Have you ever asked your parents why they HAD you? Do you think they told you the truth?

[CherryLove007]

Parents that wanted a family I am talking about. Self- centered reasons? Mom loved to play with dolls when she was younger? A toy for their use? Control, Mini-ME, animated doll? I am sure it is reality for many peeps.

If not will you ask them sometime if they are still living?

[Calyptomaniac]

Never asked. I was conceived within a day of my dad's birthday... who knows if it was on purpose or not that exact time.. they had my brother a couple years later so I figure if I was a mistake they'd have corrected it before they made it again lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

• "Control, Mini-ME, animated doll? I am sure it is reality for many peeps."

Unarguably common 🤝

• "Have you ever asked your parents why they HAD you?"

I don't remember asking but I've been told my story, before birth, and I'm 100% sure this story is consistent. I come from a visceral need expressed by my mother.

Stressing _V I S C E R A L_ here lolol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Looking at the resulting comments of your question, it's a really really good one you asked there, thank you 💚

[CherryLove007]

Hey thanks! My parents thought that sharing this lifetime "with animated doll's" would be caring. lol Especially my mom and she since has said to me that she really wanted kids and that she didn't realize we didn't stay kids long enough hahahaha I don't believe my father wanted the "24/7" role. They split when I was 13.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I hear you, family is a never-ending source of inner thoughts, in art, on the internet and in therapist's offices

[MrChinaski]

Honestly, I don't want to know. My father died of cancer 18 months ago. He was the best man I ever knew in my life. My mother I have zero interest in.

[CherryLove007]

My sincere sympathy.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Wishing you resilience 💚

[MrChinaski]

Thank you both.

[Agape93]

They wanted a boy and couldn't abort me when they found out i wasn't.

[CherryLove007]

life is tricky like that

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Talking about a start 😬

[NathanDavis]

"oopsie, hahaha"

"but we do love you"

[CherryLove007]

Mom & Dad gave you the reality. :) :) oops

[NathanDavis]

yeah, lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

There's definitely a lot to like about you 😌

[InknKink]

My mother wanted me because she didn't get love from her parents and wanted something that was all her own and would give her the love she didn't find elsewhere in life.

[TonyMetal___86]

Never asked them, it's just a normal thing to get married and have kids, they were happy to have me and that's all...

[CherryLove007]

Do you have siblings?

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope, no brothers and no sisters miss cherry cherry lady

[MemeSupreme]

nope bc im better off not knowing

its either gonna hurt me or make me mad

[ArrowheadSW]

I don't think I ever thought to ask them. I think I just figured they planned on having 3 kids and they did.

[CherryLove007]

I am the 3rd.. mom wanted 4. but got 3 instead

[queenofcardio]

My mom has lots of siblings and she wanted a big family so here I am.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Are we talking big as in... CHRISTIAN HUGE 15 KIDS MY MAN, or something more chill, like 5 kids?

[sage2021]

Yes! My Dad told my mom to either get pregnant or go back to work.😞

[Anonymous]

No, i know why they had me. My parents had 2 girls, than a son (who died in infancy) then they had 2 more girls. Then they had me. I was born a month premature. Now they only wish i hadn't lived.(j/k) i'm not going to say i was a replacemnt son. But... yeah.

[bowenw]

I never asked. It was probably societal and family pressure.

[loveslongnails]

Of course, and they said they wanted a family.

[Chazmatazz269]

My mother baby-trapped my dad. He was the good, stable, kind older man that she settled down with after decades of throwing herself at bad boys.

[AMS700CX4u2]

My father wanted 2 Sons and he got two. Mom could not conceive until she got her teeth fixed.

[Mynameisbobby]

My mother was disappointed when I was born a boy, she wanted another girl. So I became a punching bag for my 5 year older sister.

[exitseven]

My parents had me and my twin brother later in life. I think we were a mistake.

[ilistengood]

No , but I was born in the 50s, id be happy to ask then but they are both gone now. Why do you ask?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I would ask this question if I wanted to look at all the different reasons explaining people's existence, and looking at the comments, it's a success !

[mrkdvsn]

My deceased parents often told me that I and my older sister were "planned", and my younger sister was "unplanned".

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope cause I know why

[eagle1951]

nope