Attracting women

[Anonymous]

Ok so this is my very first myTake so don't judge my skills, judge my content. So my experience of attracting women in the past and sor of in the present is not very good. Women usually ignored me or called me ugly or didn't want to hang around me because they thought i was weird as hell. In the past I hated how women treated me and I wanted answers as to why. I asked my friends and i even made a GAG account so people could answer my questions as to why this was happening. I got amazing answers and it really made my life with women better and now i believe I can troubleshoot some of the problems guys have with attracting women, even though i still sort of don't attract women (I do get girls that say im cute occasionally though)

1. You're being a dick

Here's the truth. Girls don't like dicks.Chances are if you go up to a girl and say "Ay girl you are going to suck this dick and you are gonna like it", You will get slapped the shit out of, or be reported to the police,whichever comes first.

2. You're too nice

Being too nice will get you stepped on which is something you don't want. I'm not gonna sit here and say "Nice guys finish last" because they don't. There are certain scenerios where that happens but not always. Be nice to her but don't treat her like the queen of England.

3. You go for the wrong girl

I see and read about this shit all the time. Guys going for the wrong girls. This ends up with guys bitching about their problems on GAG or becoming depressed and become angry at girls like I once was. All girls have different tastes and all girls like diffrent types of people. The shallow ass girls who only go for looks shouldn't be in your life anyway. And guys if you are wondering, yes there are hot girls who go for personality.

4. You have friends that are jackasses

It's ok if your friends like to fuck with you sometimes, but if they cross the line then you need to tell them. I have this same problem. Your friends go and tell some bullshit to the girl you like and the girl believes it and gets mad at you when you didn't do anything. Either tell them to not go over the line or stop being friends with them.

5. You believe that the internet will solve all of your problems

I learned this from my friends. The internet sometimes says shit that will get you smacked the shit out of. Listen to your friends or your elders or whoever you can go for girl advice sometimes. Looking up how to attract women is good but its also good to listen to your friends advice as well.

Those are my main troubleshooting tips. If you have something to add to this list or you disagree with one of these things, please feel free to leave a comment!

[ttfhatter]

Some interesting viewpoints. I particularly liked the piece about being too nice, which may sound odd. Though I may have a bit of a different take than what you articulated.

Essentially, I feel that the issue is that people should focus on being kind, not nice, as there is a great distinction. Nice is passive, and allows people to step all over them, and then builds up resentment. Nice doesn't say what it wants, but instead is "nice" and keeps its mouth shut. Nice is a doormat and resents others for it (unconscious or not). Kind is assertive, genuine, and capable of setting strong boundaries and able to think of itself and others.

Shoot for kindness.

[myTake Owner]

Good point! I should have put that in the myTake. Thank You!

[muspelhem_5]

I just want to add that "attracting" women is sort of an exercise in futility.

Yes, you have to make yourself as desireable as possible.

But you have to pursue the women you want, then hope they choose you. That is how it works, and I know I was deluded for many years that if I just found the secret, women would come to me. No way José. A lot of us guys seem to focus on completely the wrong things.

I agree that the Internet won't solve every problem. Practise is necessary.

[aamy811]

Guys don't understand how much of a turn off douchey friends are. I (try not to) but I see your friends as a reflection of you. If they're asses I may think your an ass

[myTake Owner]

Very true, but sometimes there are cases where one of the friends of the friend group acts differently than the other friends in that group (Like me for example, my friends can be douche bags, but i am a kind person and respect women)

[kxera]

The being "too nice" or a "nice guy" really only applies when you're chasing after the wrong girl.

[Not_Helping]

I am judging your skills and content: THIS IS WONDERFUL!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you!