Why do I always feel like I come off as annoying?

[Akam93]

I always think no one wants to talk to me because I'm not interesting or pretty for that matter. I feel like when I talk to people I'm talking to myself. 😞 cause no one ever responds or put just one word. So I usually just stop and feel like an idiot for trying to make friends.

[ProbablyClueless]

Lack of self confidence. You've probably also had experiences where people made a point of being shitty towards you unprovoked.

[LiamS95]

I'd talk with you.

[Akam93]

You never responded when we did talk.

[LiamS95]

Thst would-be unusual for me unless I wasn't online.

[Akam93]

Then what happened?

[ShadezMcgee]

I can relate. I have had that happen enough to the point I wished I was born mute at times because I got the feeling no one cared what I had to say.

I would say it is a mix of two things. The first being the people you are talking to. Are these just random people or people that are close to you? If it is the latter, maybe you can try bringing up that concern that you feel like you are annoying them at times because of how they are responding to you?

The second option would be to learn how to be a better story teller. When I say this it means being able to relay or recount a subject or something that happened in an engaging way or a way that doesn't repeat itself at points you already discussed.

I get that feeling a lot and it wasn't until my girlfriend asked me why I hadn't been talking as much as her, and I just straight up said "Because I get the impression I bore you. I can see your eyes shift away or you look like you just lose focus and attention when I talk about something."

She apologized and said that it wasn't intentional at all, but she did mention that I didn't know how to end the story amd would loop back to a point I covered because I would remember aspects of what played a part in it and I always want to include everything which can be a bit much.

[jasonjk]

Don't blame yourself, you got me. I would talk to you.

[jahaims]

Because you are