My guy friend gave me a bath when I was passed out drunk was this crossing the line or was he just helping?

[Anonymous]

I recently went through some hard times in my life and every now and then I have been drinking a little too much. I have a guy friend that I have known for seven years and we are really great friends we have never fooled around or anything like that we are just strictly friends. I had him come over last night just to hang out with me because I was alone we started drinking and went in my pool and hung out for little while. I started taking some shots to get my mind off some things and I ended up getting sloppy drunk. I was to the point where he actually had to picked me up and carry me into my room, he laid me down on my bed and took my clothes completely off and carried me to the bathtub. I was not passed out or anything I was just non-functional and I remember him putting me into the bathtub. My friend has never done anything like this before nor has he ever seen me naked before I was just too drunk at the time to care. I remember he turned the bathwater on and he rubbed soap all over me with his hands, now maybe it was just because I was drunk but it felt like the bath lasted for an hour or more, I really had no concept of time. After he bathed me he pick me up out of the bathtub and laid me in my bed and put a cover over me. I passed out immediately, the next morning I woke up had a splitting headache I looked under my covers and noticed I was completely naked and my friend was sleeping on the floor next to me. I set up in the bed and he woke up also I quickly put my underwear on and laid down in bed. I had forgotten then but I asked him how I got naked and he said that he took my clothes off and put me in the bath. I was a little embarrassed but I just told him thank you and apologized for getting so drunk. I told him thanks for taking care of and that he was a great friend. Later in the day today I was thinking about what he did I just thought that it was a little bit weird and I was wondering if maybe he crossed the line or was he really just trying to help and take care of me? I am not a heavy drinker I have just been through some hard times lately and got carried away last night. Do you think what my friend did was appropriate and meant no harm or do you think that he may have crossed the line?

[Paris13]

Yes, your friend got somewhat "carried away" as he carried you off to the "rub a dub dub"...tub. Although he has known you as a Good Friend for 7 years, he crossed the line that nite. But as smart and wise as I am, there is more to the naked eye behind the scenes here...It's sort of like his "Seven year itch," had finally come, and he saw a "bare back brainer."
Firstly, he was probably Not feeling any pain, and may have been feeling a bit "heated" in the pool, And may have slightly taken advantage of the "sloppy drunk" situation when you were in this precarious predicament. He got caught up in the moment, like some Romantic Romeo movie, going through the motions and-----most likely enjoying every minute----by "pawing" you all over, then laying you butt naked under the comfy covers. He has never seen your body before, so in essence, his first time peek was a thrill, and "not a little bit weird" at all to him.
But there is always two sides to the coin, as you know. He didn't take advantage of You, he slept on the floor Next to you, like a faithful "good friend" dog that he has been. So he did show respect, and this, he should have his head petted for.
However, on the other hand, he should also be "scolded" some, and reprimanded, that in the future, although very kind and helpful, you would appreciate it if anything like this should happen again, to simply lay you on the couch instead. Tell him, although it was sweet of him to bath you and cover you after the fact, you would feel much more "comfortable" on your cushion instead.xx

[Anonymous]

He didn't need to do that-if a girl passed out drunk, a guy or someone else should help the person lie down on a couch or a bed, but not completely undress the person. Let alone BATHE the drunk or passed out person. But that's all the other person should do touch-wise.

So yes I think he did cross the line.

That could be considered being sexually taken advantaged(since he did have his hands all over you in the tub and you were naked) of or molested, since you were too drunk and/or passed out to say, "No," or stop what he was doing to you/bathing you.

Since you couldn't and/or didn't give him verbally your full consent that he could touch your body, yes, I think what he did was wrong. Inappropriate.

[lauramor]

I think that without a doubt your friend crossed the line, he might have seen that as an oportunity to do something sexually because you might not do anything completely sober. Ask him exactly what happened to see how your stories match and why did he decided to do that,

[The-Dude-Next-Door]

He crossed the line. When a girl passes out drunk, the safest and right think to do is leave her on the couch with a pillow. And if she needs a shower, then she can take one the next day when she wakes up: without the guy's help (unless she invites him to join her!).

