Is it conceited or narcissistic to think of yourself as pretty/attractive?

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Dbdkfofnf · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not.

Narcissism set's in if you can only think of no one else, but yourself. You can still think positive about who you are and still care immensely for others.

Don't pay attention to those who say yes, though. They're just insecure about themselves and have already conjured up a very poor perception towards how life works.

InTimoreDei · Accepted Answer

Why do you have to tell people that you're attractive? Just because you say you are attractive doesn't mean you ACTUALLY are. And telling people that you are is annoying and going to turn people off. If you think you are, that is enough. The need to want to tell people you are attractive is where the narcissism comes in.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I think these terms are throw around too frequently... everyone seem to have a little bit of this and that if you want to over analizy peronality traits.

Its more important to have confident adn feel good about oneself and not have low self esteem that may hinder your ability to imporve yourself

HomoFuge · Accepted Answer

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a positive image of yourself. It's when you start acting like you are better than everyone else is when it becomes a problem.

emmily2396 · Answer

Why would it be? Actually it's a lack of self-esteem to deny obvious qualities. Now, if you think you are the smartest/prettuest/etc. then yeah, you may have a problem.

Spawnface · Answer

Most of the time no. You can have a purely objective outlook and determine that it's just a fact.

There's a bit of complexity about the idea of narcissism that people may forget. The description comes from the story of narcissis, the guy that got himself killed because he was so obsessed and in love with his own reflection. A heavy element to narcissism is the obsession part in the persons mentallity.

You could see narcissism as belonging to the act of thinking you are pretty, but that doesn't mean it is the act of thinking you are pretty. It's a component on a micro level to the act. It's like if you were to regard a clock as nothing more than a cog, or a gear. The characterisation of being a narcissist should come after the event when the entire act is mostly self obsession, or when the only thing inside of the clock is a oversized gear that renders the clock not a clock.

BleachLovesMe · Answer

No, it's not, it's an amazing thing to feel proud of both your looks and personality, it's a good thing to be able to overcome all the negative comments on your shape that you would normally hear from the people around you because you genuinely think it suits you and works out for you.

However, too much of everything is not always a good thing, like Yes, it's an amazing thing and all, and I'm really glad that people like you exist! But, it sometimes has a negative effect on some females making them really judgmental or too snob that they start degrading all the people around them, it may also boost their ego to the point that nothing sastifies them, so it's good and all, but everything should be balanced!

God bless you! And I hope you stay the same way feeling positive about yourself for years to come!

MackToday · Answer

Depends on how into it you are, I'm fat and pock marked with acne scars. People like me can have it tough and it can make a deep thinker out of you, beat some sense into you and make you think. Thats one advantage I've got over people who are pretty, it's harder for vanity to prey on me. It's no joke being pretty, you can suffer too. I've seen people who were good looking get a lot of unwanted attention for instance or suffer from other peoples jealousy. It's tough on them sometimes.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No. It is conceited to think of yourself as pretty and, therefore, better than others.

GoodManDave · Answer

No. That by itself doesn't make you conceited. However, if you treat people badly because you think you are SO much better than most others because of your looks, then yes.

A Narcissist is someone who is obssessed with their looks to the point of it being unhealthy.

15Nightingale51 · Answer

I think it is fine to like how you look. So many people hate how they look, and that isn't a healthy thing. It's just when you feel the need to tell people and remind them that it becomes an issue. If you stay humble about it, and accept compliments and leave it at that, there is nothing wrong with finding yourself attractive.

You can take it a step further and whenever people compliment you on your prettiness, acknowledge that your genetics determined how you look.

alex_4rex · Answer

No, it just means that you like yourself and are happy with your looks, it only means that you're not so insecure about it. It of course can get narcissistic if you do it on a very, very high level but actual narcissists would never ask if they're nasissists since they just believe that they're right in what they think about themselves

BeMuse · Answer

If they ask you, then it's no big deal to say it. If you trumpet it from the mountain tops when people are talking about something unrelated then you’re an ass.

