Why do people on here act like I have an ants waist?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why but the last time I showed a picture of myself some people assumed I photoshopped it, which is kind that y'all think I'm talented but I never learned how to do photoshop. My waist isn't even that small 'cause I've seen IG models with waists as wide as their heads. These are different pictures different timelines.

I did gain a little weight over the years. And yeah I felt the need to prove it.

[Anonymous]

Between photoshop and surgeries being so common today, this waist is very common in 2023.
Before 2023 most had it from filters and photshop

today, most have it due to surgery

so wether is natural or enhanced by a surgeon, it’s not uncommon to see this so I don't know what people would be so surprised to see small waists.

the second photo however seems big compared to the others and surprisingly it’s the I my one that’s not so blurry

[Asker]

My phone got upgraded from an iphone 8 to an iphone 13 pro. Do you now understand? Also no one is getting surgery at 16. I was 16 in some of these pictures

[Asker]

The second one is also blurrier than the third one since the second one is zoomed in. Also was probs bloated in that one

[Opinion Owner]

Well teen years if you’re not eating like a pig most have small waists it’s not abnormal unless you live in a predominantly fat state like Ohio or predominantly hispanic neighborhood where the average girl weighs 70 pounds

The second photo doesn’t look bloated just doesn’t look small cinched.

In regards to age and surgery. Many women have their first surgeries between 14 and 15

[Opinion Owner]

99.999% of women who have surgery will always deny it.

[Asker]

Thanks that you think I have the funds for that.

[violetsareviolet]

Your waist looks normal lol I think they're just jealous that you're in shape 😅

[Asker]

Yeah exactly but jealousy is not a reason to hate on someone in my opinion :/

[Adventurer23]

You don't have an aunt's waist! 😋 Seriously though, it looks like a pretty normal waist to me. 🤷🏼‍♂️ People online are always going to have something to say about everything. Just ignore them and live your life for you, and not according to what other people say. 👍

[Asker]

Some women irl say I got surgery too tho. From when I was younger till now.

[Sonorous]

Probably because they're not used to seeing someone with a significant waist to hip ratio? I don't know man. Better off ignoring them anyway.

[Asker]

Okayy but I was sad because it was a anonymous girl. That's a different type of hurt

[Sonorous]

In my opinion, that should be even more laughable. An anon spouting hate! Too afraid to say it normally with their identity shown.

What women think about the way you look doesn't really matter though since you seem to be able to attract guys fine based on the photos.

[Asker]

That's my boyfriend in both pics 😅

[Sonorous]

Exactly. Only his opinion should matter then! I mean he's the one enjoying your hips & waist right... 🤣

[Asker]

I wish I was someone who didn't care ab other people's opinion

[Sonorous]

I feel you on that one. In a way, I wish I was like that too. Everytime time I look in the mirror & see a "flaw," I can't help but think to myself "Would I really view this as a flaw if there were nobody here to judge it? How much of my attempts at bettering myself are heavily influenced by outside perception?" It's hella conflicting trying to be fully secure in ourselves but realizing that human perception of us can literally alter our lives trajectory.

However, since I don't think it's humanly possible to completely get rid of it, I think we need to care to a certain extent in order to maintain a healthy balanced ego. The healthy part is just finding the balance. And that might even involve having good people in our lives to help balance the scales.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't have a good balance right now

[Sonorous]

I think it's always something humans will struggle with. It's definitely always going to be something that I'll struggle with.

I do notice that what helps me a lot is to remember my baseline. For instance, my body right now isn't very impressive if I were a bodybuilder. But compared to my super scrawny baseline, I've made a lot of good progress! Helps with any body dysmorphia I struggle with. I respect the progress I've made & I understand first hand what it took to get this figure. I don't need a lot of outside validation personally because I validate myself enough. I understand how the body should look when it is healthy & that matters most!

So basically, I like to focus on the things in my control & the things I can actively change for the better while trying my hardest to not pay much emotional attention to the things that aren't in my control as much. I want them to simply exist in a way that helps me establish how to better navigate obstacles.

[Sonorous]

A good thing to think is "What would a reasonable person think of me?" Or maybe even "what would God think of me?" (if you're the religious type) The reason I believe this way of thought is so important is because it helps us weed out opinions that shouldn't matter much. I firmly believe that not every opinion is equally valuable to us.

People should earn their spot at our tables. For instance, a King or Queen wouldn't put much value in a peasant sitting at their table criticizing their way of life. They'd consider the opinions of those more similar to them. Those they can trust. Those who understand their lifestyle more accurately & what it truly takes to be them/what they go through.

It's why you might have heard people people say that when you receive criticism from an enemy, consider it & talk about it with a trusted friend. A truthful & truly beneficial friend for you will be able to acknowledge any truths the enemy said while also highlighting the flaws. And of course, it helps to even be that friend for ourselves.

[Asker]

I feel like hate comments get to me the most tho.. I'm already insecure so they just push me further into a hole of sadness

[Sonorous]

Maybe it is a sign that you need to withdrawal from social media? I did years ago when it was negatively affecting my mental health & it helped a lot. Do you feel that it is an addiction for you? If so, then ofc it will be harder to shake.

[Asker]

I don't have any real social media anymore. I don't use instagram, facebook, snapchat,... I do use tiktoks for fun videos of my bird but not for watching video's and yeah youtube and stuff

[Sonorous]

Ahh okay I see. Well if I were you, I'd no longer post my body to any site tbh. Until I got my perception of myself under control ofc.

