Polls: Family & Friends

I'm worried it might get infected but I just found out it costs around $30! I can barely afford that and I think my friend would do it free but if it got infected I might get mad enough to end the friendship because its that serious to me.

It's going to be my first piercing (except for regular ear piercing)...Idk what to do because money is an issue but I don't want my health to be ruined either. My friend herself has hella piercings and she recently starting doing other people but I Haven't asked her where she gets her needles from and stuff. I've been doing some research and most say getting it done by a professional is best. My friend assures me its safe but I don't know and I don't wana make her feel bad since she offered to do mine.

The guy I've been seeing has adapted a few different habits. At first I thought that they were just an extension of his being generally uneasy with life and wanting to shake things up a bit, but a friend of mine told me that the only reason a guy changes his routine is for a girl. Not sure if that's true. Here are some of the changes:

Correspondence: He usually only uses text, but with me has gone through all sort of alternate networks to keep in touch, then informs me that he doesn't usually use all those other sources, just texting.

Eating: He's a big meat-and-potatoes guy, but with me has small quantities, lots of veggies and tea rather than coffee.

Exercise: He's started working out every day, which he wasn't doing for a long time.

Activities: He seems restless/bored with his routine and is always asking if I want company.

Reporting: He tends to tell me exactly what he's doing and where he's going to be, which has gotten me into doing the same thing, lol. I've never actually seen a guy do that on a daily basis.

We're just friends, but I like him and could see us going further. I'm just not sure if he's changing because he's developing feelings for me OR if it's just a point in his life where he has to change something and is generally restless.

Advice?

Id go with a group if I could but I haven't become friends with many of the people there yet especially the women. My co worker knows I have a boyfriend and is clear that its not a date. Were thinking of going to the movies then for coffee to talk about it, then home. I started a new job and I'm just trying to build more friendships, at the moment I have no real friends so I want to try to get to know people. I'm not interested in this guy for anything other than friendship and he's said that he'll respect my relationship. I just don't know if my boyfriend will accept this completely. I'll tell my boyfriend where were going and call him before and after the movie.

Guys, if you were my boyfriend would you be OK with this?

Girls, would you think this is acceptable behavior?

My crush, let's call him Adam. We've been flirting with each other for some time and everyone around us can tell we like each other. But my best guy friend is less than impressed. These two guys have known each other for years, longer than I have known either. But my guy friend is strongly discouraging me from going out with Adam., but won't tell me why. He just won't. And he is serious because he's saying if I go out with Adam, he's going to distance himself from me. What do I do? I definitely don't want to lose my best guy friend but I also like Adam quite a bit.

It might sound silly that I'm passing up on a chance at love but he knows Adam much better than I do and maybe wants to protect me from getting hurt? I'm so lost. And it's not like my guy friend likes me too since he has his own girlfriend and they're a great couple.

So for my own personal reasons I am waiting until I am married to have sex (this includes oral sex). I understand that most guys don't like this, I understand that this is very uncommon and unrealistic but this is something, for my own reasons I want to do.

I generally do not tell people other than my super close friends (my parents do not even know) because this is a personal choice and not really anyone's business beside my own. But I am not the stupid virgin, I know about sex, and contraception, and STI's and the whole nine yards. I am actually the one to drive my friends to Planned Parenthood or buy them condoms when they are too scared because you know safety first.

To get to the real meet of my question I have been going out with a guy since the beginning of September he is my first boyfriend but I am his fifth girlfriend. He knows that I want to take things kinda slow (we have barely gone to second base over my shirt) and he respects that given the little experience that I have had. What he does not know is that no matter how slow we go we are not having sex (or oral sex).

He is a great guy and he cares and respects me but I still have that fear in the back of my mind that he might break up with me knowing that we will never have sex. I have heard of guys that even though they said they would not date a girl knowing that she was abstinent got to know the girl and then stayed anyone (the situation with my older cousin and her husband). So I hoping that maybe that would be the situation so I want to avoid telling him because maybe he will become more invested in the relationship and build stronger feelings and not want to break up.

Two of my close friends are saying I should tell him because he might break up anyway and it is better to get it over with now, and I should not go out with a guy who can't respect my choices, and I could be keeping him from happiness with someone else.

What should I do should I tell him (even though I never really tell anyone) or should not say anything? And If I do tell how soon should I tell him?

Let's just say you could only have ONE child... For whatever reason. Would you want that baby to be a boy or girl? Any reason?

And no this isn't a "who's better between the two" type question.

I have a daughter, and from the moment I got pregnant I always wanted a daughter. And I don't want anymore children, one is good for me. So I was just curious about other people.

My bf's best friend is a girl that he knows since high school (they were very close b4, but now they've remained good friends - they go to each other for advice and she asks him for favors).

He is also very close with me (always affectionate with me -even in front of ppl, met each others families, and he's pretty open, plus he's a friendly, affectionate type of a guy, and were both the same kind).

He has told me that he has never slept with her and that she's a platonic friend and that he knows her for a very long time and they talk a lot, plus she knows that him and I are an item and I've met her once. But I've also noticed that they fight a lot and she's demanding to him).

is this a red flag? or am I worrying too much about her?

My boyfriend and I are together for just over a year now. We are very close - we see each other often and sleep over at each others houses. And we have also met each others' families.

He is always very affectionate with me - always cuddling, hugging, kissing, stroking my belly and always has his arm around me and calls me "my baby" and tells me he loves me.He also loves my body shape (hips, thighs, belly - curves).

