This was good until you started talking about not doing enough to avoid being stereotyped and stuff. If other people are assuming things about you based on stupid stereotypes that's an issue they have, and I think it's really ignorant to talk about trying to 'avoid being stereotyped'. Not trying to get personal by the way so no offence, that's just how that opinion came across.
I never get approached by men under 40. Ever! I suspected it's because older gents 1) don't give an eff, they're old enough to not get caught up in insecurity and think rejection reflects on self esteem, and 2) they know their chances are slim to none, so they're like "carpe diem, bitches!"
And now I know why people within a ten year age range don't approach me. T_T
From what I see, too many women in your generation think it's creepy when a guy approaches them. So men your age don't approach women because women your age think that.
First of all you can't generalize all women in my generation to think the same cuz we don't Second I don't find it creepy if a guy approaches I find it creepy if a guy approaches me stalks me and then to hookup and that's what most men in my generation do
maybe put away the boy and girls differences. and just think of him as a person? and things won't be that difficult? yes might put you in the friend zone, so what? the point is you be with the person you like and one day he/she will realize that you are the person who understand them the most?
Guys say I look mean like if they said hey I would give them a dirty look like "why the fuck is this guy talking to me?". In reality im soooooo nice, and I have a dimple so I try to smile a lot, but then people tell me I'm weird because I smile too much!!!
I've known a lot of cute girls who weren't super hot, not bubbly and outgoing, kind of reserved, etc that suffered from that one. They weren't assertive or proactive enough to meet people, but not stunning enough that their bland wardrobe and wallflower ways attracted a lot of attention.
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Factor 5 and the advice you give is ridiculous. It really is. So you are shaming beautiful girls?
Girls! This post isn't about what you as a girl should to to get the guys! It's just about the things that may make a guy intimidated enough to not approach you. I've been scared to talk to approach girls, but that doesn't mean i think they shouldn't be beautiful...
Haha, that is a huge list. I feel sorry for y'all. Personally, I just look for body language. If I think a girl is cute and she's giving me positive body language (smile, playing with hair, etc) then I'll approach. I will say that the "preoccupied" one gets me though.
This is like a list of everything that's wrong with the world.
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Most guys I know don't approach girls because:
1) They've got ego of rocket. 2) They've got ego of skyrocket 3) Sharing stupid pictures all over facebook half naked just for attention (""likes are girls ego boost"")
Wow that are so many points I think the list on what to do so guys do approach would have been a lot more compact - loving the "too hot" point though 😂
Well if a guy can't approach me because I'm "too happy" then good riddance they should be glad I'm happy not be intimidated by it. Also you can never be "too happy"
There are really nice guys, good ones, that are completely unable to seduce a girl he likes. Theses ones learn that, in their case, it is more wise waiting her first move to have some chance at all with her.
Damn! Can we have a "some guys these days gotta grow some balls and approach more women if they're interested instead of just staring at them" section? lol
@love2run13 sure, as soon as we get a section for "girls should grow some ovaries and approach more men". Girls like you whine that you can't get a boyfriend, but damned if you ever actually approach a guy yourself! Nope, you just sit back and wait. With that attitude, I can understand why you're so frustrated.
Jeez, some people on here are touchy... I've approached plenty of guys, but I'm more traditionally and generally I see it as this: if a guy is interested in me enough, he should approach me cuz I think its the guy's job to chase the woman and get her attention. If I feel like I've sent him tons of obvious signals without actually approaching me and he STILL doesn't then I try to approach him usually cuz I know some men these days are for whatever reason terrified of approaching women.
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This was good until you started talking about not doing enough to avoid being stereotyped and stuff. If other people are assuming things about you based on stupid stereotypes that's an issue they have, and I think it's really ignorant to talk about trying to 'avoid being stereotyped'.
Not trying to get personal by the way so no offence, that's just how that opinion came across.
I never get approached by men under 40. Ever! I suspected it's because older gents 1) don't give an eff, they're old enough to not get caught up in insecurity and think rejection reflects on self esteem, and 2) they know their chances are slim to none, so they're like "carpe diem, bitches!"
And now I know why people within a ten year age range don't approach me. T_T
These are way too many excuses like wtf is up with number 7 you can't be too happy... Why can't guys admit they are just lazy and scared
From what I see, too many women in your generation think it's creepy when a guy approaches them. So men your age don't approach women because women your age think that.
