Should women wear makeup to a funeral?

[Babygirl_S]

I think it's shameful and shows that you aren't sad

Aishwarya Rai 's makeup look for her father's funeral

Yes

No

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+1 y

How would you feel if someone did that at YOUR funeral?

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+1 y

I wonder why happy people can't wear makeup but those attending a funeral can 🤔🤔

[Red_Arrow]

I certainly would not show up at a funeral wearing ratty clothes and looking unkempt. I wear a suit and nice shoes, shave, and have a recent haircut. The women I have seen at funerals are dressed nicely and appear to have their normal makeup on. We are there to pay our respect to someone we cared about and every funeral I have been to, those attending look nicer than if they were heading off to a day of work, or to a picnic, so they at least wear a minimal amount of makeup.

[Babygirl_S]

Gross

[Red_Arrow]

So you think wearing ratty clothes and looking like shit is the way to not be gross?

[Babygirl_S]

No! But makeup and being overdressed aren't necessary

[Red_Arrow]

I was not suggesting overdressed. That would be a tuxedo. But wearing what one wears to church (where most funeral are held) is also not overdressed. And makeup is also worn to church.

[Babygirl_S]

Really? Anyway, not all people go to church when someone dies.

[Babygirl_S]

I think only Christians do that.

[Red_Arrow]

Many people who die are Christians and their funerals are held at churches, so the people who attend the funeral go to the church, regardless of their own religious beliefs. And they dress nicely. That is not overdressed. And neither is wearing makeup.

[Babygirl_S]

I wonder why wearing makeup is a big issue but not a problem if it's a funeral

[Red_Arrow]

Who says happy people can't wear makeup? Do you live in communist China?

[dolemite58]

wouldn't u just ruin ur mascara if ur gunna be crying though? 🤔

[Babygirl_S]

But if someone's happy enough to put on makeup they're not really gonna cry

[DishLady]

Traditionally, adornments (including colorful makeup) are not supposed to be worn to any solemn occasion. Some women do wear a little makeup (enough to cover severe blemishes or ruched eyes), but not more than that. (No contouring or rouge or shadow or gunk... it's considered disrespectful.) Same rule applies to jewelry (simple pearls or a smaller statement piece... nothing colorful or garish).

[avery58]

Tbh I always wondered how people could wear makeup after tragic events, for example one that stayed with me was a mother who had just lost her daughter and was doing a brief interview on the news with makeup on (just lipstick and mascara, but still).

I'm not trying to demerit their feelings, but I find it strange.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

The camera people may have done that for her because of the publicity.

[Babygirl_S]

@TheRealPepperPotts No she is wearing makeup

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I was referring to @avery58's comment about the mother who was being interviewed, not the picture you posted. News crews often have people who are there to make sure the newscaster looks their best before coming on camera. One of them may have said, "Here, why don't I fix you up a little before you go on the news?"

[laly520]

I personally would never

[4ngelic]

i have the opposite thought lol. i think it's disrespectful to come neglected to a funeral. being put together is a respectful thing to do for the deceased, and for women that involves makeup unless it's not something they typically do. I don't know about india but in the west it's expected for you to dress to the nines (but soberly) for funerals

[CrabCakes11]

The etiquette for funerals is to look kept. Do you think it’s “shameful” for men to shave before going to a funeral?

[rachel776]

Why do you keep talking about this Aishwarya Rai person who we have never heard of?

[Babygirl_S]

It's relevant to the question and I don't talk about her as much as Western people do

[IslaTheWitch]

if someone feels better in make-up, it's their decision. If someone prefers without make-up, it's also their decision. I don't think it would make any difference for the deceased...

[tomboy2003]

They should do whatever they want. There is no right or wrong answer

[Babygirl_S]

What about showing up drunk? 🤔

[MsProsperity]

What about wearing short clothes and even show their breast?

[Red_Arrow]

The ideas of showing up drunk or in revealing clothes are ridiculous. a person who always wears makeup is not showing disrespect to wear it to a ceremony that celebrates the life of a someone they respected and cared for.

