Weather it's personality quirks, a blemish, a scar, stretch marks, like SOMETHING/ANYTHING? Like we got models out here that seem too perfect, get what I mean? Sure makeup could be hiding their flaws or plastic surgery or something. But like they are so attractive that at the same time you kinda lose interest? I'm of the mindset that you kind of "wear your history". Like they just feel totally unrelatable/fake or something? Is this just a me thing or can anyone relate?
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Ok so am I weird for liking a girl with apparent flaws?
No, I feel the same way. I think many men don't want to date a Stepford Wife. Another thing is, if someone seems too perfect, either on the outside or inside, it can make us feel self-conscious. Like, that person is far more prone to cheat or be unfaithful.
And while just about all straight women disagree with me, I personally HATE confidence in a person. Like, I've never liked ego and high pride in someone. I don't think most men feel one way or the other about it, but 99.9% of straight women want that above all else in a man, while I'm the opposite way regarding a woman. If she has a little bit of insecurities (or hell, even a lot), I find that to be a big turn-on. To me, it means she's down-to-earth and I can relate to her more (myself obviously having an intense dislike for being stuck at only 181 cm; likely the same height as her, but I'm a male down there).
I find a bit of insecurity to be a turn-on and confidence/ego to be huge turn-offs. I think yours is just the physical version of that.
well i did mention personality quirks but yeah all of that? I agree with it 110% my dude. You broke things down far better than me just winging it without thinking. But a woman with insecurities that CAN be vulnerable with me? That speaks volumes about her character, her bravery, and her intentions and that's the type of girl I have MAD respect for. 5'9 is not even that short so it's sad that you are bullied for your height. You're taller than most of the supposed macho barbarian warriors that fought against the Roman legions and today that's short? that's crazy! I'm 6'3, average downstairs, but believe me I myself am FULL of insecurities because i am well aware of my physical, personality, and monetary flaws and I think that with this means I am more humble and real with the people I surround myself with. And it annoys me too when the first time you meet a girl she just EXPLODES with energy and confidence. Not because I'm not happy for her to feel like she's not good enough but because I feel there is some level of arrogance there and she's not acknowledging the flaws. But sometimes those same women will build you up and help you feel better too. It's not all bad. But yeah I agree with the points you made. Good post.
175 is what 5'9" is. 181 cm is 5'11", which only goes one of two ways from people: 60% of people will claim I'm short and "the size of their little sister" or something, and I agree with them. The 40% will be far more insulting and give me backhanded compliments about being "mediocre, worthless, insignificant, meaningless, etc," but framed in a non-insulting way. Also referred to by most people as "average," like I don't even exist or matter or anything. Fuck that! If I'm going to be insulted by people, I'd much rather be told I'm a genetic failure through a direct statement, than to be called literally worthless (but "that's okay") through a backhanded compliment. It FUCKING drives me mad that because I'm the size of a girl, people think it's okay to shit on me in one of two different ways. But whatever; that's my own shit to deal with. I can't change not being the size of a woman anyway.
So yeah. That's why if I meet a girl who has a similar mindset in some other way (like a 6'2" girl who hates her height for being too tall), it's a big turn-on. It's like, "Yes! You GET me!" I'm not saying we have to "indulge each other's insecurities," so to speak. But it's like, finding a kindred spirit or something. I dunno.
Everyone has preferences! Whether you prefer to date guys w/big, muscular bodies, or you prefer to date girls with blonde hair, and perfect perky tits, they are preferences. If you have a preference for a specific “flaw” and you specifically refer to it as a flaw, it may be more of a kink, or a fetishizing of that flaw! Fetishizing is more common that people realize, I have a friend who is a transgender, she was explaining how there is an enormous amount of guys out there who have fetishized her and all trans women. They say if there is a porn category which describes the type of person that you are, be careful, because while fetishizing I can be okay, if you are emotionally strong and all you want is sex, it makes it extremely easy, but serious well-adjusted relationships almost never work out when the entire relationship is based on a fetish! So, while it is not only NOT weird to date women with stretch marks (for example), it’s admirable that you care about this person so much, their flaws are irrelevant. It might be dangerous for the stability of a long term relationship and extremely hurtful to the other person if they know about it, if you are fetishizing that “flaw”. I’m curious about why you made the question about your liking (or preferring) women with specific flaws like stretch marks, yet you post images of “perfect, flawless” women! Again, not being judgmental, just very curious. 🤨
Oh because of all the guys basically posting all these seemingly "perfect" models that appear flawless at a glance according to our society, not because of me. I like every stage of a woman's body. There's aspects i love before pregnancy, during pregnancy, after pregnancy, she's beautiful physically in different ways. The soul is ALWAYS going to be beautiful to me and the love is only going to deepen by the day regardless of how she looks because of all we did/meant for each other. As I mentioned in another response to me stretch marks are sexy and unique in their own way. There is not a specific quirk or flaw I fetishize about but having them makes the person feel relatable to me. The more shit a girl has gone through in life, the more like issues/baggage, for some reason she becomes more sexually appealing to me. It's weird but it's because i feel we are kindred spirits.
their are only two body types from women i just outright find unnattractive and a turn off, morbidly obese and muscular. i like every other kind of body, every shade, color, idc.
No I was curious because you specifically asked about your attraction to women with flaws, jet you chose to post two separate images of flawless women (and, be real. They are clearly flawless, not “seemingly flawless”. I mean if I (a woman) can see and appreciate the fact that they are both clearly, obviously flawless, it’s okay for you too.
you dont know what they look like when the makeup is off, what they are have underneath the clothes, and also their actual mental and emotional state. So i feel seemingly flawless better unless I know they basically grew up super rich, never had any life struggles, and got everything handed to them in life. Which I mean DOES happen but I don't know them personally so can't say.
