Which of these regrets is worse?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The regret of having and raising children you didn’t want

The regret of never having children when you wanted them

[Shiprex]

Having kids then regretting it is a true regret as it's an act done that can't be undone. Not having kids though is (for a man at least) something that doesn't really happen since the swimmers may decrease but never stop. For women it's a potential issue though

[Shiprex]

@cupcakethedestroyer
Thanks for SO!

[Lokiion]

Surprised to see 62% said "The regret of never having children when you wanted them"

I personally picked "The regret of having and raising children you didn’t want" due to it being unfair for the child mainly because why would I want to help bring life to a kid that isn't wanted? If he's not wanted, he won't be treated right, and it's just selfish on the parents' part. It's more likely for kids not loved by their parents also to turn out to be terrible people or mentally ill because of trauma. I mean, at least if you regret not having children, you can always adopt or foster with the other choice, it's forcing you to raise the kid.

[I_am_a_human]

I am also surprised that the majority chose the second option. I also chose the first option.

[chocolatetwopointo]

if you have kids, who u regret having that child could be in danger. statistics show that unwanted children r neglected and usually abused. thats why id rather regret not having kids than having them too

[petitedollbabee]

Having & raising kids you didn’t want. Because that not only affects you, but damages those kids too. They will grow up unloved and unwanted. All kids deserve to be loved and wanted by their parents.

[Nikki1989]

I had the second regret, but I got over it.

[WhitneySnow]

Both are really bad but the good news is you probably won’t have both

[butterly248]

Definitely have a kid u don't want. Also it's never to late. You can apdot, sugercey etc.

[DonaldDarko]

It would depend on the individual and how that person thinks.

[DrPepper12]

IMHO regrets are for things you haven't done. Everything else is simply a learning opportunity.

[WonderingManII]

The regret of having and raising children you didn’t want.

[nawtee_me]

After 18 years you can send the kids off but never having them and seeing other peoples kids for a lifetime would hurt a lot….

[chocolatetwopointo]

parenthood doesn't stop at 18, if u think that ur an awful parent

[nawtee_me]

I agree with you that parenthood is a lifetime of work. However the question was which regret was worse. Having kids you don’t want! Which if you don’t wznt you can kick out of the house when they turn 18. Or, not having kids that you did want. Which for me would be a lot worse of a regret….

[chocolatetwopointo]

sure but they’ll never wanna contact u which can be depressing after abusing and neglecting them for 18 years.

[Godihateyou]

Nobody has ever killed themselves after raising kids they didn't want

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’m not following that logic

[Godihateyou]

I'm not surprised. Women have very little grasp of logic

[wynning]

@Godihateyou Yes they have, and they would if those kids are hellspawn. I'd know!

[wynning]

@CupcakeTheDestroyer No logic to follow here just a lack of insight

[Godihateyou]

You are alone and unloved for very obvious reasons. We dont have to work about you murdering babies