Would you be mad if your partner got a piercing/tattoo without telling you first?

Question

My hubby is leaving for a bit. Planning on getting some piercings while he's gone and making it a surprise! He isn't the type to get mad about these type of things but I'm wondering how most people would react to this. Would y'all be mad or not if your partner got piercings/tattoos without telling you first?

mortonc57 · Accepted Answer

My girlfriend broke up with me when she saw I tattooed a giant Playboy bunny on my arm even though we talked about getting matching tattoos on our anniversary, Playboy bunnies even.

She didn't like the visibility/location or hot pink (color picked for her !) and made fun of me until we broke up. Then I got another bunny on my other arm (blue) to show her.

matchrestore · Accepted Answer

Unless the tattoo was offensive in any way, my wife can do whatever she wants. That being said, she hasn't done any piercings (even her ears) or tattoos yet, and the piercings she's thought about getting she has discussed with me. I've also discussed the piercing I've been thinking of with her as well.

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

I would have to say in most case scenarios no I would not mind of course there are exceptions to these rules such as a face tattoo other than basic makeup tattoo something offensive such as a swastika or their ex's name.

In in extreme cases if they came home looking something like this I would most certainly mind

Would you be mad if your partner got a piercing/tattoo without telling you first?

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

He knows that I love body mods, so I could never be mad. Though I would be confused as to why he didn’t tell me first.

Losalt · Answer

I'd get annoyed if she doesn't consult me first at least.
It *is* her body and she'll of course have the final say.
But if I'm together with someone then my body and hers is part of that package and see *should* have a say about each other at least and respect each others feelings.

If she wanted something I didn't like, talked with me and still decided to do it I'd be disappointed but I don't think I'd be annoyed or angry.
But just going ahead without involving me at all?
I'd be annoyed, even if I liked it, sorry.

Mangospacho · Answer

Yeah, if it was a tattoo of an ex’s name, I would be very very mad.

Although, I don’t think my wife would get any piercings, she does have one tattoo already and knows what I think of it so she would probably be too excited to get one behind my back and I would probably help her pick out a good one.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I am more likely to be a fan of whatever it is so to me nah. But if this was a case of something I hate like how there are many people who hate Tats (Yeah I don't know why either) then yeah I would be mad.

But if one hated something like that, one would assume they've already mentioned this at some point and both understand that therefore doing this would only be out of spite really. And a clear bad sign something is going wrong anyway.

TooHot2Care · Answer

No, I like Tattoos. Especially tramp stamps.

It's just. . . . Iunno, if it were me? I'd tell her about it first.

Like, making a change like that without at least consulting her or letting her know? Sub-communicates that I don't value her opinion.

SnowedIn · Answer

Nope! They can do what they want. I don't promise to like it, however, lol. But I'll love them and it's their choice. Don't leave us in suspense... what are you going to get?

ZackBan · Answer

Mad isn't the word but potentially disappointed depending on the outcome.

Now if you already have tatts and piercings then it's all good.

If not then it will depend on what you get and where.

Like if I'm irked out by snakes and you go get a cobra on your thigh I might be less inclined to kiss it (just a dumbed down example)

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I mean seeing as I’ve got like over 30 tattoos and hella piercings. If he wants one then why should I be mad🤷🏻‍♀️

Fuentes · Answer

Wouldn't care, but really don't go getting some weird tramp stamp and then purposely showing it off to other men, cause imma assume u tryna cheat

Jonnyanalog · Answer

My wife has a bunch of tattoos and never told me about any of them. It’s her choice. I told her if she wanted more to think about the long term. Is she gonna be happy with that on her body when she’s 80 and the image is blurry and faded?

Nik1hil · Answer

If my wife she does that, I am leaving her..

Bound by fire, we were forged as one.

Neither of us can, take a physical or spiritual decision without consulting other, and such action, against your partners will. Means you have already broken the forged bond and hence. Its over

mrkdvsn · Answer

My wife, before we got married, already had a nose piercing that I wasn't too happy about. But then she told me she was getting a very large "snake" tattoo on her back which really ticked me off. Yes, she told me before she did it, but it didn't make my anger any less.

