What are issues you are glad your parents were strict about while they were raising you?

[Elena_Stewart]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My father made me do chores all the time for rewards. For example, I wanted a Famicom (Japanese version of the Nintendo Entertainment System) so badly when I was 4-years old, and my father told me he would get it if I did chores around the house.

So he had me clean the entire house, toilets, bathroom, wash his car, wash the dishes, etc, for an entire week. After that he patted me on the head and said he was proud of me and already had the Famicom bought in advance (he counted on me doing these things) and gave it to me. I really think that was valuable in terms of discipline. It taught me to take pride in work and to never expect something for free.

My self-discipline did start slipping when I started spending more time with my single mother after my parents divorced and I started to become quite rebellious, but I owe a lot of whatever discipline I had remaining and resurrected later on to my father.

[Elena_Stewart]

That a very good practice though…

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Definitely. I think more parents should do that! 😅 One thing also isn't just that he made me do all these chores for rewards, but he also told me he was proud of me. That was very crucial. It made me proud to be disciplined, to be well-behaved; it wasn't something motivated by fear but pride.

My mother had a very different approach. I didn't have the best relationship with her. She used the belt and tried to instill discipline out of fear. Doesn't work so well on an adrenaline junkie into vert skateboarding used to taking slams to the flat bottom of a vert ramp all the time from 2 stories high. The belt did absolutely nothing for me and I was like, "Are you finished now? Good."

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

It's very much to my shame but by the time I was 11 years old or so, I had although started towering over my mother (she was only 5'1). So she tried to belt me one time while I stayed with her over a Summer vacation in the US (my father was in Singapore at the time and I was living with him) and I just forcefully stopped her and grabbed the belt out of her hand.

Then she was so confused about what to do after that. So I grounded myself like, "I'm going to stay in my room now." She stopped belting me after that. Her way of discipline was just completely contradictory to my nature. It just made me want to rebel against her more and more.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

[*] I had [already] started towering over my mother [...]

[bobby_bush_eater]

My dad was so insanely in our face about financial responsibility and managing money. Literally since I was a toddler I can remember him being on me and my siblings about it (I'm the youngest of 4).

Because of that I was saving and investing heavily when I was 17. It stuck with me and I got a degree in accounting and economics. My other siblings however it still never stuck with them. Weird how that works

[Elena_Stewart]

Financial is important…

[Yoursweetgirl]

They never let me go to the club.

When I grew up I went twice to the club. I was being touched all the time and had to leave for the first time. Second time some guy put somethinh in my friend's drink, she stsrted hallucinating and wanted to jump in the river.

[Bethany22]

Was strict about not saying anything that could even remotely potentially burst someone's bubble. While most people aren't that fragile, occasionally I do have moments where I'm thankful to already have had experience in saying things diplomatically.

[Drew-1990]

That I had to buy my stuff besides the basics and some toys and stuff when I was a kid. I paid for my own car, video game systems and a TV for my room. Taught me to be responsible and care for my stuff for then a lot of people around me growing up.

[sheikalana]

Basically everything. When I was younger I did not understand and used to resent my father a lot but as I got older I now understand and I'm thankful I was not allowed to do certain things like going out at night, sleepovers, dress a certain way, have boyfriends or too much attention from boys etc etc etc.

[Bricealan]

No screwing the neighbor girl... when her mom was not home.

No stealing the car from across the street.

No snorting coke?

[Elena_Stewart]

Valid rules…

[Bricealan]

@Elena_Stewart... Oh. heck... I really can't think of any...

[abc3643]

My parents weren't strict at all. They were very cool with me and, for that, I am eternally grateful. I ended up policing myself and didn't need them to do that. I was very very lucky, looking back.

[RebelinSteel]

Dating. With my brother their were fairly strict and he’s a born again saint these days with a wife to match. Both me and my sister were left to get on with everything and don’t have this holier than thou thing. He has crazy standards I have non lol

[Beckybooboo]

To take school serious and treat it like it’s your job, but make sure to have fun! Which I definitely did.

[exitseven]

My parents were strict about a lot of things. My father always talked about how you have to keep your promises and you never hit a girl

[Massageman]

Always use the washroom when you have the chance.

Always drink water when you have the chance.

Buy low, sell high.

Leave things better than when you found them.

Be fair.

Live up to your word.

[MrDaveAPSI]

swearing. While I don't do it in front of certain people, i will do it when im by myself or with my friends

[Jackblue]

I guess making sure I always did my homework.

[NathanDavis]

my stubbornness... lol

[Elena_Stewart]

I am surprised… I always think of you as the nicest kid…lol

[NathanDavis]

I was nice (=

and stubborn, lol

[Elena_Stewart]

Ok…let me think 🤔…yeah, you might be a stubborn because you have a high self esteem and confidence..😊

[NathanDavis]

well... the good part of that could be seen as determination, but no... I am stubborn as well, lol

[Elena_Stewart]

Ok😊

[Elena_Stewart]

Sorry…I meant if you say so…😁

[Babygirl_S]

They were strict about education, pre-marital sex and substance abuse and I am glad they were.

[laly520]

making sure I am serious about school

[Squatting_Slav]

Good hygiene and not saying too much

[OddBeMe]

Going to college.