He also have a female best friend and they talk a lot on a daily basis and they say I love you to each other and he always does favors for her and buys her things and they fight quite a lot and if he doesn't do as she says, she yells at him and they get into fights and he ends up getting moody and really sad? He also speaks to her in private and feels uncomfortable to talk to her when I'm in front of him...

is he in love with her or emotionally attached to her?

or is she just using him?

why are they so close?

(they are friends for awhile now - way b4 he met me, plus he ahs told me that he would never marry he because she isn't his type and she fights way too much)

Lets say your best friend that you've known and been friends with for about 10 years. She ended up liking the same guy you liked which you had strong feelings for? Would you upset? Would you not care?

Would you go crazy?

(if you're a boy, say one of your guy friends liked the girl you liked)

My best friend has liked the guy I liked for a long time, she tried hiding it from me, but as I can read her like a book, it was obvious.

She knew it would hurt me. I'm trying to get over him.

just curious.. I'm a pill addict and you'd never know it.

do you assume drug addicts are the scum of the earth? why or why not?

I've always wondered about this and have gotten so many different opinions. My freshman year of college I had a boyfriend for 4 to 5 months who all my friends knew because since we were freshman and we were all in the same dorm we hung out together. Him and I broke up but continued to hook up occasionally for the next couple months because we both still have unfinished feelings.

One drunk night one of my best friends hooked up with him while she had a boyfriend of 2 to 3 years! I was furious with both of them because he should know better than to hook up with my best friend and a girl that has a bf! and she should just know that that's not right!

Most of my friends were on my side and were furious at her and my ex, but then others said he was my ex, and when she apologized she said she felt worse that she cheated on her boyfriend then that she hurt me. I've also had other friends hook up with this ex a couple months after we stopped hooking up and I still thought it wasn't right but other people would yell at me saying your not allowed to be mad!

Ive also heard people allow it if your friend and your ex really like each other and ask permission I guess

So, when in your opinion does your friend hooking up with your ex cross the line?

I'm always open to hear anyones personal stories!

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If you were using your gf's pregnancy as a meal ticket so that you can benefit w/o being concerned that shed have to give up school, curse at her, tell her "I'm the father you should listen to what I say" and threaten her friends while she's pregnant cause she's out, continue drinking, and basically push her to find a place while you sat on your ass; would you be shocked/hurt if she decided to have an abortion(behind your back cause she thought you'd kill her) cause she was scared by this treatment?

you know you messed you by acting possessive and crazy while she was stressed ad you never supported her worries enough . you were more concerned with yourself. would this girlfriend deserve to be broken up with?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. Lately however, things have been changing between him and I, like he has made plans with me twice this week just to "forget" all about them and hangout with his friend. We make the plans DAYS in advance so I think it's impossible to just 'forget' all about spending time with your GIRLFRIEND. When I call him out on what he's doing, he just says I'm being 'childish and things happen.' I don't know what to do anymore, I do love him and I want to spend my life with him, but at the rate he's going, I don't know if that's possible. Any opinions?

Say you and your best friend have a little extra to your friendship. You're not sleepin with or seein anyone else and neither is she.

Oops.

You find out she's (oh no) pregnant.

Now you both are adults. (He's 26) but you aren't quite in the best position to have a family yet.

What do you do?

Do you leave? Do you stay friends and help with the kid? Do you try to tell her to abort the baby or put it up for adoption?

GIRLS: How would you tell him? What would you do?

What if you were thinking about moving (due to financial strain) back across the country to your parents (just to get on your feet)? Would you go anyway or would you stay and struggle?

How upset would you be? Would you end the friendship with her? (she was on birth control, but messed up on her days)

Any and all answers appreciated. Thanks!

Say if you were at a club with your girlfriend and friends. VIP section got closed for NHL hockey players and your girlfriend got invited. Personally I thought it was pretty f***ed up. Would you tell your girlfriend to "Do whatever you got to do to get me inside too. Even if you have to make out with one of them, do it!" And girls. would you do that for your boyfriend?

Hey y'all.

This guy friend of mine and I (work together) were intoxicated one night after hanging out and we messed around...nothing major, but afterwards, and for the next week or so, we ate together, hung out, talked on the phone alot, went to stay at a hotel for the weekend (no sex...just relaxing) but we slept in the same bed and I laid my head on his chest as we talked..while I rubbed his belly....sounds innocent, but I thought we were moving toward a relationship. I don't do THAT with FRIENDS.

I made him a custom CD of the same cool rock songs we both like, so he could have it on his vacation this weekend, and wrote a nice note on it. He probably thought it was a "girlfriend" thing to do. He sent me an email saying not to "take this the wrong way" but he really values the friendship we have, and apologizes if my impression was that he wanted more than just friends. He went on to say that making good friends is not easy, and once the friendship is damaged, it is hard to repair.and doesn't want to lose my friendship. I talked to him after that, and he said that he dated a girl he worked with once before and [when it went bad] it made going to work difficult. He was focused on work when he left yesterday for vacation, and didn't say goodbye as he usually does.

Was he full of crap and wasn't attracted to me? Or really does like me, but is really afraid of ruining a good friendship? He is a bit immature for 35 yo, has had drug/alcohol addiction issues, so there are other factors which come into play. Just thought some insight would help. FOR THE POLL: "I don't want to ruin the friendship" means.....