So my question is, if you were in a relationship with a girl and everything was going great - she has a job, she's educated and relatively good looking and the relationship is moving forward well enough. But then you found out that she has family problems - would you still want to date her, continue the relationship etc?
My problem is that I'm in a new-ish relationship with this guy and with my ex I rushed into having him meet the parents etc. I want to take it slow this time around so I've brought it up to my boyfriend that I want him to meet my parents but haven't really pushed it. We've been seeing each other for four months but haven't been official more more than a month and a half. To me, it's not a big deal.
Lately it's been a source of contention between my family and I. Personally, I think I'm in an adult relationship and can decide for myself when I want him to meet my parents but they're insisting that they meet him. It's become a bigger problem now because we're planning a big trip - a few months in Europe - and now they believe that I'm planning on having them meet him only once before we go.
My mom and I have never really gotten along since I was a teenager and now she's at it again. She says hurtful things and brings up my ex in a lot of conversations - it's gotten to the point where things are being broken around the house (glasses smashed, plants broken etc) and it's getting to me. I don't tell my boyfriend a lot about what's been going on because I don't want him to judge my parents but at the same time, I don't know if my rocky relationship with my family is something I should be telling him.
So to reiterate the question: would you continue a relationship with a girl who doesn't have the best relationship with her family? Why or why not?
My problem is that I'm in a new-ish relationship with this guy and with my ex I rushed into having him meet the parents etc. I want to take it slow this time around so I've brought it up to my boyfriend that I want him to meet my parents but haven't really pushed it. We've been seeing each other for four months but haven't been official more more than a month and a half. To me, it's not a big deal.
Lately it's been a source of contention between my family and I. Personally, I think I'm in an adult relationship and can decide for myself when I want him to meet my parents but they're insisting that they meet him. It's become a bigger problem now because we're planning a big trip - a few months in Europe - and now they believe that I'm planning on having them meet him only once before we go.
My mom and I have never really gotten along since I was a teenager and now she's at it again. She says hurtful things and brings up my ex in a lot of conversations - it's gotten to the point where things are being broken around the house (glasses smashed, plants broken etc) and it's getting to me. I don't tell my boyfriend a lot about what's been going on because I don't want him to judge my parents but at the same time, I don't know if my rocky relationship with my family is something I should be telling him.
So to reiterate the question: would you continue a relationship with a girl who doesn't have the best relationship with her family? Why or why not?
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+1 y
By the way, when I say it's not a big deal, I mean that I don't think it's a big deal that he hasn't met my parents yet.
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