Is he changing for me?

[Anonymous]

The guy I've been seeing has adapted a few different habits. At first I thought that they were just an extension of his being generally uneasy with life and wanting to shake things up a bit, but a friend of mine told me that the only reason a guy changes his routine is for a girl. Not sure if that's true. Here are some of the changes:

Correspondence: He usually only uses text, but with me has gone through all sort of alternate networks to keep in touch, then informs me that he doesn't usually use all those other sources, just texting.

Eating: He's a big meat-and-potatoes guy, but with me has small quantities, lots of veggies and tea rather than coffee.

Exercise: He's started working out every day, which he wasn't doing for a long time.

Activities: He seems restless/bored with his routine and is always asking if I want company.

Reporting: He tends to tell me exactly what he's doing and where he's going to be, which has gotten me into doing the same thing, lol. I've never actually seen a guy do that on a daily basis.

We're just friends, but I like him and could see us going further. I'm just not sure if he's changing because he's developing feelings for me OR if it's just a point in his life where he has to change something and is generally restless.

Advice?

He's changing for you to impress you with the influence you have on him.

He's restless and just generally looking for changes.

[BoobMan]

The first thing your friend said is definitely not true. There are LOTS of reasons a guy changes his routine that have nothing to do with a specific girl. For example, I'm currently working on establishing a gym routine and focusing on healthier lunches. I'm not doing it for a girl, but so I'll be in a better place. That my help with women, but that's not the whole point. I'm also trying to put together a better job/career plan for the year so I'll be in a place where I can make a move next year. Again, not related to a girl.

If you want to know if he's interested in you, then I suggest you go through the usual process of flirting until you find yourself making out and then some. That's the ONLY reliable indicator that the other person may be interested.

[Asker]

His gym regimen IS because of me -- according to a convo I had with him today -- not FOR me, per se, but he's told me that he has a lot of extra energy to expend of late, since we've met, lol. (I was totally gobsmacked when he said it.) The rest I figured was just stuff he was doing to improve his overall lifestyle.

[martyfellow]

Everything sounds good here...it sounds like he's excited to meet you, and is trying to improve his diet, his fitness, his scheduling, and arranges things to spend more time with you.

Is anything worrying you? I don't see anything disquieting at all!

[Asker]

We're in our early days yet, sort of dancing/tiptoeing around each other. We're both coming out of bad relationships and while I spent significant time alone to avoid the "rebound" relationship, I'm not sure he's quite there yet, so there's a lot of second guessing involved. I'm worried that this is his reformatory rebound relationship before he heads off towards the next "real" relationship.

[bonedust]

It sounds like he is trying to sell himself to you. Throwing in a better deal for you. Its honest and nice really. You make him want to be a better man, and he gives you tons of attention. I think he is definitely interested to say the least.

[Asker]

He's a sweetie, but we've been trying to stay away from each other and "just be friends" so this stuff is a little confusing. I figured he may just be following the example of my healthier lifestyle. He placed a food order the other day and purposely over ordered so I could steal a few samples, which I thought was funny since I'm not a big eater. the amount of leftovers was insane...