derek2017 · Answer

its not narcissistic if you only think that, if you think you're more pretty than most people thats where it becomes narcissistic also if you start telling people you're attractive you're gonna sound like a narcissistic bitch and most guys dont like that. One more thing... if you look attractive only when you wear make up... you're not really attractive...

princessfromjupiter · Answer

I don’t get the people who are saying “it’s not unless you think you’re better than others”.
If you think you’re attractive you’re intrinsically valuing your own looks above those of the average person so there’s really no way around thinking you look better than many or most people if you wanna genuinely feel attractive 😂

TonyBologna25 · Answer

I can say that I’m attractive and I like the way I look. The only people that are going to have a problem with genuine and raw confidence like that are those who are insecure in themselves. Got my fiancé to lose a lot of weight, and last month she looked in the mirror and smiled saying “damn. i look fucking good “ with a big smirk on her face. She does man! I’m glad she’s confident in her appearance again. Confidence is a good thing.

1828avaava1828 · Answer

no! love yourself ladies and gentlemen! im cute as hell

vannefftor · Answer

It's fine if you know, but don't behave your life in a way that actively depicts your own self image as Superior to other people - narcissism and conceitedness are uglier than the physically ugliest of individuals

Anonymous · Answer

Only if you think you are better than other people because of that or that you are entitled to special treatment.

JustADuDuDude · Answer

Nope. It's actually quite good for you.

Now if we're talking: "I'm the best in the whole world. No one is better than me. Nothing can bring me down." Then that's sort of a problem...

But just simply being confident in your own skin... nothing wrong with that.

Basically, a different between confidence and arrogance.

cchung85999 · Answer

No unless you’re not humble about it and come off as cocky. But having self confidence is good. For me I don’t know if I think I’m attractive because sometimes i look at myself in the mirror in admiration but other times when I take selfies I feel ugly. Interesting how people view you as your reflected/flipped version vs how you view yourself

So when people say I am attractive which is not very often I feel a sense of reassurance and confidence

lifelearner011 · Answer

I think if you are not bragging about it, its not a problem. I mean, its a birth right to enjoy and love yourself.
I think it would become a problem if the person is contante saying it, or "emphasizing" in how "problematic" is to deal with being beautiful.. this can come off as a bit narcissist.

Ayer93 · Answer

No. That's just being confident. If you think you're better than others and think the world revolves around you, that's another story.

Whatthefluff · Answer

If you’re attractive, be happy that you’re attractive. But quietly happy

aloha96 · Answer

I’m starting to think thoughts about how I look attractive. And sometimes I need to stop myself from telling myself I’m arrogant... I used to hate myself completely and never truly loved what I looked like. Now I have days where I feel good and think I look good

Factshurt90 · Answer

No! Self confidence is healthy... telling yourself you are pretty is great!
Putting others down and needlessly comparing is where the problem comes. It passes into narcissism when you think you are better than everyone.

BulletproofNY · Answer

For the most part I’d think that’s mostly having a healthy self esteem.

megaman242 · Answer

No it's not, but with all types of power comes responsibility. Are you using it for evil or good? One day even you will become old, so beautiful is not a job, get your education, get a personality and get your self a job no matter how beautiful you might be.

jackie1999 · Answer

No everyone should, if you don't how will anyone else. Confidence is a good thing always

ranax · Answer

Thinking of yourself as pretty/attractive is different from thinking you are prettier or more attractive than most people. When you let it make you feel better or superior, things may escalate to narcissism or conceit.

saucegoddess · Answer

I don't think so.
Yet I still feel guilty for talking about me being pretty.
It's kind of ingrained in most of us that it's egotistical and narcissistic to consider yourself attractive/admit that you're good-looking.

CubsterShura · Answer

I'm almost 18 so naturally I look good now 😂 but it's just gonna take another decade to start seeing the beauty fade away as well. There is nothing to get arrogant about it. Beauty is temporary. Very temporary.

winterfox10 · Answer

It's one thing to acknowledge fact, or make an observation, but it's another to repeat something a lot. If you make a joke enough times, people stop thinking of it as a joke.

TheSoundOfSilas · Answer

Nope. It only becomes conceited if you demean others for being "below" your standards. Demeaning someone for being pretty due to the preconceived notion that they must be conceited because they are pretty, is also conceited.

