Are you forgiving to yourself?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

We all make mistakes. And I don’t mean forgiving yourself for hurting others, I mean forgiving yourself for hurting yourself.

Doesn’t matter what’s your mistake.

Maybe your mistake somehow lead you to a very embarrassing situation, maybe it lead you to being hurt, maybe it lead you to losing something you badly wanted, losing a job opportunity, breaking up, can be just about anything.

Do you tell yourself that “It’s okay! I am only a human. I do make mistakes, I am as flawed as everyone else, next time, I’ll know better. I forgive you for not being perfect and I don’t want you to beat yourself up for something you can no longer change. Don’t be so hard to yourself.”

Don’t you think it’s important to treat yourself with the same understanding and compassion as you’d treat someone you love?

And if you do, doesn’t it help you to be more compassionate and forgiving to others too?

[AmandaYVR]

What a beautiful sentiment you wrote here, Femme. 💐

I feel almost as if I cannot answer this for myself. I can answer what others have said, many others, and that is, "Amanda, you are your own worst critic. You are too hard on yourself." But I don't really agree, or believe, I guess. ? I don't know. That's all I can say...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Dear Amanda, I hope sometimes you can relax and allow yourself to make mistakes and be proud of yourself regardless.

[AmandaYVR]

Thank you, that was very kind of you.

[midnightmoon05]

Yes. I don’t beat myself up with the past (it was hard for one year…during the time of my divorce…slowly I adjust with new purpose). I just learned then move on to do better. That’s the same with the outlook of life. How I treat others, myself and my decisions.
I teach my daughter the same…it’s okay to stay sad for a little…just don’t stay there too long. Pick yourself up… March forward. Better day tomorrow!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

💖💖💖 That’s a wonderful and a wise outlook of life.

[Sonorous]

It doesn't feel like I have to. I don't really struggle with regret like others do. I tend to be mostly emotionally detached from my past negative thoughts, behaviors, words, and actions. Because that was a different person. But if I ever find that my actions in the past make me cringe, feel embarrassed, or ashamed, I simply aim towards a route I prefer to take. One that doesn't give me those feelings.

[Meropatrick]

I dont deserve any forgivness. I did hurt myself a lot. I saw how people treated me badly and i became bad towards myself too. Like really who is left to care for me if i didn't care for myself. I was treating my self like a soldier very tough no mercy. No give me a break moment

[Sparkie460]

I'm hard on myself when I screw up. I don't take being a failure lightly. I really get angry at myself if I do something stupid.
I am easier on other people when they screw up. I'm more compassionate to them

[Simslover92]

Nope. It's hard for me to forgive myself. It's definitely something I have been working on though.

[PointTaken]

Nope. We are our own worst critics and punish ourselves more than anyone. It's hard to forgive myself.

[molonski2]

I forgive myself for everything , and I do it really quickly , I dont harbor or dwell with regret as its pointless , wasted energy , I channel my energies into the positive.

[collie22]

When I mess and ask for forgiveness and I know I'm forgiven then I work on letting it go.😊

[Christoff92]

Yes. I am. Learn not to let my ego overtake me and move on realistically 😏

[comekitty]

I am very compassionate and understanding towards others' mistakes. ♥️

I dont give myself the same latitude.

[justabuddy]

You have to. Otherwise your mistake becomes an anchor that holds you back. It's not always easy, but you gotta do it.

[Sanser]

I think that we never forgive ourselves, we just continue our lifes until that thing is insignificant for us or dont have the importance it used to have...

[AngryCarl2]

I'm my own worst critic. It's not a matter of forgiveness, it's all about improvement.

[msc545]

No, not really.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Isn’t it hard?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

*dofficult

[msc545]

yes it is.

[LavLavLuv]

Trying and learning……….

[EaterPeter]

Kind of

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!