AviatorTom · Answer

I wouldn't get mad, but I might be disappointed... she knows I don't like tattoos... neither does she, so I'd be surprised too.

Mansearching · Answer

Depends where and what on both. But its her body and she's 18 and over. Nothing I can do but be mad, wine and cry. Don't wanna do that at all.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Probably not. It's HER body, and I like piercings and tattoos anyways, as long as it's not on her tongue.  Of course input would be nice, but making it a surprise would also be cool

Hithere4567 · Answer

It's totally their call. I love the way people express themselves that way anyhow. I love them just the way they choose to be.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Depends where and why she didn't tell me but piercings never bothered me if it's not somewhere weird

Nick1976G · Answer

Nope... it's her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. I would love for her to tell me and then let me look for it. 😍

strateguy632 · Answer

my combination, i didn't see here. i wouldn't expect them to tell me. when i discover it, i won't feel angry, about the tattoo nor the secret. that said almost all tattoos are a turn off and i would leave.

Anonymous · Answer

Considering I don't like either and am not shy about verbalizing that, yeah I would. But everything is relative. If the tattoo was small I'd probably be ok with it. But piercing... that could be a deal breaker, I dunno.

TCredo · Answer

I highly doubt she ever would but I'd find it to be exciting if she did :)

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I wouldn't care as long as it wasn't on her face or something

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I wouldn’t care, but tell me about it because I’m interested. I love tattoos

soe11 · Answer

Her her choice, her freedom is belong to her.

Redstang88 · Answer

Not likely, unless she knows it’s something I don’t like

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

She's more than welcome to do so, just as I'm more than welcome to find her less attractive afterwards.

Christoff92 · Answer

I knew she was into the trends. It's her personality traits that I care about more.

LordOfThePines · Answer

Not at all! I would want to see their new art. :)

Z1pTD · Answer

I wouldn't be mad but I'd be a bit sad I wasn't there with them :)

Beckyw87 · Answer

It’s your body not his! I got plenty of tattoos and piercings while I was with someone and I wouldn’t of cared if he said no or had an opinion on it

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

The two people who said yes has serious issues.

jammcm · Answer

I would be very upset. I do not like seeing people with piercing/tattoos. I don't make this public knowledge so if my partner showed up with either it would be bad.

Anonymous · Answer

I make her name tattoo on my cock... And i show her on her birthday she like it lol. 😂

Likes2drive · Answer

I don’t think I would be mad at a piercing, but maybe a tattoo since they don’t fade away, piercing holes, fill in after a while and heal

bolverk · Answer

I'd be concerned, I've hand to deal with too many infected piercings and tattoos.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Your body, but my opinion lol

Surely · Answer

I am not a fan of tattoos or piercings.  Might be upset with her.

blondfrog · Answer

Yes the tattoo would bother me. I don't like tattoos. Sorry its just such a turn off for me.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I hate tattoos and no piercings without asking me, unless it was only on her ears

CubaPirate · Answer

Disappointed but not angry

BootsLover94 · Answer

Her body her choice

Bricealan · Answer

Their body, they have to wear it!!!

LovingJo · Answer

Depends  where  they got it..

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No I wouldn't but what piercing are you planning on getting

elontesler3 · Answer

trust me, i invented the Tesler Sibertruck, SpaceseX, and i own Twatter.

DerekC321 · Answer

I like pierced nipples.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It would depend on what she was getting pierced

ShesRad80 · Answer

not at all

krin_m · Answer

As long as she is happy, I don't care.

dolemite58 · Answer

depends if it looked good or not

exitseven · Answer

I would be mad.

Abdulwahh · Answer

I like no tattoos

gothbxtch · Answer

not at all

Agape93 · Answer

Nope.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Probably not.

Alex-Snow · Answer

It is their body

DextroShade · Answer

That is trashy whore behavior.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

No it would be a nice surprise

boobliker · Answer

I do care but it would be her choice

Cubus · Answer

Yes, I would. Tattoo is a thing for live

peterrezeeek · Answer

yes she has to tell me 1st

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