To go or not to go?

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I have always been the black sheep to everyone but my grandmother, even tho she is not my real grandmother, she is the only one i had. She has always made sure everyone included me in everything, even tho we didn't always get along.

She passed away last week and her funeral is Friday. My children and myself were not counted and were left out of the obituary. Should we waste our time going? Or should we honor her another way.

Thought about crashing her funeral, I'm super pissed. She knew I loved her and she knew I'm not one to hold my tongue.

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Updating bc miss anonymous thinks I'm icy cold.
My grandmother and I had a good relationship. Can't say the same for the rest. I would call and visit. I visited her multiple times in the week before she passed. I loved my grandmother dearly, but the rest can choke

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Man that really sucks how they left you and your kids outta the obituary and stuff. I know how much your grandma meant to you. But crashing the funeral probably ain't the best idea - it'll just cause more drama with the rest of them.

Here's what I'd do - have your own little memorial for her. Make some of her favorite foods, play music you know she liked, share your favorite memories of her. Light a candle, say something kind about her. That way you get to honor her with love and focus on the good memories, not have to deal with their BS.

Then on the day of the funeral, do something special with your kids to remember her too. Take flowers to where she's buried later maybe, or go out for ice cream to celebrate the life she brought to you. F the rest who didn't care - you and your kids know the truth of how she was family to you.

Let them have their drama - you put your energy into remembering her with peace. Pretty sure that's what she woulda wanted anyway, instead of fighting on her day. You got this! Keep your head high.

DryGermanGuy · Accepted Answer

Go and show your respects. Let them be uncomfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

There is always a black sheep in the family but you can't hold it against her she didn't plan her funeral already her obituary somebody else did. So somebody else did not include you it wasn't your grandmother's fault. Don't crash the funeral it will only make things worse