How come most autistic people doesn’t see the things we see?

[Anonymous]

I’m not trying to offend or criticize them but what’s they’re deal?

I have a cousin who is 16 years old. She is autistic, very intelligent, does well in school and can greet you, BUT she is very clueless. To put it bluntly, she’s very naive, and she really sucks at social cues setting most people off. She hates when people treat her differently but what did she expect? She’s autistic and she’s special needs. Also she believes that everyone loves her and will be sweet and nice to her because she’s “special”. She expects people to be kind and nice, but she isn’t always nice herself. I’ve seen her nasty attitude but she’s a teenager. All teens go though it. Anyways she’s going to a public high school next year and my uncle (her dad) has been warning her about how public school isn’t like the private school she has been attending and not everyone is going to be friendly or like her. She knows that not everyone will like her but she refuses to believe it.
Even my brother and I (her cousins) even tried to tell her that public school isn’t all bad but just be aware of snakes and bullies. She better listen to her dad because he’s telling facts. It’s so frustrating that she doesn’t listen!! She has this mindset that the world will be a loving place and people will accommodate her and treat her so nice. Um NO they won’t! And we’ve told her! Plus she’s a spoiled brat. Sometimes my uncle doesn’t really punish her and plus she throws horrific temper tantrum and she’s a big girl. I mean BIG. Like I think she’s 6ft and heavy set. Her dad doesn’t let her push her around and yells at her to knock it off. She thinks everyone is her friend and doesn’t see the red flags. She knows right from wrong so she won’t do everything they say. I can see why her dad doesn’t let her go places by herself. How can I get my cousin to wake up and face reality?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Answers here: Autism

It's a complicated condition to diagnose, some people are self-labeling, I don't know if it's her case. And I don't know if what you describe of her behavior is really related to autism of it's personality based, or upbringing based. She's very young, 16, it's a complicated age, there are many things to learn. As you had to learn as well, when you were 16.

"How can I get my cousin to wake up and face reality?"

The best course of action I can think of, autism or not, is to talk to her. Get to know her more, who she is, how she looks at life. The rest, it is the job of her parents, not your responsibility.

[MangakaJ96]

Autistic guy here.

An autistic person’s brains are different, so we perceive things differently from neurotypical folks such as yourself. While autism helps us excel in certain activities because of special interests and hyper focus, we can’t read social cues as easily as other folks can (part of the reason why your cousin can be easily manipulated by others).. Oh and we can be unintentionally rude sometimes because of said social cue issues.

About the temper tantrums, those are meltdowns which are common with autistic folks, no matter what age (and it’s something we can’t easily control once it happens).

“What does she expect? She’s autistic and she’s special needs”? Just because autism is a disability doesn’t mean that we don’t wish to be treated like a normal person.

Anyway, hope that you gain a better understanding about autistic folks.

[Anonymous]

Just be honest you came here to talk sh*t on an autistic person and that’s all. If you really had questions you would’ve taken like an hour out of your day to use google, add some ridges to your smooth brain and actually go educate yourself. You’ve got all the knowledge you need at your fingertips yet here you are being a grown ass bully. Pretty pathetic.

[Asker]

No I’m not!! I’m just curious! I’m just worried for her because she won’t be about to function in the real world by herself. Plus I don’t understand why people always shelter autistic people and baby them. They can’t be sheltered from the real world and she has that mindset that everyone will over her.

[Opinion Owner]

She’s literally 16, not 26, the real world of an adult is not her priority. If you don’t understand autism — go educate yourself. If you’re curious, go educate yourself on what is happening that you don’t understand. Don’t sit there as a grown woman talking smack and judging a child for a condition she didn’t ask for and probably doesn’t even know how to handle yet. You are nearly 30 try having some compassion and understanding. You are grossly lacking it and just make yourself look like a big old bully.

[shortster]

Sometimes people just need a reality check. Growing up spoiled often leads people to a distorted view of the world.

[Asker]

Exactly, her dad spoiled her but he taught her values. Sometimes he just gives up and let’s her get away with it. He is hard on her and gets blunt when she’s throws temper tantrums. She’s been babies by others and spoiled just because she’s autistic. My brothers and I don’t baby her.

[Anonymous]

Being babied all their lives has done this

I'm autistic and wasn't babied so I'm a hard nosed bastard, had to be in business and that flowed everywhere else

[jahaims]

You don't know what autism is if you are asking this

[Anonymous]

I don't know, you might want to ask an mRNA "vaccine" developer/researcher that question. Maybe THEY would have some clues about autistic behavior

[RedInnocent69]

And that’s why we study neuro and psych in universities…

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, you need to get your shit together