First of all you can't generalize all women in my generation to think the same cuz we don't
Second I don't find it creepy if a guy approaches I find it creepy if a guy approaches me stalks me and then to hookup and that's what most men in my generation do
Well, most guys are certainly scared of approaching. Nothing in this article denies that.
maybe put away the boy and girls differences. and just think of him as a person? and things won't be that difficult? yes might put you in the friend zone, so what? the point is you be with the person you like and one day he/she will realize that you are the person who understand them the most?
Guys say I look mean like if they said hey I would give them a dirty look like "why the fuck is this guy talking to me?". In reality im soooooo nice, and I have a dimple so I try to smile a lot, but then people tell me I'm weird because I smile too much!!!
Excellent take. You're one of the most insightful people on this site, @evenlift.
Thanks!
18: you blend into the crowd
I've known a lot of cute girls who weren't super hot, not bubbly and outgoing, kind of reserved, etc that suffered from that one. They weren't assertive or proactive enough to meet people, but not stunning enough that their bland wardrobe and wallflower ways attracted a lot of attention.
Factor 5 and the advice you give is ridiculous. It really is. So you are shaming beautiful girls?
Where is the shaming? The only person shaming here is you.
I think what he meant by that is the girl is so beautiful that she intimidates the guy to the point where he won't approach.
So the girl should do something magical to be less beautiful than she is? Please.
Girls! This post isn't about what you as a girl should to to get the guys! It's just about the things that may make a guy intimidated enough to not approach you. I've been scared to talk to approach girls, but that doesn't mean i think they shouldn't be beautiful...
Ok I see. Everything is wrong with me. Thanks, I'm sure I won't have a love life anyways. 💔
Haha, that is a huge list. I feel sorry for y'all. Personally, I just look for body language. If I think a girl is cute and she's giving me positive body language (smile, playing with hair, etc) then I'll approach. I will say that the "preoccupied" one gets me though.
This is like a list of everything that's wrong with the world.
Most guys I know don't approach girls because:
1) They've got ego of rocket.
2) They've got ego of skyrocket
3) Sharing stupid pictures all over facebook half naked just for attention (""likes are girls ego boost"")
Wow that are so many points I think the list on what to do so guys do approach would have been a lot more compact - loving the "too hot" point though 😂
Guys won't approach you either because they're shy and have no game or because you're ugly
Stop giving girls hope
Well if a guy can't approach me because I'm "too happy" then good riddance they should be glad I'm happy not be intimidated by it. Also you can never be "too happy"
Some of these are valid but some of them make me wonder if you slammed your head into a wall a few times before you wrote this.
Why?
Because they are moronic. Beyond moronic. I could shit out a more coherent and consistent myTake if I was having a seizure.
So, in other words, you have no reason for your view. You are the one looking moronic here.
There are really nice guys, good ones, that are completely unable to seduce a girl he likes. Theses ones learn that, in their case, it is more wise waiting her first move to have some chance at all with her.
1, 2, 3, 7, 17 - I admit - happens a lot...
Especially number 1.
According to this myTake, I fall under 17, 15, 7, 6, 4, 3, 2, and 1.
Why not 5? ;)
@YourFutureEx yoyoyoyo that would contradict with 6 then my dearest friend :P
Who said 6 is true? ;)
@YourFutureEx Oh you flatter me 😁😛😋. I guess 5 must be counted then since cookies and cream is too hot for anyone to handle
18. which should be 1.
He is too nervous to approach you and nothing you do will change that...
Damn! Can we have a "some guys these days gotta grow some balls and approach more women if they're interested instead of just staring at them" section? lol
@love2run13
It's just something I'm incapable of doing.
@love2run13 because... point #14
@love2run13 sure, as soon as we get a section for "girls should grow some ovaries and approach more men". Girls like you whine that you can't get a boyfriend, but damned if you ever actually approach a guy yourself! Nope, you just sit back and wait. With that attitude, I can understand why you're so frustrated.
Jeez, some people on here are touchy... I've approached plenty of guys, but I'm more traditionally and generally I see it as this: if a guy is interested in me enough, he should approach me cuz I think its the guy's job to chase the woman and get her attention. If I feel like I've sent him tons of obvious signals without actually approaching me and he STILL doesn't then I try to approach him usually cuz I know some men these days are for whatever reason terrified of approaching women.
"I know some men these days are for whatever reason terrified of approaching women."
Rejection or putting yourself in a vulnerable position is just something a lot of people aren't good at adapting to.
I basically agree with the whole thing. Some of it may not be ideal, but it applies in the real world so we've all just gotta suck it up. lol