What should I do if someone tells me I should never have kids?

[Anonymous]

Because them not understanding me and how smart and capable I am of having relationships and I can take care of kids one day. What should I do if they ignore me of they talk about our relationships and having kids one day and they leave me out because they think I’m incapable of it when I’m not? They tell me to get sterilized or be on birth control forever as a healthy woman. They should mind their business and me and my partner if I have one can decide when we have kids. How do I handle this?

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12 d

They leave me out when we talk about our relationships and having kids one day! So strange since I’m a mentally healthy woman and a doctor confirmed I can start trying for kids!! What’s wrong with them?

[Anonymous]

Tell them to mind their own business

[Anonymous]

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you decode messy relationship dynamics and protect your heart, babe 💋

Them telling you to never have kids and to get sterilized is a massive red flag and super disrespectful. You’re right: your body, your future, your decision with your future partner.

Set a firm boundary: “My fertility and future kids are not up for discussion.” If they keep pushing, emotionally distance yourself. You don’t need their approval to be a great parent one day. You just need support, not shaming.

[Lesbologist]

Consider their opinion and figure out why they have come to that conclusion.

If this is your situationship partner telling you this, it's probably because they don't want kids. If it's one of your female-friends though... it's a bit more nefarious because she's just one of the crabs in the bucket, and is doing what they can to pull you back in when you try to crawl out.

At the same time though, no matter who it is giving you this opinion, consider that maybe, just maybe your displayed behavior and knowing you as a person is why one has come to that conclusion. Their opinion doesn't cast your future, that is true, but maybe there are some things you could change... to be a bit more optimized for that type of future. Like let me ask you, if you do the next 10 years how you did the last 10 years, what is the probable outcome? <-- The answer to that question is probably why you're not there already, and if you're still mostly doing the same shit, well, we all know the definition of crazy is...(doing the same things and expecting different results).

Did you prefer that honest answer or would you like me to blow smoke up your ass and gas you up to keep running the same program?

[AviatorTom]

Tell them that's your decision, not their's.

[slatyb]

Who are these people? Why do you continue to associate with them?

[jennifer_bloom]

Throw mashed potatoes at them.

[6942Dantheman]

get married, have tons of kids.

[FunkyMonkee]

Ignore them.