I’ve got this friend (lets call him Dan). We met in uni, and have been close friends, practically best friends for about a year. We are so close to the point that we have multiple sleep over sand slept on the same bed together. The problem is that there is a lot of se*ual tension and thus we recently started sleeping with each other (it started about a month ago). Bigger problem he is in a relationship with someone else whom he is planning to marry.
Now he has slept with two other girls who liked him (all of this whilst he was in the relationship) and I was the only one whom he would tell even before he would it, I would always tell him how wrong it is etc...but he wouldn’t have none of it would still do it. So I now I feel like a hypocrite for sleeping with him and I feel cheap for doing it as well. We have talked about it multiple times and he has explained to me that he doesn’t think I’m cheap and that he doesn’t blame me for doing it with him because once someone has done it, it’s hard for them to suddenly stop, he said. (By the way he was the first person I've slept with). Somehow I don’t fully believe that he thinks am not cheap.
So this is my questions. If a girl sleeps with her guy best friend almost every time he or she is in the mood whilst he is in a relationship, is there a possibility that the guy is using her and thinks she is cheap, even if he says it’s not so. It might be a stupid question etc but this guy is very dear to my heart and there is a possibility that I like him even before we started having sec but I've been ignoring (one of the reasons I can’t stop giving myself to him though I know its wrong) so I’m finding it hard not believe what he says but I still have my doubts.
Now he has slept with two other girls who liked him (all of this whilst he was in the relationship) and I was the only one whom he would tell even before he would it, I would always tell him how wrong it is etc...but he wouldn’t have none of it would still do it. So I now I feel like a hypocrite for sleeping with him and I feel cheap for doing it as well. We have talked about it multiple times and he has explained to me that he doesn’t think I’m cheap and that he doesn’t blame me for doing it with him because once someone has done it, it’s hard for them to suddenly stop, he said. (By the way he was the first person I've slept with). Somehow I don’t fully believe that he thinks am not cheap.
So this is my questions. If a girl sleeps with her guy best friend almost every time he or she is in the mood whilst he is in a relationship, is there a possibility that the guy is using her and thinks she is cheap, even if he says it’s not so. It might be a stupid question etc but this guy is very dear to my heart and there is a possibility that I like him even before we started having sec but I've been ignoring (one of the reasons I can’t stop giving myself to him though I know its wrong) so I’m finding it hard not believe what he says but I still have my doubts.
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