Yes! I have a few scars from various things but I think they tell a story. I have stretch marks on my stomach from kids too and it doesn’t bother me. If men don’t like it then tough it’s part of me! I never understand people with lots of scars that are ashamed of them it’s just you. These models are airbrushed nobody has such perfect glowing skin and I think they should show models with more flaws. It’s like when you buy underwear. The model has her boobs taped up and is perfect then you get it home and you’re like uhh…. ok I wasn’t expecting to look like that in it 🤣
Enjoyed reading this. Nothing wrong with stretch marks to me. I have many but on women? I find them very sexy NGL. Our stories tell our tale and a good person is going to love to hear I all and fall deeper into love over it. Just my experience with how I feel.
Yeah, I'm the same way. Girls on the Reddit page for plastic surgery make me hang my head in shame when they post their before and after photos. Their unique features, which may be deemed as flaws by some, completely disappear after they get "trendy" plastic surgery modifications. They basically transform from a girl with quirky features that are kinda adorable into a walking zombie. There was one such girl with a unique Italian nose, nice thin lips, and smaller breasts. She looked completely fine to me but in her "after" photo she basically looked like every other fake bimbo model on instagram. Why would you want to look like everyone else?
I have some flaws, lots of scars from martial arts injuries but I don't care at all. I'm proud of it.
Nah I get what ya mean. There's some guys out there (like supermodels) that in my brain it's like they're TOO hot! I know that doesn't really make a lot of sense but it's like the power... It's too great
Let me play devil's advocate. Too many people agreeing gives me anxiety 😏
One can argue that this seeming perfection, in your eyes, actually becomes a negative. A flaw. Therefore making them imperfect. So, that would be SOMETHING/ANYTHING. In fact, it would be an apparent flaw from your perspective.
hey that's I guess one way of looking at it lol. But I wonder what the general public thinks about it. But it's a good point to be made and a way of thinking outside the box for sure lol. XD
Well for starters these people aren't lacking for attention or affection. I don't think they know what that's like to the degree that I do. Or to live at the bottom rung, have little if any care or respect sent their way, have a chance to find a SO, I don't know. I certainly don't get things handed to me for my looks. Not that I care about material I honestly haven't cared about that at all in my adult life. I can't even feel two arms around me ever
I totally relate to this, I generally steer clear of women that wear too much makeup because I know they are hiding something. It might not be a physical thing they are hiding, but mentally they are hiding behind their makeup because of insecurities. I also just think lots of makeup just looks cheap and forced, I especially hate bright red lipstick, if I wanted to date a hooker I would!
You have to understand social psychology,, being accepted or at least normal in the society now a days demands some definite set of physical features Girls specially coz not only they have to be acceptable on male grounds but also on female grounds Comes tic surgery Is the new normal and if you check the figures you would realize that people who have normal features or bad features are considered and even treated less than human by those who either have it or those who can afford it, If females don't have good body fair skin and good facial features then it's it's problem In fact even housewives in india are getting cosmetic surgery they are not celebs or someone who has a super large social circle they are just following a trend so that they don't fall behind and that creates a chain reaction a butterfly affect If you get the point
I've never met a girl who didn't have flaws. That's a plus because I have flaws, too, and if a girl was perfect, she would probably want a perfect guy.
true and fair enough. Just didn't know if i was an oddball. gonna repost a response to you: "all the guys basically posting all these seemingly "perfect" models that appear flawless at a glance according to our society, not because of me. I like every stage of a woman's body. There's aspects i love before pregnancy, during pregnancy, after pregnancy, she's beautiful physically in different ways. The soul is ALWAYS going to be beautiful to me and the love is only going to deepen by the day regardless of how she looks because of all we did/meant for each other. As I mentioned in another response to me stretch marks are sexy and unique in their own way. There is not a specific quirk or flaw I fetishize about but having them makes the person feel relatable to me. The more shit a girl has gone through in life, the more like issues/baggage, for some reason she becomes more sexually appealing to me. It's weird but it's because i feel we are kindred spirits."
That depends on whether it was your idea that the flaw is okay or was it her idea. Because if it's her idea then next thing you know you'll be claiming that 550 pound women with short green hair and mustaches are hot since they have great personalities. But that'd also be giving her way more power over how you think than she gives men who she's telling, 'like me or else', 'like me or you're a bad person' and so on.
ah I've given into peer pressure 3-4 times in my life that I can think of. Always ended up in trouble. Most recently a hospital bed... not a story I uhhhh are to revisit and certainly not one of my prouder moments. At least the hospital staff was cool about it!
I ALso go for 7/10 rather than 10/10... It sounds stupid... But to me 7/10 seem more attractive than 10/10.. I know that makes no sense but some flaws can actually be hot for some reason
for me, deep down I like a girl with some real world baggage. I cannot relate to a woman who hasn't been through some traumatic shit of some sort unless she's REALLY going to go out of her way the same way I do to understand each other. A woman with emotional and or physical scars to me they are a kindred spirit.
In nature perfection is plastic and variety and uniqueness is Beauty and that's the reason everyone or everything has its own flaws or should I say unique traits. So it's completely natural to like people the way they are, imperfect and beautiful 😊
Even if someone may look perfect on the outside, does not mean they are perfect inside. There are always going to be flaws, in every one, like some bad personality traits or even something more etc.
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