Is it conceited or narcissistic to think of yourself as pretty/attractive?

[Anonymous]

Can you tell others you're attractive

[Dbdkfofnf]

Absolutely not.

Narcissism set's in if you can only think of no one else, but yourself. You can still think positive about who you are and still care immensely for others.

Don't pay attention to those who say yes, though. They're just insecure about themselves and have already conjured up a very poor perception towards how life works.

[InTimoreDei]

Why do you have to tell people that you're attractive? Just because you say you are attractive doesn't mean you ACTUALLY are. And telling people that you are is annoying and going to turn people off. If you think you are, that is enough. The need to want to tell people you are attractive is where the narcissism comes in.

[Asker]

I said to think of yourself as attractive, not to tell others you're attractive.

[vannefftor]

I'd say it's a difference between knowing that you're attractive and presenting said mentality actively

[midnightmoon05]

I think these terms are throw around too frequently... everyone seem to have a little bit of this and that if you want to over analizy peronality traits.

Its more important to have confident adn feel good about oneself and not have low self esteem that may hinder your ability to imporve yourself

[HomoFuge]

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a positive image of yourself. It's when you start acting like you are better than everyone else is when it becomes a problem.

[emmily2396]

Why would it be? Actually it's a lack of self-esteem to deny obvious qualities. Now, if you think you are the smartest/prettuest/etc. then yeah, you may have a problem.

[Spawnface]

Most of the time no. You can have a purely objective outlook and determine that it's just a fact.

There's a bit of complexity about the idea of narcissism that people may forget. The description comes from the story of narcissis, the guy that got himself killed because he was so obsessed and in love with his own reflection. A heavy element to narcissism is the obsession part in the persons mentallity.

You could see narcissism as belonging to the act of thinking you are pretty, but that doesn't mean it is the act of thinking you are pretty. It's a component on a micro level to the act. It's like if you were to regard a clock as nothing more than a cog, or a gear. The characterisation of being a narcissist should come after the event when the entire act is mostly self obsession, or when the only thing inside of the clock is a oversized gear that renders the clock not a clock.

[BleachLovesMe]

No, it's not, it's an amazing thing to feel proud of both your looks and personality, it's a good thing to be able to overcome all the negative comments on your shape that you would normally hear from the people around you because you genuinely think it suits you and works out for you.

However, too much of everything is not always a good thing, like Yes, it's an amazing thing and all, and I'm really glad that people like you exist! But, it sometimes has a negative effect on some females making them really judgmental or too snob that they start degrading all the people around them, it may also boost their ego to the point that nothing sastifies them, so it's good and all, but everything should be balanced!

God bless you! And I hope you stay the same way feeling positive about yourself for years to come!

[MackToday]

Depends on how into it you are, I'm fat and pock marked with acne scars. People like me can have it tough and it can make a deep thinker out of you, beat some sense into you and make you think. Thats one advantage I've got over people who are pretty, it's harder for vanity to prey on me. It's no joke being pretty, you can suffer too. I've seen people who were good looking get a lot of unwanted attention for instance or suffer from other peoples jealousy. It's tough on them sometimes.

[OlderAndWiser]

No. It is conceited to think of yourself as pretty and, therefore, better than others.

[WolfNamed]

But you can consider yourself attractive even if others don't. No it doesn't always mean you're conceited, sometimes it can be a boost of self-esteem. Attractiveness is an opinion not always a bad thing.

[WolfNamed]

thinking yourself as pretty versus prettier is different

[OlderAndWiser]

@WolfNamed I don't disagree with what you said, but the caption to the picture in the post is "Can you tell others you're attractive?" That prompted my elaboration.

[Asker]

Yeah, GAG added that photo and caption to my post, I'm not quite sure why as that wasn't what I was asking or meant with my original title.

[WolfNamed]

But I was talking about the OP's actual question rather than the pic. Yes I think the pic is wrong though. You shouldn't boast about it.