[Babygirl_S]

Someone is celebrating a death?

[Red_Arrow]

They are celebrating the life of the person.

[Babygirl_S]

@Red_Arrow No they're trying to look a certain way and they don't care about the dead person

[tomboy2003]

Why would someone care about a dead person? The person is dead

[handsomelad70]

@MsProsperity No way, Jose !!!(Or "Josee," in your case.)

[Red_Arrow]

I already made it clear that the attendees are celebrating the life of the person who died. You can't understand that they are not celebrating their death. If they did not care about the dead person, they would not waste time attending the funeral. If you would not attend a funeral, why do you care what they wear of if they have makeup on?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

No they "should" not. Just like anywhere else, they "should" not but they can decide if they wanna wear it or not. I personally would prefer girls not wearing any make up at all and not spoil our eyes by showing their make ups instead of their faces most of the time.

[Lliam]

I don't see the problem. Should they wear sack cloth and pour ashes over their head?

Wearing tasteful makeup could even be a sign of respect. But she shouldn't look like she's dressed to go out clubbing.

[PeachyPie93]

I take it you never been to a funeral?

I don't see the issue. Id be dead what would I care what others do at my funeral? Just don't disrespect me or talk shit about me lol

[AviatorTom]

Wearing makeup or not, to a funeral or to any other event, is the woman's prerogative, her choice. So long as the makeup is not so tacky to draw attention to herself, makeup to a funeral is acceptable.

[on_my_knees]

The dead guy is probably going to be wearing makeup, so why not? Do you want to look worse than a dead guy?

[Mr_twoface]

It's up to you to decide and whether the crying will remove the makeup. I couldn't care less, as long as they are genuinely their for me.

[strateguy632]

i agree making yourself fancy is for joy, it shows they are not sad.

especially the idiocy of eye makeup when they are expected to cry.

[Babygirl_S]

Because they only care about looking a certain way and aren't gonna cry

[Reem12345reem]

i guess if it's simple and soft then yes , but if it's fake eyelashes and bright colors and sharp eyeliner then it shows some kind of disrespect in a way

[TheRealPepperPotts]

You have a very strong opinion about this. Why is that?

[Babygirl_S]

Because I think it's wrong

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Makeup is amoral and like wearing shoes or jewelry for many women. Why do you think it is wrong in this context?

[molonski2]

Out of respect for the deceased , you need to be well presented , nicely matched , and that includes make up.

[Nikki1989]

Personally, I would prefer people at my funeral to feel free to do whatever they want.

[XXblack88]

My personal opinion is it should be up to the individual. I rarely wear makeup so it wouldn't make sense to see me in makeup at a funeral.

[DrPepper12]

I like the Jewish Shiva idea of covering mirrors during a mourning period because ur supposed to dwell on the deceased not vanity. But I'm ok with makeup too.

[handsomelad70]

Yes, if it's tastefully worn and doesn't make them look like clowns, but then, that's the way makeup should ALWAYS be worn.

[slatyb]

They should wear whatever they want. The important things is to show up.

[midnightmoon05]

Up to her…as long as she is being respectful to the family of the deceased.

[Jennz6]

Not anything to do with the etiquette, but I would be afraid that if I started to cry, my mascara would run

[soe11]

The makeup is not only for happiness, infect show decency and presentable.

[OtterMan68]

As long as it's not over-the-top. Should be sublte and muted.

[82lynx]

Makeup and a red dress! 😆

Don’t blame me, the dress was Cher’s idea. 😇

[Twalli]

If they normally wear makeup, they should. They shouldn't get doled up for a date or such though.

[AngryCarl]

Yes, slap it on good and thick. It's disrespectful to the dead if you don't look good.

[Flower7]

I don’t think it matters.

[tzdc21]

That's up to the person.

[Paris13]

If you have Waterproof for The day. xx

[FuqUFggt]

Only if it is there's

[Dreamclouds]

better not sometimes it gets men arroused

[MsProsperity]

No they shouldn’t

[Arun1616]

It depends on relationship you with the dead guy

[Brady]

yes.

[michol123]

I don't see why not