My parents are constantly reminding me I'm going nowhere in life..

[Anonymous]

I am 20 years old, and really enjoying myself! I graduated 3 years ago. I've had a few jobs, I've always enjoyed being around animals and thought that was what I would base my career around. Right now I am doing Pet and House Sitting, and my parents call me a dog walker and roll their eyes at me. I've been taking a few courses, and decided I'm going to do Child and Youth Care Counselling. So now that I figured that out they started yelling at me last night how I don't have money to go to school and get a real job. I've been trying to find a better paying job, but it's hard esspecially with how the economy has been. Well today they compared me to my 40 year old uncle who has depression and no job.. It hurts to be so demeaned by my parents.. They don't understand that I just figured out what I want to do and that I am trying to get a job. I would move out but I need money for that as well. I just feel so isolated in my home, and I cannot express my opinion without being told to stop being so defensive. I'm so frustrated and I don't know how to react to their behaviour. Does anyone have some advise? Thanks!

[rockabilly-vixen]

Well, I had to go through this for a long time. Currently I'm still living with my mom, and I just think of one day I will find a good job and move out. If you want to move out, then go for it, but make sure that you can support yourself before you move out, for you could show to your parents that you can do something with you life. About school apply for financial aid, and try to look up for scholarships. And for finding a job, lol, I'm currently doing the same, I am trying to move out. But look at this everything happens for a resaon, and let your parents know that what they are doing is just pushing you away from them. And once you make it, let them know the way they are treating you will only make you not want to talk to them once you have your life. Just take it slow, first apply for school, try and find a job, try and do things for yourself. Everything will be ok, just keep your head up high, and be patient.

[SWTTASHA]

I know what your going through and I know they are your parents but sometimes you just have to forget what people say and just prove them wrong. Try as hard as you can to find a job and go to community school if you have to and follow your dreams, cause often when people put you down you start to believe what they say are true but at the end of the day its all up to you. You hold your destiny in your hand. If they won't support your decision, you do it on your own. just have faith in your self and I believe nothing happens before its suppose to. I know school is expensive with out help, but you can sign up for scholarship and you can also go to the financial aid department at your school and find out how you can file for financial aid as an independent...cause then you would get more money. Good luck sweetie and believe in your self no matter what.

[xxangel1990xx]

I'm in the same boat. I'm 18 and finished college a few months ago and I still don't have a job. I've not even started looking because I'm happy and I think that's all that matters. My mum and dad keep going on about how I'm going to end up working in a rubbish job all my life lol. It does annoy me but I'm learning to block them out-noone can live my life for me or tell me what to do because at the end of the day its my life and I'll decide how I live it. Explain to them your looking for a job (your one step further than me lol my parents would love it if I told them that) and if they still make comments ignore it. What more can they ask for? Atleast your trying. Good luck :)

[Atomizer]

You need to avoid your parents as much as possible. They're destructive.

Don't expect them to change. They've been behaving this way all their lives.

When they say things you dislike, say "Thanks for sharing your opinion" and change the subject. Don't try to defend yourself -- not because they're right, but because it's not worth the effort to talk with people who behave this way.

It's sad when you have to respond to family like this, but if it's a choice between keeping your sanity, sanity comes before family.

[Eamzy]

A lot of people think a job is just about the money you are being given. It is not. Some people thoroughly enjoy their jobs and some even volunteer and don't get paid a penny. You should have enough money to survive but apart from that it shouldn't be a necessity.

[lefthand]

They have a point. You are highly unlikely to succeed if you are not doing anything to get there. Go to college or join a trade union.

[katiegal]

Not all people should go to college,if she does not want,y should she???

[lefthand]

Because failing to do so, in the absence of a trade is pretty much assurance of doing nothing with her life. It sucks but I have seen too many people I grew up with wind up in their parent's basement simply because they didn't take the steps necessary to build a good life for themselves.