[OlderAndWiser]

My apologies, ma'am! I knew that G@G would sometimes add a photo but I had no idea that they would also add a caption!

[GoodManDave]

No. That by itself doesn't make you conceited. However, if you treat people badly because you think you are SO much better than most others because of your looks, then yes.

A Narcissist is someone who is obssessed with their looks to the point of it being unhealthy.

[15Nightingale51]

I think it is fine to like how you look. So many people hate how they look, and that isn't a healthy thing. It's just when you feel the need to tell people and remind them that it becomes an issue. If you stay humble about it, and accept compliments and leave it at that, there is nothing wrong with finding yourself attractive.

You can take it a step further and whenever people compliment you on your prettiness, acknowledge that your genetics determined how you look.

[alex_4rex]

No, it just means that you like yourself and are happy with your looks, it only means that you're not so insecure about it. It of course can get narcissistic if you do it on a very, very high level but actual narcissists would never ask if they're nasissists since they just believe that they're right in what they think about themselves

[BeMuse]

If they ask you, then it's no big deal to say it. If you trumpet it from the mountain tops when people are talking about something unrelated then you’re an ass.

[derek2017]

its not narcissistic if you only think that, if you think you're more pretty than most people thats where it becomes narcissistic also if you start telling people you're attractive you're gonna sound like a narcissistic bitch and most guys dont like that. One more thing... if you look attractive only when you wear make up... you're not really attractive...

[princessfromjupiter]

I don’t get the people who are saying “it’s not unless you think you’re better than others”.
If you think you’re attractive you’re intrinsically valuing your own looks above those of the average person so there’s really no way around thinking you look better than many or most people if you wanna genuinely feel attractive 😂

[TonyBologna25]

I can say that I’m attractive and I like the way I look. The only people that are going to have a problem with genuine and raw confidence like that are those who are insecure in themselves. Got my fiancé to lose a lot of weight, and last month she looked in the mirror and smiled saying “damn. i look fucking good “ with a big smirk on her face. She does man! I’m glad she’s confident in her appearance again. Confidence is a good thing.

[1828avaava1828]

no! love yourself ladies and gentlemen! im cute as hell

[Exterminatore]

Meh. You’re ok. Cute as hell is taking it a bit far. Smashable would be a better descriptor than cute as hell.

[1828avaava1828]

@Exterminatore pshhh palease lad

[Exterminatore]

Hahaha. That confident huh? Ok that confidence elevates you from merely smashable to cute.

[ToastyTimmy]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IC2crLlclNA&t=28s

[RobertToast1828]

@1828avaava1828 is always cute as hell!

[vannefftor]

It's fine if you know, but don't behave your life in a way that actively depicts your own self image as Superior to other people - narcissism and conceitedness are uglier than the physically ugliest of individuals

[Anonymous]

Only if you think you are better than other people because of that or that you are entitled to special treatment.

[JustADuDuDude]

Nope. It's actually quite good for you.

Now if we're talking: "I'm the best in the whole world. No one is better than me. Nothing can bring me down." Then that's sort of a problem...

But just simply being confident in your own skin... nothing wrong with that.

Basically, a different between confidence and arrogance.

[cchung85999]

No unless you’re not humble about it and come off as cocky. But having self confidence is good. For me I don’t know if I think I’m attractive because sometimes i look at myself in the mirror in admiration but other times when I take selfies I feel ugly. Interesting how people view you as your reflected/flipped version vs how you view yourself

So when people say I am attractive which is not very often I feel a sense of reassurance and confidence

[lifelearner011]

I think if you are not bragging about it, its not a problem. I mean, its a birth right to enjoy and love yourself.
I think it would become a problem if the person is contante saying it, or "emphasizing" in how "problematic" is to deal with being beautiful.. this can come off as a bit narcissist.

[Ayer93]

No. That's just being confident. If you think you're better than others and think the world revolves around you, that's another story.

[Whatthefluff]

If you’re attractive, be happy that you’re attractive. But quietly happy