How do I deal with a psychotic hoarder?

[Anonymous]

My mom consumes everything she fucking touch’s and I’m starting to hate her for it. she’s a hoarder and it’s bad. She has one property that she was supposed to build a cabin on with her ex boyfriend but things didn’t workout. They planed it fucking horribly and now it’s filled with run down RVs. Scrap metal and a shed that got turned into just a room. She also owns a house that has a bunch of junk in it that she hasn’t gotten rid of yet. I currently rent that house with a few buddies because it’s really cheap. There’s a crawl space that has a bunch of useless things it it that needs to get tossed. And there’s a rundown trailer in it with a bunch of junk that I “can’t touch” because whatever her psychotic issues are. And the skeleton of a above ground pool. And she filled my dads house with all her shit (they got back together a few years ago). It makes me so fucking sad looking at this house because it used to be such a nice house. The basement Is filled with her beading stuff because she was going to start her own business doing beading crafts. She hasn’t done a single thing with it. She also filled the entire house with all her mom’s furniture and stuff. And now she’s becoming a herbalist nut. Which wouldn’t be a bad thing if it was organized. But it ain’t. There’s fucking just chit everywhere and I honestly want to cry thinking about it. You can’t spend time comfortably in anywhere because there’s dirt everywhere from her planting stuff inside. She doesn’t want the yard mowed because of the weeds and the benefits of harvesting or some fucking bull shit. I used to love coming up here to vist but now it’s just fucking disgusting. I wish my dad got the backbone to tell her to change it or get out.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like my aunt!! This used to be grandma's house and everything was very nice and well kept while she was living here. In the basement, she did her catering on one half and on the other half, she'd make her Christmas and Easter candy every year. The rest of the time, the candy side was a family room where we could play games, listen to records (my other aunt and the girl next door taught me every dance that was popular in the `60's down there) and we'd use the entire basement for family get togethers and parties. On the catering side there were 2 or 3 tables strung together so 15 or 20 people could sit at one table for those big holiday meals.
The garage was big enough to fit a car and still have room to walk around next to the car. In the winter, it was used as a kind of second fridge.
Then, grandma died in 1999 and left the house to my aunt. She brought all the junk from her house here and began to load up the place with ALL KINDS of absurd shit!! She's also one of these people that will hear about some fab new product on t. v. and rush right out to get it, use it once or twice and never touch it again!!
After just 5 or 10 years of her living here, the basement was LOADED with all this shit to the point where, to this day, you STILL can't do ANYTHING but wash clothes down there (and I'm forced to use the stove to cook on) because the entire thing is stacked 6' high will all this shit probably nobody will ever use!! All those spiffy new products she bought are in a series of flat boxes under the tables down there and there's clothes stacked 2' high ON the tables!! And then the garage became her storage unit for the most absurd shit!! IT was stacked over 6' high from front to back and there was barely enough room to open the door into it from the kitchen!!
5 years ago, we needed to cut the grass, it was knee high but, the lawnmower was literally buried under all that shit in the garage!! The summer after she died, the next door neighbors pitched a bitch about the grass and I had to go to court over it!! Because of the grass, the cops discovered that the car, sitting in the driveway, needed an updated inspection sticker and, without one, for SOME reason, we weren't allowed to keep it in the driveway!! Even though no one's used it since she died nearly 5 years ago!! So, I was forced to clean out the garage to put the car in!! All that shit in the garage filled up the back basement, part of the front basement, the living room, the new dining room and part of her bedroom!! In the garage, I found THREE lawn mowers!! But, of course, NONE of them worked!! So, I had to go buy a new one to cut the grass or be fined $1000.
There's 5 walk-in closets up here LOADED with clothes that either haven't been worn in decades because their owners have long since died or they are clothes that she bought brand new and never gave to anyone to wear! She'll buy ANYTHING that's on sale, whether she needs it or not because, A: IT'S ON SALE!! So, she's saving loads of money on this!! And, 2: SOMEBODY she knows might need it, some day!! This is where she got most of her b-day and Christmas presents, which nobody ever used, anyway!
So, now, there's a path from the front door to the kitchen with a branching path to the dining room and a path at the bottom of the cellar steps over to the back cellar, which is so full, you can't fit more than 2 people into it. It used to be the same size as the garage! That's where the Christmas tree was kept but, because you can't access the back cellar, anymore, I've been forced to keep the tree up for nearly 5 years, now!!

[CuriousHubby]

There are issues beyond the stuff! She has mental issues and it comes out with hording!

Her ex boyfriend sure there are some big issues here. Instead of facing issues she keeps stuff.

This is one where you get her friends and family to help her! Or just a court order that your her caretaker cause she can't.

Good luck often they only get worse till they die

[DryGermanGuy]

At least clean out the rubbish she stored in your place. And keep up the pressure on your father.

[Kayla45]

Clean out her house one day while she’s away.