Are you usually a forgiving person?

[Anonymous]

Is it easy for you to forgive someone who did you wrong, if they apologize?

Or even if they don't, are you a forgiving person?

Yes, it's easy for me to forgive it they apologize

It's not easy, but I can eventually forgive if they apologize

I can forgive & forget even if they don't apologize, everyone can make a mistake, I don't hold a grudge

It takes me a long time, but eventually, I forgive (I don't forget)

Depends on the person, sometimes I can forgive easily, sometimes it takes more time

I can't forgive cause I'm a bad person, and I hold a grudge

Depends on my current mood, sometimes I forgive quickly, sometimes it takes more time

[molonski2]

None of those answers really , I can forgive quite easily thats not a problem , but really I dont believe in forgetting , I just retain that thought , so the question bears have I trully forgivin then? I believe I have.

An extreme example a great forgiveness in the utter extreme , this girl I went to school with primary and secondary 12 years , very quiet , very studious , from Malaysia but now in Australia ( very unusual then ) , always said from year 3 " She was going to be a nurse " , very conservative upbringing , maybe religious , would not step on an ant this girl , wonderful person , got right though school , and just as she said " became a nurse " purchased a house , to my knowledge had never had a boyfriend , but maybe she had 1or 2 who knows , very close family , mother and sister , I only read the entire story years later , joined his group , met this guy ( he was separated with 3 children , paying child support ) , he didn't want more children , she fell pregnant ( she would consider abortion to be a sin ) , she was to have the child on her own , and she would have been a great mother , she conveyed her pregnancy to this man mother ( a big mistake as it turned out ) , this guy went ballistic for some reason , he came over with a knife , stabbed her to death , killed his own unborn child , he is now out of jail by the by..

This girls mother , made a public statement about the incident , and how much she will miss her daughter , and the chance to be a grandmother , and went on to say that she forgave the killer , despite his actions , that she did not wish to carry that burden in her heart " -- Now , that is forgiveness. Could I do that? I certainly doubt it.

Thats forgiving.

[RingOfFire]

Sometimes over the years I amazed myself at how forgiven I could be. I could be arguing with someone and before the argument was even over and we're still going at it, they haven't forgiven me but I've forgiven them.

And the older I get, the more understanding I am of other peoples' behavior, even behavior that is antagonistic or unfair towards me. It's as if I've experienced all of those feelings myself by this time in my life so I can understand when other people have them even if they are acting terribly towards me.

I'm not the only person who develops this understanding. I remember being younger and observing that some people in older generations of my family and their friends seemed to react the same way towards me.

Forgiveness is really a beautiful thing. It's been said that forgiving someone is not for their benefit but yours because holding that kind of anger towards someone inside hurts you more than it hurts them.

But I've come to believe that it helps both and can really be a life-changing and relationship changing act.

[Chevy1_kb]

To forgiving the. I don't get I back in Return. I've always been told I'm just to kind which I agree with. somerimes I just can't be mean but Yiu know I'm sick of people to nice to people who don't give it in Return I feel like I'm being used only when they need me it feels upsetting

[Abbycado]

Depends on what is being asked to be forgiven. I would say mostly, yes I am.

[Abbycado]

Ty you for mho! 💕

[Asker]

You're welcome 💞

[Vesuvius87]

Those options on the poll don't exactly apply to me. You can actually forgive for your own mental and physical wellbeing. Though forgiving doesn't mean having the person back in your life. It simply means letting go out the anger and no longer giving them the power over you.

If you're asking if I would forgive and reconcile with them (as in having them back in my life and be best friends with them), then that's unlikely to happen. If they went out of their way to cause stress in my life such as they were a former school bully, they cheated, they scammed me well nope it's unwise to be in contact with toxic people. You don't want to end up getting hurt again down the road. If I were to ever bump into someone that caused great distress in the past, I would simply not even acknowledge their existence.

[smashleyy]

Haven’t mastered it to the degree I would like😹. forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, holding onto resentment just harms yourself. But I also believe forgiving someone doesn’t equal welcome back into my life.

[Beckybooboo]

With people I care about and have known for a while, yes, I can forgive most things, they've stood the test of time but with people I'm just starting to develop a friendship with, I find it hard. I'll still be nice to them but will always feel I can't trust them.

[Phoenix98]

It depends I'm not nearly as forgiving as I used to be. But whether I forgive someone depends on what they did and whether or not they are genuinely sorry.