Jupiter1 · Answer

I don’t consider myself conceited or narcissistic but I think some of my friends and relatives think I am. They won’t disagree though that I am quite handsome since they usually tell me I am.

Nivinxus · Answer

Only when you need to make it known to other people. Think of it this way, if you see it as your defining trait as a human being, then something is wrong.

shimmeryns · Answer

Its a positive self image. It means you are secure and confident about yourself. Narcissism is when you believe you are prettier than everybody else with the sense of entitlement that comes with it.

Ordinarygurl_ · Answer

No its arrogance that makes you anrcisstic or too much pride

mynameisvenus · Answer

No, I find myself attractive. How sad it would be to think of yourself as unattractive

MLGbreezy · Answer

No in fact I think it's the opposite so many people don't have that kind of confidence in themselves that they are attractive to begin with but if it starts to go to your head that's where I think it starts to be a problem

WolfNamed · Answer

If you feel you are pretty then you are, but if you feel you are more prettier than someone else then it becomes narcissistic or conceited. I'm not some 6 pack abs guy. In fact according to the bathroom scale I'm overweight. I believe I'm attractive still not out of narcissism but because I prefer to think of myself as not ugly. I do have other defining qualities but I can think of myself as nice looking.

menina · Answer

Of course not! You need to love yourself, regardless what other people think of you. Having an high self-esteem is one of the keys to success and to well-being.

Michellediva · Answer

To think of yourself that's pretty or attractive is not conceited or narcissistic unless you're rubbing it in people's faces which is absolutely terrible.

LtJackass · Answer

It is if you say it. Other than that it doesn't really matter. Not everyone is going to think you're attractive even if you are.

nickmd0616 · Answer

F**k no, be confident in you're skin, if you don't think you fine ah, than you better work on fixing that mindset

WalterBlack · Answer

It's only a problem if you start thinking that less attractive people don't deserve the same respect that you get.

JSmuve · Answer

Only if you go around saying it or posting it on social media all the time

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Not if it is true. No one likes a fake humble person

Elliegirl · Answer

Please. I’m adorable! I don’t go around telling people I’m better looking than them or anything like that. But since you asked, I’m way cute!

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Of course not, as long as you don't start thinking that makes you better than everyone else. If you're attractive, you're attractive, nothing wrong about enjoying being blessed in looks.

LizzyHale · Answer

I know I’m pretty/attractive. But at the same time I don’t like family taking pictures of me cause I think I’m ugly lol

tearout · Answer

nothing wrong with thinking you're attractive

JUST DO NOT LET IT GO TO YOUR HEAD OK DUMB ASS
many of us have gone through the cocky phase

trust me
you are not more special
I'm telling you this now as a warning
get over yourself quickly

Anonymous · Answer

in my opinion attractive people are really full of themselves

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, it's ok to have a positive view of self. Anything can go too far.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think so, if you know many people find you attractive but accept that you’ll never be every persons cup of tea, that’s probably normal. I think narcism occurs when someone feels superior to others, like they get off on feeling better and are competitive about it.

idk777 · Answer

To me, it's ok to see yourself as attractive. It becomes narcissistic/conceited when you place your self worth in that, and consider less attractive people to be less valuable.

cookiejarpb · Answer

It's fine to think u r cause it's self confidence. However if ur constantly telling others u think ur attractive then they will think ur a narcissistic person and also kinda dumb tbh

inmensus · Answer

Neither. It's what you do with that knowledge that could make you conceited or narcissistic.

Paris13 · Answer

Only If you Do Not Overdo it and Become, hun, An Attention Gag Getter Here, dear. lolxx

TheOnlyAriii · Answer

I think it's fine! But god damn would I love to be able to say AND think that about myself 😂

Felinegirl · Answer

No, it's very healthy! Bonus points if you think of most other people as attractive too.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

No.. If i looked this good, I would think I was pretty too!

the_imperfectionist · Answer

If its not at the point where you treat others like shit then no. Its just called having the confidence and self-lovd that I wish I had.

Isten · Answer

Not at all, but if you rub it in in everyone's face, then yeah, that's narcissistic behaviour.

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