Is it okay to ditch girlfriend for friends?

[tabbygirl01]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. Lately however, things have been changing between him and I, like he has made plans with me twice this week just to "forget" all about them and hangout with his friend. We make the plans DAYS in advance so I think it's impossible to just 'forget' all about spending time with your GIRLFRIEND. When I call him out on what he's doing, he just says I'm being 'childish and things happen.' I don't know what to do anymore, I do love him and I want to spend my life with him, but at the rate he's going, I don't know if that's possible. Any opinions?

Of course, bros before hoes all the way!

Only if I forget all about our plans for that day, I can make it up to her later.

Never, if the plans with her were made before, then my friends should understand.

[alteran87]

I think if he suddenly "forget" that he made plans with you and decides to go hangout with his buddies, then you weren't that high up on the his list of priorities. If he made plans with his buds first, then as the girlfriend, you should just back off and let him be. One relationship shouldn't be more important than the other. Both people need their own friends, and both people need to make time for one another. If that can't happen, then you probably shouldn't be together

[alex2232]

well my boyfriend in his free time hangs out with his guy friends too...it sucks bad but just think about it if we weren't allowed to have our "girl time". Does he seem to "forget" often? If so, he may see you as 2nd priority. If that's the case then your not being chilidish by approaching him about it.

[Anonymous]

everyone is equally important. I believe in first come first serve. Whatever plans you made FIRST with whoever, you should follow through on them. If not, than karma will go around.

[Dela1111]

A simple girlfriend isn't really any more important than good friends, so don't think that your girlfriend title trumps his friendships (of course this is different for fiancee's and wives). He wants some space and you should give it to him or things aren't going to go well between you two. The more you stress him out about this, the more he's going to talk to his friends about you, and then the more they will tell him to break up with you.

[tabbygirl01]

Yeah, that's very true.

Didn't really think of it that way before, thanks.

[audreymarie21]

So because my boyfriend, of 4 years, and I have yet to get engaged, our relationship is considered less serious to that of a couple who have been together for a year or less, but decided to get married immediately? there's some cracks in your theory... just because people don't get married doesn't make their relationship trivial, and just because people DO get married, doesn't make their relationship solid.

[Dela1111]

Audrey, firstly I'll answer you're first question with a YES. A marriage even if unstable is more serious than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, so no there's no "cracks" in my theory. Keep trying to justify why ur boyfriend hasn't proposed yet.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't matter if you're a girlfriend or just a friend. If the plans were made with you already then it's just plain rude to 'forget' about them and do something else instead. If his memory is that bad then he should be keeping a schedule written down...

[NMMan]

It is beneficial to balance out time spent with friends and significant others, but if he made these plans with you way in advance then broke them (even if he "forgot"), he's in the wrong.

[tuffcookie]

Your completely right. The girlfriend/boyfriend should understand that their is time for both friends and that special person. If not then the relationship will not go no where and you will loose out on two important things your friends and eventually your significant other.

[NMMan]

Exactly, I've seen it happen and the resulting fall-outs usually aren't pretty.

[cjwright79]

Bros before hoes is so 1998. Can we just forget that tired phrase already?

[tabbygirl01]

Ahah, sorry, it's the only way I could think of putting it.

[cjwright79]

Well it's a preposterous and demeaning attitude.

[hershey]

it is never of 2 dich the girlfriend 4 friend that makes me mad because if the girlfriend and boyfriend had plans way be4 the friends the they should understand.. if they don't then there not good friends..

[queenb2000]

never happened to me but if it did I'd be p*ssed.