[AviatorTom]

I make mistakes, and so do others. I usually forgive someone's actions, whether they apologize or not.

[AnonAndrew]

Yes, I am. I pretty much never hold a grudge. :)

[Caroline91]

I so do forgive easily. Then, I don't dwell on it, but I don't forget.

[Anonymous]

It's very easy for me to forgive provided what they did was a forgivable offense and they show LEGITIMATE remorse.

I don't want any ill feelings with anyone. But I'm no fool. Be real or be gone.

[genericname85]

you should always forgive but never forget. i personally have foriven pretty much anyone but the school bullies back at school. and even tho i know it's wrong, i will make that exception for them.

[Asker]

I know how you feel :(

[exitseven]

I can forgive people but they have to apologize

[avery58]

Hate to say it but usually yes... Even though maybe I shouldn't be. But when I care for someone, I am and the reason that can be bad is because I tolerate a lot of toxic bullshit sometimes.

[NicholasRedone]

Yes because life is long.
It is long.
Life is not short. 😆😉 They'll say it's short, but they're the foolish ones

[strateguy632]

With all those memes, i will plan to apologize after i do bad stuff.

Forgiving is only with god not with people.

[Asker]

If you're religious, you should think about not doing bad stuff any more... and you should definitely apologize for the bad things you've already done, apology and forgiveness are good for your soul 😇

[electromagnetic]

With certain people, yes. Like siblings or partner. But everyone else, I’m not forgiving at all. Taking it to the grave.

[Lilbit84]

A little to much to the point I get run over re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[dustybiker2]

No. To hurt people who would not hurt you is unforgivable to start to begin with.

[Asker]

What if they didn't think at the moment? What if they regret it?

[dustybiker2]

Live and learn. It's not about excuses or forgiveness. Being forgiven does not right the wrong. It still exists regardless.

[Asker]

I know, but still, maybe they can do something to right the wrong.

[dustybiker2]

The wrong is not theirs to fix... the guilt is the guilty parties to bear.
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[Asker]

Who can fix it then, if not them? You don't have to bear anything if it's fixed, isn't that a better solution?

[LiamJHayden]

Even if no apology comes. Like is too short to hold grudges over minor annoyances.

[foxsquirrell]

Not at all! If someone does not want me to have a grudge against him or her, then he or her should not do me any wrong in the first place, not do wrong me and expect forgiveness.

[Asker]

Maybe they weren't thinking at the time, you should give them a chance, everyone can make a mistake.

[foxsquirrell]

It depends on the case. I usually don't consider it a mistake though. It often shows who the person is and how friend or foe he is with respect to you. It usually signals what you can expect from the person in question in the future, and that it is not a one off occurrence. I actually did give chances in the past thinking along your line of thought, only to regret it later. So no, although they might nor get revenge because I fear that I get in trouble, they will surely not get forgiveness from me.

[Asker]

I understand your point, maybe they also regret what they did to you.
Sometimes emotions make them react in a bad way, to do things they normally wouldn't do.

[foxsquirrell]

Maybe they regret to. But what made them react in that way will most probably not go away, and they will repeat the cycle. Got it?

[Asker]

I get it, still, some of them might not succumb to what made them react that way.
People can evolve, both mentally and emotionally.

[foxsquirrell]

That is up to you if you want to take that chance with people who have wronged you.

[Valdemort]

I forgive to a fault. Sometimes I wish I didn't tbh

[KrakenAttackin]

I can forgive someone who genuinely apologizes and doesn't repeat the incident.

[Staximus]

There are unforgivable offenses and I will never forgive those

[Staximus]

And that doesn't make me a bad person, it means I'm not a bitch boy

[Crazzyyworld]

I forgive everyone by being themselves like prostitues, drug dealer, pimp, fucker sucker whatever

[LadyBecks]

I am a very forgiving person, probably to a fault

[Apple1996]

I'm overly forgiving lol

[sirderpsalot123]

For the most part, yes.

[Connie88]

For The Most the Part.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Depends on the transgression.

[whereismyjohnny]

Yes..

[elTAHAwy]

Yes and people have made sad to do so

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

To a fucking fault

[Dongie]

The 1st one.
I'm a push over.

[blackeagle007]

Too forgiving is my problem

[TonyMetal___86]

Option b

[Awomanof]

I hold grudges

[Agape93]

Fuck no.