Is true beauty only found in appearances, or is it found from within?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes, the only beauty that matters is your appearance

True beauty is found under the skin

This is a stupid question

[ohsheeT]

No this is a really good question really for me I have to be able to look into somebody's eyes because I want to know who they are on the inside our body is supposed to be our Temple so that means that guards something very special on the inside it protects it that would be our soul our spirit and our energy our energy is our guiding light it teaches us and it guides us our energy is our heart our mind our soul our spirit all in one it's who you truly are because the temple the body when it falls to the ground your energy gathers your soul your spirit everything you said and done it's your guiding light it takes you into another dimension energy never dies so for me true beauty is on the inside just like when somebody says somebody's ugly there's no such thing because ugly can only come from the inside if You're Beautiful on the inside the outside of your body is all just an extra bonus it's because it's something that we can feel something that we can hold on to something that we can become one and that's what makes it beautiful too

[exitseven]

Beauty is only skin deep but ugliness goes all the way to the bone

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[CrimsonAngel09]

That middle vote is a joke.

There's a large amount of people on here that clearly care about looks way more than personality. Just go to the How Do I Look topic, and count the amount of model looking people posted. There's rarely ever any average people on here, and when pictures like that are posted, they are bullied on their appearance.

No one in here cares about personality, 57% of people are lying to make themselves look good.

[DopeTurtle]

It’s both. I personally need both in order to be in relationship with someone. If you’re only beautiful on the outside then it only remains physical, if it’s only beauty on the inside then the most we become is really good friends.


Someone is gorgeous when they are absolutely beautiful in every fabric of their being

[DextroShade]

This is an oversimplification because beauty is different for men than it is for women. For men to find a woman beautiful, she has to be physically attractive to him first and her personality is what keeps him around after sex. Few men will care about a woman's personality if she's 300 lbs.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Are you saying that men are shallow by nature then?

[DextroShade]

Men and women are attracted to different things: men are attracted more to physical beauty and women are more attracted to status and resources. If men are shallow then women are gold-diggers.

[Alli39]

As a woman, I fundamentally disagree with this statement. Women are not attracted to status and resources above all else. That's not the kind of thing I even determine about people when I make judgements about how attractive they are. As for men, I can't exactly make any guarantees, but the guys I've talked to tend to say something along the lines of "60-40/70-30" personality-physical attractiveness in terms of what makes a person desirable in a relationship. Which, unshockingly is similar to what I've heard from women.

[DextroShade]

@Alli39 most men cannot be honest with women about this because they are immediately shamed if they are, as @CupcakeTheDestroyer's previous post so perfectly demonstrates. Also, I'm sure that there are plenty of homeless guys with great personalities but you aren't dating them so stop the cap.

[Alli39]

Ok first, if you're intent on believing that men are inherently shallow, assumedly because you are, then there's little I can do to change your mind.
I mean if the homeless guy is physically attractive, kind, emotionally stable & available, driven, caring, emotionally compatible, and has good personal hygiene then why wouldn't I? But most people dealing with major crises like that are not in a place to exhibit those traits. It's not about the fact that they have no money or status. I'm in college. Everyone is broke here lol.

I know you probably want to believe that women are only attracted to status or wealth or whatever as an excuse for why you aren't in a relationship, an assumption I'm making based that fact that I've never heard this attitude from someone that was in a healthy relationship, but it's simply not true. Lying to yourself that women are all completely shallow won't change your situation and won't help you to honestly evaluate yourself, you experiences, your strengths, and your flaws.

In the same vein, I'm guessing you want to believe men are collectively shallow as an excuse for why you won't date all the non-super models out there that may be completely compatible with you. That's equally unhealthy.

[DextroShade]

@Alli39 you can shame men's preferences as "shallow" all you want we still aren't going to prefer fat chicks. Funny how no one calls women shallow when they all want a guy who is 6' tall.

I notice that you hoes have a habit of calling any guy who dares to hold you accountable an incel. It's like the only comeback you have and it's pathetic. For record, I have been married for over 7 years so now you just sound stupid.

by the way, we don't require her to look like a supermodel but she has to be attractive enough to pass the boner test which will vary from man to man.

[Alli39]

Actually it's not shallow to have a preference on weight or height or any physical treat really, but it is pretty shallow to refuse to get to know someone just because they don't match your physical preferences exactly (so yes, refusing any man shorter than 6' is shallow lol)

And I never once used the term incel, but I'm not sure what lead to you feeling the need to call me a hoe. That seems unnecessarily rude. Frankly, I'm very confused as to how you're married and still have this attitude. Definitely a first for me. Personally I would never marry someone who thinks that all men are shallow and all women are gold diggers because, as I mentioned, it's not a very healthy mindset. So good on you for finding someone who will put up with it I guess?

But basically what you're saying it that you have to find the woman attractive at all, which is pretty much what I was just describing in reference to how women treat men's looks at well... So we're on the same page.

[DextroShade]

@Alli39 you implied that I was an incel and the use of the word "shallow" is shaming language. The truth is men and women value different things in a potential partner: men value youth and beauty because it means the woman is more likely to bear healthy offspring while women value a man's resources because it means that said offspring will be taken care of. I do not knock women or shame them for wanting a financially secure man but men are mocked for wanting healthy looking women. The double standard is atrocious.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Neither of you will convince the other of your argument since you’re arguing opinions. Can you just agree to disagree so I don’t have to keep coming back here to erase the notifications for your fight?

[TheUniqueOne96]

Within.

A shitty person is a shitty person, regardless of how they look.

[MementoMori777]

they both can have beauty, physical and personality

[dragoblack]

Its found in both. There's physical beauty and beauty of personality. You can be either or both, but a great deal of the time both is very rare

[Kelly6]

i will say it can be found both ways. depends who's looking and what they value most

[kylee2437]

It’s definitely both.

[Jackie167]

Both, inside and out :)

[Wise4myage]

I say both.

[Christoff92]

Both

[EaterPeter]

Other