He used the opportunity to check you out and rub you up while you were drunk. So what if you might have needed a shower. He should leave you fully clothed and on the couch. Because drunk passed out girls don't care about showers until they wake up anyway.

So this dude crossed the line.

If you've been considering him as boyfriend material for a long time, then that might change things - depending on your history with him.

[rdrgzjcqln]

I second that ^

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

That's not the safest thing to do if it's a party lol. But if it was just them two, ya it would have been safer if he just laid her down on the couch or somewhere on her side so if she threw up in her sleep she can throw up and not choke herself. She can clean herself when she's sober. Would probably also be best to stay the night and just make sure she's safe, but not to do anything this guy did. Damn that's f***ed up...

[MisterAnt]

The only way he would not have crossed the line is if you had soiled yourself via vomiting,peeing, or defecating on yourself. In that case, it would have been inappropriate for him to leave you in that condition. You need to ask him why he felt the need to give you a bath. If he doesn't refer to you soiling yourself somehow, he was way out of line and you need to consider calling the authorities or ending your friendship with him unless you can forgive his transgression & are still able to trust him. Hope that helps.

[S4ndman1]

I am with this guy, also he might have been intoxicated as well so maybe he did not think clearly. Make sure of your situation before you throw away a 7 year friendship. I just feel like if this was a 7 year friendship and he did not try anything earlier then why would he start now? Just make completely sure. I am going through some friendship problems my self. Hope you sort this out and everything is great

[JazzLuvnAnt]

Your friend definitely crossed the line. He may have bathed you as a result of misinterpreting how close you two are since clearly his doing that has weirded you out. All I can say is that by leaving you naked he was making sure you knew what he had done, and by sleeping on the floor he signaled that he had not messed with you sexually while in bed, although using his hands to wash you could qualify as sexual touching. He should have used a hand towel. Additionally, he may have slept on the floor as opposed to in the bed with you to keep himself from being tempted to have nonconsensual sex with you. Regardless, unless you think he could be a romantic interest even after pulling that stunt, you should ditch him, especially if you cannot fathom how he could have ever thought it would be okay to give you a bath. Take care.

[Anonymous]

Odd.

My best guess is that he wanted to make a big deal of -not- taking advantage of you. If he'd just let you sleep you might not notice but this way he clearly got you naked then slept on the floor, making sure you noticed. He's hoping for a reward I assume.

[cheesesteak7]

yeah, how is this even a question? He "crossed the line" for sure. ...unless he's gay or asexual or something.

[Poppie07]

It was a nice gesture I would say, but totally crossing the line. I'd go nuts if my guy friends did this. Just leave me on a bed or couch idgaf if I threw up last years meal everywhere.

[26ukdude]

So were you passed out or not? in the title you say you were, then you state " I was not passed out or anything I was just non-functional and I remember him putting me into the bathtub"

[unighted]

I would say it is totally wrong, what was the point of giving you a bath, he totally crossed the line.

[Anonymous]

He crossed the line without a question. If a guy would not do the same to his sister, it's probably sexual. He was being a creep.

I know you might think you know him since you've been knowing him for years, but he showed his true colors

[Enideqa]

I think this is strange, did you ask why he gave you a bath, is there something that happened that you don't remember? Definitely weird.

[CrissyBlue]

That's so weird. However, maybe that helped he when he got drunk once?

Ask him why...

[KrisPW]

Did you throw up on yourself maybe? If not, then the line was definitely crossed.

[toulouse]

didnt you have a swim suit on? he couldve left it on.

[Anonymous]

He crossed the line, and what's more, I bet he thinks of himself as a "nice" guy too.

[Ms-Frog]

I think he was just trying to help, though I'm sure he took a good look and had a few good feels. Had he had something else on his mind he would have done it.

[Jewels22]

To me that's just weird and he didn't really need to take you a bath. I think he crossed the line and he could have just laid you on the bed.

[Tabra]

crossing a strange kinda scary line