I used to weigh around 300lb and in the last two years I lost almost all my fat and gained quite a bit of muscle. I'm pretty proud with myself, but now I have to deal with a difficulty that I never thought of. People react to me very differently than they used to and it's making me anxious, and changing my character.
I used to be sort of a stereotypical jolly chubby guy, people compared me to Seth Rogan. I've got a silly absurd sense of humour people like, and people usually got along well with me. They were relaxed around me. Never really had too much romance with ladies besides a couple, because of my weight no doubt. Usually I would have to persue girls and use what charms I had.
Now that I've lost my weight I think people perceive me way differently than they did before. My friends all know me well enough, but strangers seem to get more easily nervous, anxious and sometime intimidated by me. I'm totally not used to intimidating people so I don't know how to react to it.
Girls especially get nervous around me and that makes me nervous in a sort of stupid feedback loop. I'm also getting ladies that stare at me and also openly hit on me. These are great thing I'm sure, but I'm not used to it, and I get extremely anxious when that happens. Today I was trying to read at a coffee shop and this pretty lady kept staring at me and I had to leave. It's embarrassing, I know.
I figure I'm a lot more physically attractive than I used to be and my personality from before doesn;t fit the way I look. Some days I almost wish I could just wear a fat suit outside so I could be myself. Is that weird?
How do I deal with these changes? I feel so rude not reciprocating when good looking grils show me attention. I don't even know what I'm supposed to do. I'd like to date girls but the way I usually went about it makes me feel way more anxious now, and it clearly makes other people more nervous (it might be the muscles?) My friends who are girls all say I'm a babe now, but I hate it. I went to feel like myself again.
I used to be sort of a stereotypical jolly chubby guy, people compared me to Seth Rogan. I've got a silly absurd sense of humour people like, and people usually got along well with me. They were relaxed around me. Never really had too much romance with ladies besides a couple, because of my weight no doubt. Usually I would have to persue girls and use what charms I had.
Now that I've lost my weight I think people perceive me way differently than they did before. My friends all know me well enough, but strangers seem to get more easily nervous, anxious and sometime intimidated by me. I'm totally not used to intimidating people so I don't know how to react to it.
Girls especially get nervous around me and that makes me nervous in a sort of stupid feedback loop. I'm also getting ladies that stare at me and also openly hit on me. These are great thing I'm sure, but I'm not used to it, and I get extremely anxious when that happens. Today I was trying to read at a coffee shop and this pretty lady kept staring at me and I had to leave. It's embarrassing, I know.
I figure I'm a lot more physically attractive than I used to be and my personality from before doesn;t fit the way I look. Some days I almost wish I could just wear a fat suit outside so I could be myself. Is that weird?
How do I deal with these changes? I feel so rude not reciprocating when good looking grils show me attention. I don't even know what I'm supposed to do. I'd like to date girls but the way I usually went about it makes me feel way more anxious now, and it clearly makes other people more nervous (it might be the muscles?) My friends who are girls all say I'm a babe now, but I hate it. I went to feel like myself again.
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