Hello . I already made this take a while ago and it was mostly about my dealbreakers and mostly personality traits. Now this will be about my preferences, both physical and personality wise.
I already mentioned a few in my linked take , but I guess intelligence, kindness , sense of humor, confidence , and decisiveness.
I don't mind a man who is a bit feminine , I honestly don't care and have found lots of men with feminine features attractive. However, in making decisions this is just something that bothers me , I don't like indecisive people in general so I would want him to be good at decision making.
I'm also a little bit submissive and sensitive(in my personal life, not outside that though) so I would want an opposite of that in a guy, not totally dominant but I guess 50-60% submissive and 50-40% dominant would be good
I do workout often and would ideally like a guy who works out as well , however I fell for many guys who were underweight and very skinny, and even guys who were a bit chubby.
However most of those guys had something in common which is broad shoulders, i have noticed a pattern and i find broad shoulders attractive i guess. Very rarely do I like a guy who doesn't have broad shoulders, don't know why but that's just what I'm attracted to.
I also find muscular/chubbier legs on men very attractive. And nice arms and hands, a guy can be extremely skinny but if he has big forearms I will immediately notice.
I have liked and approached many short men , so this is more as just a preference and not a dealbreaker. Ideally, I would like a guy around my height so 5'8-6'2 since I'm 5'11 , so the height difference isn't too obvious. I don't have a preference for tall or short really, if my dream guy happens to be 5'5 I can look past his height. But as a preference same height seems nicer.
Don't really notice many patterns when it comes to this. I guess I do have a thing for defined jawlines , not necessarily big , but just defined.
Other than that i don't care that much , most of the guys I've liked didn't look much like each other. Most of the men I fell for had average faces , and a few slightly above/below average.
5. Doesn't want kids
For many reasons , I just do not want kids. So I don't care if the guy can't have children or doesn't want them. I guess it would be a problem if he wants them and I don't . Maybe one day I'll change my mind if I find the solutions to my reasons , but as for now I do not want children.
6. Has a good career
So this is just a preference , again if my dream man fits the rest of my standards/preferences and just so happens to work a regular job or is a janitor or anything of that sort , I won't give up on him just because of this.
However I am very career oriented and want to have a good job one day , so I'd like it if he was the same way.
7. A good person
This is something I guess everyone wants, just a good person who is respectful and doesn't judge everything and everyone if there is no need for it.
I guess there isn't much else to say , these are what i consider ideal , however I would say if I find a guy who fits my most important ones so the personality ones first , and doesn't really fit my physical standards I wouldn't really care and I'd still date him .
I'm also still not back in the dating world and probably won't be for a long time , even if I end up single forever I do not mind. These are just the things I find attractive in general, not absolute requirements for dating someone.