How do I stop my daughter coming into the garage and getting in the car wearing a tank top and her underwear?

[Anonymous]

I have talked to her on multiple occasions about proper clothing for public viewing. She's 11 years old by the way

[Cutegirl06]

Be a mother!! My younger sister 13 isn't allowed to wear belly shirts out like to the mall. She snuck out of the house wearing a belly shirt under her jacket and she got caught. My mom and dad punished her by taking away her phone and she had to come straight home from school and wasn't allowed out for the weekend. Her excuse was all her friends wear belly shirts and she wants to fit in. I told her be a leader not a follower. I explained to her that I had the same rule when I was her age and didn't understand it until our mom told me and showed me the story of a young girl that was kidnapped from a mall and was raped she too was wearing a belly shirt. That was enough for me and for my sister. I'm sure my sister won't be wearing any more belly shirts to the mall. So many parents today want to be their kids friends and not their parents. I guess their afraid the kids will hate them, but I would rather my kid hates me than having something bad happen to them. They'll understand one day and thank you for being a parent not a friend. My sister asked me once to post a picture of her wearing a belly shirt she wanted to see if people would think she's cute. I told her no way!! She accused me of being jealous of her but she's my little sister and I wasn't about to put her picture on here for all the pedos out there to look and make sick comments about her. She was mad and didn't understand but she got over it!! Bottom line: Be your daughter's mother not her friend. She'll thank you for one day!

[MsProsperity]

Take her to the hospital and show her teenage girls who are pregnant or how ladies be when they’re in labour. Drive to the streets and show her street kids. Sometimes talking is not enough

[OlderAndWiser]

Trying to understand the problem:

Are there males in the house and you don't want her lounging in her panties?

Is she visible to the neighbors when she is in the garage?

Are you trying to instill some "hard and fast" rules about appropriate attire for outside the home? For inside the home?

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh wow, navigating those pre-teen years can be quite the adventure, right? 😅 Sounds like your daughter is expressing herself, but we definitely want to guide her on appropriate attire for different settings. Since you've already chatted with her and it hasn't quite sunk in, why not try involving her in picking out some fun, comfortable, and appropriate outfits for those garage-to-car moments? Maybe even make a special shopping trip out of it, focusing on clothes that she feels good in but that also fit the bill for being outside the house. This could be a wonderful bonding experience and a way to gently nudge her understanding of public appropriateness. Plus, reinforcing the idea that certain clothes are for certain places might help her see where you're coming from. And hey, a little positive reinforcement when she makes choices that align with these discussions could go a long way too! 😊

[Asker]

We can try that. I was at the point to just let her go out dressed in underwear and tank top.

[Anonymous]

By being a parent!

[Makeushiver]

Why is it a problem, is it publicly accessibpe? Rest assured that the more you react, the more she will play. Only when it doesn't- or if you can fake it- bother you will she lose interest. It's It'd help to know her age and a bit more data but generally speaking.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Makeushiver Original post states that the daughter is 11 years old.