Am I justified in feeling angry at my mother for slapping my hand during an argument?

[Anonymous]

My mom and I had an argument lately and it was pretty intense, because I had her tell me not to touch me or get physical with me and she still slapped my hand. She said she did that because I was waving my finger at her and she was trying to stop me. While I understand I should not have waved my finger at her, I feel like she still should not have slapped my hand and it is not an excuse. I told this to her and she has said that it is a very Normal thing to do and that she has not hit me? I don't know. Can you just slap someone’s hand like that in an argument even if they are your offspring? It seemed odd to me

[lightbulb27]

I'm on moms side, but I've not had that happen.

Honor your father and mother. That said, doesn't mean you have to agree with them and are an adult to make own decision. But that means accepting the consequences.

Now if you are Italian, I change my mind. We talk with our hands so much, it would quickly turn to a fight if that was done. Its accepted to use hands and fingers to augment our verbal.

[Asker]

So you have not had that happen but you agree with them anyway? I don’t really get your opinion

[lightbulb27]

I had parents and I have kids (step). If I have to pick a side, I'd say, it's ok to slap a finger out in heat of moment. much better to maintain control and not do that. kid doing that to parent even worse.
you were there and know the scene, not I.

[Anonymous]

You mean, you can't take being slapped on the hand? By a woman?