Why does guys look but never approach you?

[Anonymous]

I'm so sick of these guys at my school checking me out or catching them glance at me and not talking to me. At all. I don't understand it either. Granted I understand it's absolutely terrifying to deal with the possibility of rejection, but I'm really sick of being gawked at and not knowing exactly why.

The guys who do gawk at me are these popular jocks whom I've met in passing and I'm a reserved design major. They always stare and watch me at dance at parties and whatever, but they never talk to me and they go find other girls to talk to, yet I catch them all over campus glancing at me.

Why spend all that time staring at me, never approach me, and act like they're too good for me and talk to other girls? I'm just minding my own business. I'm not bitchy, or ugly or weird or anything and they're always treating me weird and giving my sly glances...

[Zeddi]

We guys got one problem with you girls:

If a guy try to approach one, and she doesn't like him, he's going to be the *looser* to all her friends and the friends of her friends...

(You girls are lucky in this case, if my friend would deny a girl I don't think bad of her, we guys talk less about those happenings)

So most of us wait, especially at school, for signs of you, that they can be sure, that they might have a chance ;)

[Asker]

Oh, I see. I always brushed off that whole "Me and my girls" will talk sh*t about a guy who approached me because 1) I don't do that and 2) I don't have a bunch of girls I hang with. I hang with my best friend and her roommates boyfriend. But I'm usually by myself.

[Zeddi]

But do these guys know that, too? You're still a girl like the others. Smile, maybe start a conversation, and then the guy know what he can do and whqt not ;)

[Anonymous]

have you thought they may just be looking at not want to approach you? You are looking at them too (hence why you see them looking at you).

And yes, it is terrifying approaching a girl as 1 min you moan about not being approached and then the next girls moan at guys approaching them when they have no interest in it.

[Asker]

I mean, I just don't see the point in gawking at someone if you're not going to talk to them or something. I mean maybe it's just me because I'm always super aware of things and my surrondings. The guy in particular who does it I caught looking at me from the football field while I was in the stands. It was weird. They'll always hang around me, but never talk. I guess if they just wanna look that's okay. It's just weird to me...

[willofjuly]

Actually am one of those guys that look at girls and don't approach sometimes.. Because every time I ask a girl if thier single, they say thier taken.. so I kinda got tired of asking and getting the same response

[Xx_DRE_xX]

If your complaining so much why don't you approach them?

[Asker]

Because I don't want anything from them since I just got out of a relationship, but all this staring, vibes and eye contact is unnerving and really weird. It's not look "you're hot I'm gonna check you out but don't want you" it's like " I'm stealing glances, I got lost in your eyes and now my glass is overflowing in the drink dispenser" staring.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Then there interested.

[Anonymous]

Because they aren't sure as to what your reaction would be like .

They might be scared to approach you ... you may not be a friendly person ... so they are scared to approach you.

[nathaliasbyg]

What if he's kind of good looking dude, and approached a good looking girl as well after doing that to you, it doesn't make sense at all why would he be scared if he got that experience