This question comes up very often, and it is probably frustrating you if you're unsure as to why they won't. My goal for this myTake is to inform you on common reasons guys won't approach you and possible ways to fix it.
1. You don't show signs of interest
In my opinion this is the most important point I will address. Girls must understand that they play a role in the approaching process. You must show the guy you're interested in being approached, guys aren't robots we will not just approach every single attractive female we ever see. Unless you're a drop dead gorgeous woman you won't get far by shying away from flirting.
Does your face look like this?
Or this?
2. He has approach anxiety
This will be the hardest one to tackle. First of all you will need to identify if he has approach anxiety, which is no easy task. If he acts normal around other guys, but seems somewhat nervous or just not himself, there's a good chance he's nervous around you. Now the easiest way to approach this is to ask him out yourself, but since the majority of girls have a hard time doing this, my advice would be to make him feel comfortable. Try to take charge of the conversation and don't try to pressure him into things until he starts to feel more at ease. Back to point 1, you need to show you're interested, this is so vital.
3. He is confused
Some guys are indecisive and are unsure about their feelings towards a specific girl. He may not know if he has interest in you, and is waiting to see how things work. This brings up another very important tip DO NOT TRY TO CONFUSE HIM. I can't tell you how many guy friends have given up on a girl because she would ignore him, or say confusing things that may create doubt. Unless you see him as a friend do NOT call him "pal", "buddy" or "friend". These will make a lot of guys give up immediately. Playing games never works, don't try it.
4. He simply isn't interested
This one is always the hardest one to stomach, for both genders. Sometimes the guy isn't interested in you for anything more than a friendship. This DOESN'T mean you're unattractive or undesirable, it means one specific guy just doesn't see you as a potential partner. There's really no way to change this so instead I will give you a solid piece of advice. Move on. There are millions of single men on earth you can talk to. Don't get upset over one.
If you want any more clarification on any of my points or if any of you guys have another point to bring up by all means make a comment.
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