding.

I really try to encourage people to do this more. Debating on the internet with the goal to prove each other wrong is extremely counter-productive.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

In general I think schools do a poor job of teaching how to persuade. They teach us how to debate formally complete with the rules of avoiding fallacies, but that's not the same as being persuasive. Debating is a competitive activity that seeks to make bulletproof arguments. Persuasion is cooperative and even openly acknowledging the possible holes in our arguments. Debating only makes sense when the goal is to persuade judges, not the opposition.

[Drew-1990]

I did not vote because I have done all three, it depends on the conversation and debate honestly. I have blocked some not many that kept pushing something and wouldn't leave it be. I have ignored as you have saw me do before because it was not worth it. But I have gotten into debates, hard to read online sometimes but if I feel we are having a rational debate, I'll keep going. But I feel it's an argument I will make my point and stop responding. I have failed once or twice to ignore but mostly do.

[Laciejordan]

I’ve had to “ignore” also. It’s tough! It wasn’t anything horrible but mostly someone just looking for an argument.

[Drew-1990]

I know it's annoying, I've said it before and I'll say it again, there is a difference between a debate and an argument. Debates are fine arguments are not. An old saying I like, argue with a fool look like a fool

[IslaTheWitch]

depends, if they break rules you can ask mods or admins for help, if they are just rude or annoying, you can block them.

I often make the same mistake being polite to them... but they are mostly fixated on one thing - sexting or insulting me... so my block button is hit regularly lol

[rosemilk]

they'd be blocked before any problem escalated.

[AaronKrieger]

I very rarely have problems with another user, but I try to defuse it if I think it is a miscommunication or I ignore them.

If it is something like a debate or argument, then I walk away if I think it is not going to be productive, which are most debates online, lmao.

[Laciejordan]

100%! There have been a couple occasions I’ve gotten snarky responses and really wanted to reply but didn’t. It’s tough but like you said, it really wouldn’t accomplish anything. One of these days I’ll get pushed too far. 😉

[Wallythewalrus2]

I don’t block people and only ignore them when it’s no longer fun. I’ve been blocked by a number of people and don’t know why. When I go on a question, half the page is filled with, “This member’s opinion cannot be seen because you have blocked them or they have blocked you” or whatever it says. It’s actually quite disturbing!

[Laciejordan]

Oh, Jesus.. lol There’s a message that shows if you’ve been blocked? Interesting. I can honestly say that you are a little odd and maybe even strange, but I have never seen behavior from you that would require you being blocked. YET, anyway! 😊

[Wallythewalrus2]

Goddamnit! I’m not strange! Saying that to someone is like calling them “creepy”! You’re blocked!

[Laciejordan]

🤣🤣 How about quirky? Is that better?

[NathanDavis]

as of late... with most of the people I disagree with in here, I don't have to "deal with" that much really, we just have a difference of opinion, we discuss some and that is it... we move on, and we even agree sometimes on some other things at some point

so, it is fine...

[zeitgeist057]

I don't really have "problems" per se, but in terms of disagreements, I will continue to engage. What I do though, is I detach myself emotionally from the discussion. It's not about me and my personal feelings. The reason I continue to engage with disagreeable people is not about anything personal. It's more for the wider audience of others who are going to read the publicly posted discussion. I want to represent a point of view and show arguments to counter what the opposition is demonstrating.

If it continues to degrade into irrelevant personal remarks and the like, I will disengage, and sometimes block the user.

This is very different from how I approach private personal conflicts, in which I am very interested in reaching a resolution and mutual understanding. But that is not my motivation in public forum like this.

[strateguy632]

debate is not a problem... unless they write personal attack. decent websites censor personal attack... here they allow it, can't report it, and wouldn't censor it, while censor less problematic stuff. but what do i know? i am not rich enough to operate a website.

when it happens i reply and down vote.

[PeachyPie93]

I will keep talking to them until I get bored then I just ignore them.

[Laciejordan]

Lol.. That’s what another opiner said. I like that approach!

[Anonymous]

Depends what the situation calls for. Sometimes I just block them. Like if they've proven themselves to be morally bankrupt and belligerent. Then nothing good is likely to ever come from them and I just block them. But if they're just a person who post inflammatory posts for attention you can't rely on mods to fix the problem so in those instances I handle them the Chicago way (see the untouchables).

[Nikki1989]

You just block them on here. This site is not worth stressing out over. Block and forget about them.

[Avcfhcic]

Depends on the problem, but usually blocking is the easiest way.

I also wanted to say, you're beautiful!

[DJB72]

If it's every time I answer a question I block. It's happened once.

Otherwise I try to keep engaging because it's usually just one issue that's the problem. Communication is the only answer.

[bowenw]

Block them and consider reporting them if they are attacking you personally. Life is too short to waste your time with people like that.

[Blessedme]

I got blocked by 5 people at least and I don't know why yet.

[Drew-1990]

I have ran into you before I'm not sure why you would get blocked you seem like a decent person even when someone disagrees with you.

[Blessedme]

@Drew-1990 oh thank you 😍

[Drew-1990]

You're welcome thanks for the follow

[Blessedme]

@Drew-1990 I need more kind people to follow ^^

[Jennz6]

Beg them not to block me or if they did I hope it’s just temporary

[Wallythewalrus2]

What? Why do you beg them not to block you?

[Jennz6]

@Wallythewalrus2 yes, I know when I piss off someone, and sometimes they tell me they are going to block me

[Jennz6]

@wallythewalrus2 I don’t try to get someone angry with me but I usually just say something out of place…I can be stupid. I miss Paris

[Wallythewalrus2]

Same here! I just don’t get it, I think some people take me too serious and don’t get that I’m just kidding. I’ve been blocked by a ton of people and just can’t understand why. I’m somewhat familiar with you and have never seen you be rude or unkind.

[Jennz6]

@Wallythewalrus2 yes, me too I just joking

[Jennz6]

@Wallythewalrus2 because sometimes I am a bitch

[jahaims]

If they can't follow logic in a conversation I block them because communication would be pointless

[PeterLegg91]

One particular woman kept asking questions about paedophilia and how women paedophiles are worser than men 🤔 and when i voiced My opinion she'd argue it WAS TOO MUCH IN THE END SO I BLOCKED HER 😠 8 ignored her for a bit made her worse

[AngryCarl]

On the rare occasions that I have a problem I just block them. No muss, no fuss.

[KasiKesh]

There is no one here, it is not crowded, we cannot even find people :)

[Danny_dan92]

Depends on the problem

[Laciejordan]

I put somewhat of a description on the details. Nothing major, just someone that is always looking to argue with you.

[Danny_dan92]

I’d first try to have a civil debate. But if they continue to act like a child, I just ignore them. If then they continue spamming responses because I stopped responding? I block them.

[Finchie40]

Just block them so they can’t bother you anymore

[Sonorous]

I give them a time & a place

[Kykiono1]

I give them a taste of their own medicine

[exitseven]

I usually just ignore them. A few I have blocked

[CozyCoffin]

Block em.

[sirderpsalot123]

Ignore them