So I started hanging out with this girl again whom I haven't been friends with in a couple years and she's already starting to copy everything I do just like she used to. It's getting really annoying even my other friends make comments saying she's like the girl in the movie Single White Female. She copies everything: my diet, how I work out, makeup, she's even slept with my current boyfriend years ago before we were dating after I told her I had a crush on him which is another huge issue entirely. Every time I see her she wants to know where I got my shirt or whatever it is I'm wearing. If I tell her I got it years ago she looks really upset by it. What should I do? Now she keeps inquiring about my boyfriend asking "Why doesn't he talk to me anymore? We used to all hang out. " She is a nice person for the most part.I just don't know if it's really worth being her friend or if I'm just blowing out of proportion.
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Whether or not she is worth your friendship is a personal decision only you can make. If you can't handle her trying to be so much like you then it is probably best if you do distance yourself from her and limit your contact. If she is a really good friend besides that she wants to be your twin and it seems like her copying is too much, than try talking to her. Tell her you value her friendship and her opinions, you enjoy hanging out with her, anything positive that you can think of to stress you like her as herself not your mini me. Maybe she just doesn't have the confidence in herself to be her own person so she tries to be the person you want her to be. Encourage her to be herself and reassure her in her own choices. Compliment her on things so she is confident that you will like her. Once she is confident in herself and that you can like her for who she is then perhaps she will start making her own decisions instead of following yours to a tee. If that doesn't work or she still doesn't get the clue. Explain to her that she doesn't have to always agree or do what you do. It's okay for her to think or dress or act however she thinks is best.
She obviously thinks rather highly of you so try to be kind. She just needs a bit of a confidence booster. I would also try to get your friends who made comments to see that also. I don't think she is trying to stalk you or act crazy or obsessive. I think she has just had a bad experience in the past with people not accepting her so she tries to be what she thinks you want her to be, like you.2