What is your opinion on kids who are raised by none nuclear family parents?

[Kelly6]

[Nikki1989]

It doesn't matter if a child is raised by nuclear family parents (a mother and father), single parents, adoptive parents, foster parents, grandparents or other relatives. The most important thing is that the child feels loved, cared for, and has a sense of belonging.

[electromagnetic]

To each their own. I’m my culture you’re raised by anyone in the house. That’ll include grandparents, aunts, uncles.

[BoopBoopBeep]

They're less likely to develop super powers if they aren't exposed to nuclear radiation early.

[WindAtMyBack]

Social issues are never simple, no matter how much we want them to be.

My gut feeling is that kids are better off being raised in a two parent traditional household. That just makes total sense, and it would be hard to argue against that.

I admit my bias, having grown up in a traditional household, and everyone around me did the same. I did not know ANY kids from a single parent household as I grew up. I didn't know a kid with divorced parents until I was in the 6th grade. When I heard about it, I thought it was the saddest thing.

But what do the numbers say? In the US, there is fairly good evidence that kids from single parent households do not do as well. Not all studies agree, but it does lean pretty clearly in that direction.

What is not clear is cause and effect. Is being a single parent the cause? If it's the cause the evidence strongly indicates that it is not the only cause, and maybe not even the largest cause.

A significant percentage of single mothers are in lower income households. And the "baby daddy" is likely to be in even worse shape financially. If you compare that to more highly educated and higher income singe mothers, there is a measurable difference between how the kids turn out.

If you compare single mothers in the US, with single mothers in some places in Europe, or in Japan, there is also a measurable difference.

If there is a strong cause and effect, you should not see a large variance in the above situations, but you do. Other factors are at play, and they are significant.

I think it's safe to assume that a single parent household is not as good as a two-parent household. But if people oversimplify it, that neglects whatever other factors are involved. Like why are they a single parent in the first place? What happened to the father and why?

Almost half of the kids in the US today are raised by single parents for at least some of their life - the highest in the world. Why?

[BullShark]

I was raised in a non-nuclear family, and from what I can tell about myself, and what others may say about me, I turned out pretty normal. Maybe even better than a lot of the spoiled brats you may otherwise see raised in nuclear families.

Just because a child isn't raised in a nuclear family, doesn't always mean they'll turn out bad. All that a child needs to grow up mentally stable, healthy and well-mannered is a good parental figure they can look up to, have their basic needs met, being taught the intricate details of right and wrong and why they are that way, and having a strict but firm (not abusive and resentful) upbringing by said parental figure.

Little children are like clay; you can mould them into whatever shape you like and they'll stay that way and take form. Yes, they will always feel the need to have both a motherly and fatherly figure, and that's the hard part, but not necessarily for the child but the parental figure raising them in question and how they tackle this challenge

[Altheavas]

No opinion, either parents who has custody of the children need to find suitable partner who can be a great example to them; or stay single until they are of adult age and you won’t have to expose them to a non loving partner.
Raising your children alone can be fun, as long you don’t consider being a parent is a chore.

[Caroline91]

I'm not really sure I understand the question. Do you mean "What is your opinion on kids BEING raised by non nuclear family parents?" or do you mean the opinion of the children themselves?

[Kelly6]

Opinion on raised by non nuclear family
@Caroline91

[Caroline91]

I think a two parent family in which the relationship between the parents is functional is best for children. But I also think the nuclear family structure puts way too much pressure on both the parents as individuals and the entire family unit. I think a family with strong extended family ties is best, including grandparents, aunties, uncles and cousins. In my family, I was brought up with numerous 3rd cousins who didn't know we weren't 1st cousins. We were just cousins. It stated with our grandparents generation where all of the 1st cousins were more like siblings, then second cousins similarly, now the 3rd generation of cousins a very close. I think that is pretty unusual. As an adult, I am still close to a number of those cousins and we're far enough removed both legally and genetically that we could marry each other. But none of us would.

[NathanDavis]

not one in particular...

all of my life, I've met people from all types regarding this matter... some good, some bad, some great, some awful...

so I would not make a generalization to single out one thing and directly relate that one just one factor alone

[worldscolide]

It depends on the situation. In the US, single mother homes almost always places the child at a disadvantage. But two parent homes always do better.

[OlderAndWiser]

Agreed.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Cool 👍 no strong opinion unless it's a bad (or extra good) situation.

[DJB72]

It's not the child's fault they grow up to be broken adults. We need both parents. A man and a woman who were those specific chromosomal individuals from conception.

[DrPepper12]

Well there go the adopted, step kids & foster kids.

You don't need to live your life in fear marinating in manipulated outrage. Let go!

[MicahRaine]

More power to them if they grow up into good people.

[goaded]

They're kids. Their parent or parents can be good or bad, really whether they're a traditional couple or not makes very little difference.

[OlderAndWiser]

I feel sorry for the kids. One thing I know for sure. . . it's not THEIR fault.

[DrPepper12]

Why?

[OlderAndWiser]

@DrPepper12 Feel sorry for the kids because kids usually don't do as well when raised in a single parent home. They often are used as pawns in an ongoing war between their parents. There are usually fewer resources to provide for children in single parent homes.

[AviatorTom]

Those kids have lost out on some valuable and useful experience and learning growing up.

[DrPepper12]

Could be anyone. Doesn't need to be heteronormative.

[Friendlybro79]

I can't give an opinion on kids or parents I don't know. Hopefully they're good kids and good parents.

[AmeerX]

They are great :). More people means more experience and care.

[MK1997]

Nothing, just as if they had nuclear family parents

[elaphe]

I think that it is not ideal. but everyone's situation is different.

[noohair]

Better than forster care.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It's all how the child is raised

[MrGSpotHer]

Non radiated

[CubaPirate]

Damaged