Am I wrong for still disliking my younger brother for an incident that happened 5 years ago?

[Anonymous]

Years ago, because I was being inconsiderate (I was wrong) for accidently inturrupting my brother's job interview, my brother gor very angry. It started when he picked my leg up (but he didn't hurt me). When we were in the kitchen, he angrily tackled me and ended up breaking the microwave glass. He then attemptd to strangle me and I grabbed some glass and smashed it on his head for me to protect myself.

Even after he said that he wished that he controlled his anger and had remorse, I still have a grudge against him for it.

I noticed that this year, I stopped initiating phone calls and texts with my brother. I even refuse to respond to his messages on instagram, and I don't hang out with him often. I don't care if the incident was years ago or if he had remorse.

My mom thinks that just because he had remorse for his actions that I should just sweep what he did under the rug and I should forget about it. That was the third time that he had put his hands on me (when we were adults in my 20s) and that was the last straw.

I already had issues with multiple boys men putting their hands on me. My late father would physically discipline me as well (the ones that stand out the most is beating me when it came to doing homework and kicking me numerous times because I spent too much time on the computer is one example), along with numerous teenage boys putting their hands on me (without any physical provocation on my end) when I was a middle school girl (some of them got punished while some got away with it).

This has gotten me to believe that I was put on this planet to be abused by men.

[YourFutureEx]

Nah fuck that guy. He doesn't get a pass to do violence just because he's family. As a brother, he was supposed to be your best protector, but your safety was seriously threatened because of him.

The fact that you're allowing his existence in your life, you're doing more than enough for him as a sister. We can understand where your mother is coming from as she'd want an amicable relationship between her children as a mother and she's desperate for it. But you have to be practical about life.

Don't let your bad experiences influence the way you think about men. It's very unfortunate that a lot of men have been violent to you, but there are a lot of men that will be your shield and hopefully provide you all the love and care that you deserve.

Be safe and optimistic. There are better people on this planet and there will be better days ahead.