How to NOT be nice?

[Anonymous]

I'm too nice, to the extent that i can't live anymore. I consider people's needs before mine and expect them to be that nice back but rightfully tho they never do. I wish i just not give a sht anymore about anyone but myself. I feel like people are very opinionated, they want every little thing to be their way, if i want to do my own things my way they have a problem, and I'm just too nice to tell them off. I don't want people to assume I'm naive bc i choose to not give much thought about being selfless when i can. I want all of this to stop, i want to be a selfish respected person. How can i do that in the most simple yet effective way?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

At some point, you’ll get tired of trying to make everybody like you even when they don’t. Probably around the same time you realize that it doesn’t matter how nice you are, people will hate you for no foreseeable reason. When that happens, you’ll learn to treat your self the same way you would treat others, your self is just as valuable as their selfs, but you don’t value that self of yours unless other people like it.

[Anonymous]

Think of someone who handles situations the way you would like to be able to do, and pretend you're them.

[gorydetails]

You can be nice and still put your needs first.

[Asker]

Ok bro just tell me how

[gorydetails]

You need to understand that people's opinion of you is none of your business.

[Asker]

I do. It's frustrating how your intentions can be misunderstood and hence the way they treat you is affected so their opinion somehow matters because it affects how they treat me. I don't want them to have a wrong opinion of me as naive because they'll treat me as a naive which I'm not.

[gorydetails]

Their opinion of you is none of your business.

[jahaims]

Go to therapy and learn to set boundaries