What's the point of living if you're not pretty?

Question

You're basically invisible and inferior. No one cares about what you have to say. People are rude to you for no reason. People make you do the dirty work. You can't find love. It's hard for you to make friends. You kill good vibes. You're always lonely. You're always trying to make yourself believe that you're not as ugly as everyone says. You have to deal with memories of everyone calling you ugly in the past. You always get chosen last. People forget you even existed. No one really cares for you. No one is on your side. It's just a pain.

SirSkylar · Accepted Answer

Firstly, you're just self pitying. Secondly, you've an inferiority complex. Thirdly, you are killing your self esteem by kindling depressing words and thoughts.
I know that's harsh but that's how I like to put it when people bring in such issues. I'm just too frank. So I'll tell your faults on your face and your goodness publicly.
Now that, the wounds are fresh let me tie the bandage.
Understand that you're not the only one in this situation. You're not alone fighting. Stop feeling insecure about your looks. Start building a good personality and replace the dropping face with an innocent cheerfulness. Accept yourself the way you are. Just because you don't get a boyfriend to hang out with doesn't means you're ugly. Stop living in past memories. Open the eyes to the little happy moments of today. If you get chosen last, make it their best choice with hard work and dedication. Rather than cramming up the in negative thoughts, always remember that there's one person who loves you always no matter what. Even if you feel like crying, save the tears for the pillow. Yes, it might be difficult to make friends, but goodness of heart always finds true friends. Learn to say No where it matters your self-esteem and Yes where it really matters your heart. Stop running after recognition. Start to bring a change in yourself and in others. Real recognition is transformation.
I hope all your complaints have been covered. If you still don't understand what I am trying to say don't hesitate to pm me.

BlackMaleYou · Accepted Answer

I have never felt ugly in my life but I have felt inferior to someone that was chosen over me for some reason. So I kind of understand how you feel, more so as u are a woman- so I sympathize with u.
But No you have internalized all the "u are ugly" insults u were received in the past and u believed them. Beauty is very subjective as there are men who prefer little titties and flat asses and Im the complete opposite of that.
If people don't care about what u say then it has less to do with how u look but what u said.
Some people are rude to people because they are messed up inside and it's not ur fault their mama didn't raise them right. People can not make u do anything, until you agree to do it. The most beautiful women in the world probably have never found love but maybe they found Lust but maybe that's what u want.
People choose friends based on common interests, Inteligence and compatibility not looks. Boring words kill good vibes not looks. If no one really cares for u, I challenge u to start meeting new friends. It will be a pain only if you keep believing in the lies you keep telling urself. There are men here that would love to befriend you including myself including me. You should Google photos of Oprah while she was younger and she has been divorce 3 times. Google photos of Whooppi Goldberg while she was young. They are not the prettiest woman in the world but they are one of the most celebrated women in the world.

Quintessence · Accepted Answer

Is your sole, self-determined purpose for this life to impress others visually and to set some kind of aesthetic standard for folks to follow? If so, then I suppose that there is none (if you're truly and incontestably ugly, that is).

Have you no interests? Passions? Ambitions? Nothing that sparks your curiosity? Nothing that you want to see, explore, and discover for yourself in this world? Does life hold no mystery for you? Are the only experiences you value the ones in which people are appreciating your external appearance?

Come on. Surely, you've got more substance than that. Find something that sparks something in you, and get lost in it. Get so lost in it renders your appearance and its external perception utterly trivial and irrelevant to you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No ones ugly. Everyone even if theyre not very atractive on the outside theyre are on the inside... beautiful... i had an ex best friend i won't lie she was just not attractive... but she had a horrible personality!!! I mean she made people felt like crap (including me) and extremly rude and just a total bitch... so it depends maybe if you're not so pretty on the outside but you are on the inside people will treat u nice but if u are both fucked up is like damn it... so yeah its not all about the outside

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's BS. If you're pretty you can still be invisible, it's called being an introvert. People assume you're stuck up and don't even bother to get to know you.
Guys don't ask you out because they think you're taken.

Chanel1981 · Accepted Answer

Attitude is everything. Why would anyone want to be around a miserable person?

Anon85 · Answer

Your problem isn't that you're ugly, it's that you can't accept it. You obsess over your desire to not be ugly instead of finding other things in your life to be happy about. You're the one making your looks destroy you. I emphasize with you when it comes to being bullied, but that's it - I know plenty of not-so-good-looking people, and they get by just fine. Yes, guys aren't very likely to be attracted to you, but that just means you have to find fulfillment in other areas of your life.

You don't kill "good vibes" just because you're ugly. You kill good vibes because you constantly put yourself down and wear a long face. There are more things in life than being good looking - so stick your chin up and find one. If you think there's no point in living just because you're ugly you're insulting all the other ugly ducklings who are living happy lives in spite of it.

JudgmentDay · Answer

There does not have to be a point or any points at all. Besides, all physical appearances do not last forever either way, no matter how pretty anybody is. They all fade eventually, we all become wrinkled up as we age. Of course, there's always the option of plastic surgery but it's completely artificial. I mean would you consider having plastic surgery so you can enhance and better change your appearance and looks?

random56286 · Answer

Well that is an interesting approach to life. I have known many very happy people who are not just not pretty, are absolutely hideous. You must have some purpose in life besides being pretty. Most times people who go on about this attitude are anything but unattractive.

Cody01 · Answer

Looks aren't everything. If they were then majority of people past the age of 60 would commit suicide.
Your attitude towards life is incredibly important towards your success and happiness. Don't accept other people's opinions of you become your reality and work on your personal development. Quite frankly I wouldn't want to be around you because of your attitude.

BrianMerritt · Answer

I'm not going to bullshit you and say that looks don't matter. They do, but understand that they don't define you. I'm not the most attractive-looking guy on earth, but I try to make up for that with other charms. Genetics are a role of the dice, and they suck sometimes. But you still have something beautiful about you, I'm sure.

Intraluminal · Answer

Don't allow society to tell you whether you're *good enough* to live or not. Also, don't decide how attractive you are and then use that to decide what you're worth. You're a *person* FIRST, and woman second.

LegateLanius · Answer

First of all, beauty is always subjective. Secondly that sounds either like a thinly veiled pity party or a way to insult people that you think are ugly

DanishSaint · Answer

Was IS the point of living if you are? I mean, what in life brings meaning if you are pretty, that doesn't if you are not?

nice_guy1 · Answer

You can simply say them to go to hell if they think you are not pretty. I'm sure you are very pretty. And you'll find one day that someone in this world values your beauty. "Beauty lies in the eyes of the seeker".

lefteris37 · Answer

Well thank god I'm not ugly according to the society

fdd62094 · Answer

Lol. That's not true. I too was an ugly guy. But I don't feel inferior to my friends. I am for what I am. So don't be discouraged

Anonymous · Answer

So everyone thats ugly should just die then right? What ugly to one person is not to another, find someone who likes you for you, if you don't like you, then change the way you look in the capacity that you can!

9teen · Answer

There is a lot of delicious food in the world

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you're having a pity party

JackD1984 · Answer

I'm ugly as hell and I found love... Sorta

Flower-petal · Answer

I'm not pretty but I still want to live gosh

hotdoggy · Answer

Ummmmm. Hotdogs obviously

Revolver_ · Answer

This is honestly very accurate

Anonymous · Answer

I actually don't think being invisibly is bad

CT_CD · Answer

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