My friends father is or was having an affair for years why can't she say something?

[Anonymous]

My friend her father has been cheating on her mother a few years. She never talks about it but I know she is very mad. She was in therapy for awhile but didn't say why.

She didn't go to prom and refused yearbook pics saying it's because she's mad her father moved her to another state 4 years ago.

I asked how come Noone says anything to her father including her. She says it's complicated. She said she thinks he's not with the other lady anymore. Thinks

Why would she not go crazy and say something to her father? Oh she's 18 in college. Her mother is a housewife and older I think like 50.

[Anonymous]

It’s better not to get involved, that’s basically what she’s saying. I mean what good would it do? Her mom would likely not leave him because she’s been a codependent homemaker for 18+ years plus I’m sure she loves him.

[Asker]

If my father is cheating and hurting my mother and us I'm saying something. Plus I'd be mad at my mother tolerating it. Her father isn't even home 3 or 4 days a week

[Opinion Owner]

The only time I’d get involved is if a physical altercation happened, my mother was afraid for her life, or both. Otherwise what purpose does it serve? Of course you could feel hurt for your mom that he’s cheating, but that’s an issue between them within their union. I would actually be more hurt and pissed knowing my mom would still stay after, making the whole idea of calling out my father pointless.

[Asker]

Well that's true but I guess mom diesnt care my friend is really mad

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t wanna say she doesn’t care — she probably does. But she could be serious about her vows and it’s really until death do them part. If she’s an older woman too she’s probably comfortable and doesn’t wanna rejoin the workforce. So many women would secretly take that route, putting up with cheating and lord knows what else so long as it keeps them taken care of.

[MasterKS]

She understand its her fathers private life, she have nothing to do with it!

[Asker]

Well of I'mad at my father hurting us abd my mother I'm saying something. Probably her mother told her to stay quiet

[MasterKS]

@asker she played smart!

[Asker]

No my friend is always mad and I'm sick of it been going on for years. How is that smart when you're in pain.

[MasterKS]

@asker she stay away from it and played smart!

[Asker]

Maybe when she moves out she will blast him.

[MasterKS]

@asker i bet she won't because she know these affairs are normal and happens!

[noohair]

You don't know the facts so don't judge.

[Asker]

I'm not judging. I do know my friend hates her father now and her father is cheating with some woman for like 5 years that's the facts I know