Aha, so some guys are just friendly/flirtatious by nature, but when it comes to actually allowing a person "in" it's sort of a challenge for them for any number of reasons.
The hand-holding is a residual effect of having made out with you. He feels physically close to you.
Guys friend who they want -- and some may friend you but block you from seeing anyone else they friend. It all just depends on the guy.
A word of advice: If you're into a guy, NOT friending him on FB (or keeping him on a very restricted list) is the best way to stay out of sticky arguments later. There are too many crazy FB-bf/gf/so stories out there as it is.
Also, harping about being on a guy's FB tends to make you less appealing to the guy and he is more prone to keeping you at a distance for fear that you're one of the clingy stalker types. I've seen guys get cornered into friending someone on the spot and they basically just block or restrict the person later, so what's the point?
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Ok the same thing happened to me... what did you do? He gave me his phone number, he seemed really really interested... but then wouldn't accept my friend request on FB which incredibly stupid.
It happened a week ago exactly, I can see that he is accepting a lot of the same person we've met at the same time, but we shared something way more special than the other girls... I will move on, trust me, but it doesn't feel good and I don't understand this type of behaviour. Just why? It's like a rejection. I haven't text him back. I don't know what to do.
What happened in your case?
ASK HIM. In this case I definitely think you need to reply to one of his texts and ask him if he received the 'friend request'... first get that going before we can reply to anything else!
Nothing wrong with that. As a rule, I never become Facebook friends with a girl I'm dating. If she becomes my actual girlfriend then we can be FB friends. But it's never a good idea to be FB friends with someone you are just dating. It encourages neurotic behaviors, paranoia, obsession. Let's be honest, why do you need to be FB friendswith a guy who you communicate with via phone and text. You just want to FB stalk him and drive yourself crazy about what he's doing when he's not with you lol. Look, you just met this guy. he likes you and you like him. You hooked up a few times...big deal. He's not your boyfriend or your husband. That takes time. Why would he change his status to anything but single after only having been out with you a few times. You are about to ruin a possibly good thing for yourself by being neurotic and paranoid. That's honest talk.
I do the same thing with girls I am interested in, the reason I do it is because I don't ever want to be put in the dreaded friends zone. Not including it adds a bit of mystery about me, just how I roll is all.
Good luck!
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The same just happened with me and I am thinking what the hell just happened? I thought he would be just as interested in connecting with me as I am. We don't have each other's numbers yet. We are just beginning to show our feelings.
What bothers me most is if he really didn't want to add me he could have just ignored politely (irony intended) but he straight away declined it. Which is the fb equivalent of FU.
I am more and more wondering if he has something he is hiding and clearly thinks he will get whatever he wants without being completely honest with me.ask him.. dang that's really fishy now its bugging me! lol! I need to know haha.
i would think he is hiding something. happened to me before.
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