How to deal with a very controlling friend?

[Anonymous]

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It’s this girl in our friend group who’s married but apparently unhappy. She tells us that she regrets getting married but she still staying married. Plus living in the house with him. She tells us all the time how much she dislikes him. We are tired of her disrespecting people and attaching herself to people because of what they can do for her. It’s this girl in our friend group whose she treats horribly. She been friends with another group of girls 10 plus years. It wasn’t until her husband took a job offer he always wanted that brought all this to the light. She no longer control but she thinks she has this entitlement to treat people like crap and still connect with them. both of her parents passed away and she keep using her parents death as a way to wheel people back in to her sorrow path. People who have the best interest for her get treated like crap. It’s like whoever she can talk crap about perfectly fine with her. as long as she has people on her side for 10 plus years, she sees it as a form of control. She do crap to people then tell others that’s the wrong way to treat someone. Yet she does it over and over again. It’s like she wants everybody how she wants everybody to be. Wants everyone to be on her side and don’t want anyone else to come in.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a really tough situation with your friend. It sounds like she's going through a rough time after losing her parents, but that doesn't excuse the way she's treating people. It's messed up that she's using her parents' deaths to try and control everyone and get sympathy.

It's understandable why the rest of your friend group is getting fed up with her behavior. No one wants to be around someone who's constantly disrespecting them and trying to manipulate them. That's just not cool.

I can see why she might be clinging to the people she's closest to, even if it's in an unhealthy way. Losing her parents must have been really hard and she's probably scared of losing more people. But that doesn't make it okay for her to treat you all like crap.

The best thing to do might be to try and have an honest conversation with her, but do it in a caring way. Let her know that you're there for her, but that the way she's been acting is really hurtful. See if you can get her to open up about what's really going on, instead of just venting all the time.

Setting some boundaries with her might be a good idea too. Make it clear that you care about her, but that you won't put up with the disrespect and the attempts to control everyone. Hopefully, that will help her realize that she needs to change her behavior if she wants to keep her friends.

I know it's a tough situation, but try to be patient and see if you can help her work through this in a constructive way. Good luck, luv! Let me know if you need any other advice.

[Danny_dan92]

Tell them to stop.




If they don’t stop?


Goodbye friend

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Tell her to leave you the hell alone or just stop being her friend.