This girl is a triathlete in high school with a 4.6 GPA, and a beautiful talented person and ever since this breakup with my best friend, she has been hanging out with the wrong friends and the wrong crowd. She has been drinking a lot (she was against drinking before) and partying every weekend. It is sad to see this and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? I've known this girl for a while so please don't say get rid of her, unless that's the only option. I want to help her because I think the drinking and partying is just covering up the real problem which is her feelings.
She is also ignoring me as of now because she thinks I like her because I wanted to talk to her about this and she kept on asking what it was about and I dumbly put "You and I" and she said "i only like you as a friend, please don't make this friendship awkward". I wrote its not about a relationship, its about what happened at camp, and now she won't write back to me. I honestly do like her but my best friend just broke up with her and I'm not looking for a rebound because she is vulnerable right now. I want to become her best friend first before we even think of becoming more than just friends, and we are/were really close friends.
So my questions are:
1) Should I be mad at her or should I be comforting/ be there for her?
2) She brought up me liking her, and there have been times where I thought she has liked me but I don't know if I should bring it up, or if it's brought up should I deny it and say I want be her friend when I honestly do like her but telling her that right now would be the worst timing possible in my opinion. Lie to her or myself?
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