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Did I do the right thing or should I eat the humble pie?

We became friends since last November. We just saw us in person 2 times last year, had only a video call, and the rest has been just WhatsApp messages. But the messages started to become less although I wanted to be comprehensive with him that he is always busy, either work or family, like he said.

On April, I wanted to have a video call, he promised me one the same day at night, but he never shown up, and a month later, he sent me messages greeting me as if nothing happened, that made me angry. I was going to not answering his messages, but then I wanted to be clear with him that our friendship was not going to work because his last action made me feel neglected, we quarreled to the point where he said angrily that then we cannot be even friends, and I agree. Later on, he retracted by putting the decision on me, acknowledging that yes, he has neglected me while I tried to keep communication and nurtured our friendship, and that he was going to understand if I rejected him even for a friendship. I told him that not even friendship because I fear that it will become a toxic one due to what happened and that we won't see each other again due to his work and family issues. He accepted saying that he didn't know that the long distance was going to affect me. That he really wanted to be just friends, but he was going to respect my wishes if the current dynamic is just going to affect me.

At that moment, I felt I did the right thing, but now I feel regrets on not accepting friendship. My worries are that if I accept, he is just going to neglect me again and even worse, like every friendship I accepted in the past and faded away.

What do you think?

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I gave my apologies and he answered me that it was ok. However, the way he wrote it made me feel worse, I felt it passive aggressive and that he wanted to put the whole blame on me even though he had also made the mistake of neglecting me.
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In the end, we made amends, although I feel that there were some things unresolved and needed to be told. This experience left me feel bad with myself, that I am the worst. I am not going to open old wounds, and I am going to keep my feelings, emotions and vulnerability locked with him. At least if there is one good thing, is that I will work on not giving him too much importance, because everytime I give importance to someone or something, I feel I ruin everything.
Did I do the right thing or should I eat the humble pie?
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