I notice that especially with women, if there's nothing wrong with your body or especially if it looks better than the vast majority of women's bodies, other women may want to be mean. Then you'll see the adverse affect if a woman has a below average looking body. She might get a looot of love from women in the form of pity. But both instances aren't true, do you see? It's just noise.

[Asker]

People say I got surgery irl too. I can't escape that shit :)

[Joker_]

I don't remember asking

[Sonorous]

@Joker_ you did ask but you have dementia so you don't remember

[Joker_]

ok lol

[Sonorous]

Hey don't worry about so much. It's a normal condition that can happen to even the best of us.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Who fucking knows, at least you got the courage to post full body photos of yourself, unlike me.

Fuck'em.

Fuck their comments, fuck their assumptions.

[Asker]

Thank you ❤️

[RyanK9b]

Maybe last one looks a bit fishy. But still not unhealthy.

I guess they aren't used to hips like that bc they tend to see only fat ones

[Asker]

Yeah but people forget I had a lower quality phone + taking pictures on the snapchat app back then was disastrous.

[Mynameisbobby]

Your waist is perfect! They are cray cray 😜

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Mynameisbobby]

You're welcome 😊

[Jerre]

I think you look great, a very nice waistline and body. Wish I was the guy in the next to last photo.

[Asker]

Hahaha 😅

[Jerre]

@Lisia Thank you for the Like Lisia!

[HitsyHonesty]

I guess they like calling a slim waist an ants waist I don't know! Silly people doing their silly people things!

[Cubus]

You're just blessed when it comes to body proportions. It's not bad in any way

[Asker]

Thanks

[Cubus]

You're welcome, lady.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

You got amazing body 👌👌for sure you boyfriend is one lucky guy 😂😂👍👍

[Asker]

Thanksss

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Hey if this is your body then you can pull off lowest shorts 😂😂

[Asker]

Hahaha don't want to flash my asscrack tho

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yes the asscrack is where I think it gets vulgar to be honest (in these pics n that post pics it look decent )

[Smashingdoozy]

That last picture is definitely edited. I can see dips and pixel disturbances.

[Asker]

It's not but okay

[Smashingdoozy]

Yeah the thing on the wall behind you just naturally curves into your waist...

[Asker]

My wall isn't curving? 💀

[Smashingdoozy]

Whatever is to the right of the picture is. As well as some disturbance on the edge of the table. It's obvious to trained eyes. You have a small waist either way, you don't need to edit it smaller. 😊

[Asker]

But the table is under my waist? I don't see how that works. And the thing next to me is still in my room atm and looks the same. But it's fine whatever

[DaBiggestBird]

“Ant waist”? That’s literally normal, they’ve clearly been living in a shoe box. Probably never seen a starved North Korean kid.

[Kingofkings1992]

Your waist looks fine to me. I think you have a nice body girl 🙂

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[Anonymous]

Your waist looks fine. Don't listen to these people.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Half the country is obese. People forgot what normal looked like.

[Asker]

Lucky I'm from Belgium 😅

[BoopBoopBeep]

You folks are catching up to us ;) In Belgium, half of the population was overweight in 2018. Furthermore, one out of five Belgians suffered from obesity. Objective height and weight measurements (from the Belgian health examination survey) reveal even higher figures, with as much as 55% of the adult population being overweight and 21% being obese.

www.healthybelgium.be/.../weight-status

Incidentally, training for my favorite job had an instructor from Belgium. Great guy. We became old friends. Always wanted to visit his homeland.

[Asker]

Maybe around my age people are more skinny then?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I wonder if it's a city/country thing. Or some districts/provinces/states/whatever you have there are better than others. Not a huge country, but maybe...

[Asker]

I come from "Antwerpen" I believe we have the most normal accents 😅

[BoopBoopBeep]

Oh pity then. His accent was always so much fun to hear :P

[jshm2]

Because you do.

Also, you are going to develop kidney problems most likely.

[Asker]

Yay.

[Asker]

I don't drink alcohol so that at least makes me more healthy.

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Why do you keep posting photos of yourself? It's kind of sad...

[Asker]

Why am I not allowed to?

[AydenHazor]

You've got a small waist compared to your hips, and that's likely what they're focused on

[Friendlybro79]

Who cares what anyone thinks? If you share stuff here there's always a percentage of trolls that just want to upset you.

[Asker]

Irl people say I got surgery too tho

[Friendlybro79]

Why are these conversations coming up in real life? This is no one's business. If you are over sharing your personal stuff that will open you up to conversation you might not like.

[Asker]

No rumours.. they don't say it to me but I find out. I once confronted a girl about it and she was being hella mean about it, but that was also a girl who burned down the female lockersrooms

[Friendlybro79]

This is very childish behavior. I wouldn't associate with anyone bringing you drama and also not consume an ounce of your time to having to prove anything to random strangers online. Your 19. Enjoy your youth and don't worry about this crap. Lol. I hope you have a nice day.

[boobliker]

you have a good waist and you show it to all they are only jealous about it!

[Still-alive]

Because clearly you are the queen of your colony and have workers bringing back food for you and your babies.

*gets out a can of Raid*

[Asker]

Eyy!! Don't kill my colony

[LunarEclipse433]

In my opinion you have a very nice body. There is nothing wrong with your waist or any part. That navel however is really cute.

[Asker]

I hate my navel 😭 it's so round

[LunarEclipse433]

Can I put a cherry in it and eat it?

[Adventurer23]

@LunarEclipse433 Dude, she's 19. Chill.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You truly have an hour glass figure and you do have a small waist but looks even smaller cause you have wide hips

[Asker]

I'd say I have a pear shaped body

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nah it's a hourglass shape don't be ashamed of it embrace it