This take is based on "What makes you beautiful" by One Direction and "Du bist schön" by Alligatoah.
You don't know you're beautiful
I honestly don't like One Direction, but they have a point when they sing
Don't know what for
You're turning heads when you walk through the door
Don't need make-up, to cover up
Being the way that you are is enough
Everyone else in the room can see it
Everyone else but you"
"You don't know you're beautiful
If only you saw what I can see
You'll understand why I want you so desperately"
Why are we (girls in particular) more beautiful when we're not aware of it? I think it's due to the confusion we face when we meet someone who is beautiful yet unaware of it - it fascinates us, we want to tell them how beautiful they are until they realise. But what truly captures our attention is that we don't understand how they don't see it.
You're beautiful but that's it
There's another aspect to it as well, which is put into music in this song, which most of you sadly won't understand, so I'll translate the important part:
"Du bist schön, aber dafür kannst du nichts
Weder Lesen, noch Schreiben, noch was anderes
Du bist schön, aber dafür kannst du nichts
Du kannst nicht mal was dafür, dafür kannst du nichts
Im Frühling denkt das Röslein: 'Wer nicht leiden will, muss schön sein.'"
"You're beautiful, but you have no skills
You can't read nor write nor anything else
You're beautiful, but you can't help it.
It's not even your fault. It's not your fault.
In springtime, the little rose thinks, 'Who doesn't want to suffer must be beautiful.'"
The main statement of the artist is that the girl he's singing about is beautiful - but there's nothing else to that beauty.
In my opinion, when people become aware of their beauty, something flips - some develop narcisstic traits, others just don't handle their beauty well.
Sure, looks are important to some extent, they determine whether people get to know each other better in the first place (in terms of when someone has to approach the other). However, personality determines whether people stay toegether or not.
21st century women, beauty, personality, life skills
The problem I see with people my age in my area is that a large proportion of them don't have basic life skills anymore. Children used to be forced to sew, to clean and do other chores, which was hard work, but they were able to live on their own and save money through fixing their clothes, not buying too much food, avoiding throwing food away etc. There are many examples, my point is that many people my age in my area are extremely dependant on their parents.
This needs to stop. Beauty only gets you as far, actual personality traits and life skills will get you much farther.
What's your opinion on this? Are people who aren't aware of their beauty more beautiful?