Resting bitch face + phone + looking possibly underage = triple unapproachability points!
- You're not actually meeting a constant stream of new guys. You're just seeing the same guys at work or school, and you don't go out enough. Of course, maybe, one of your male friends will suddenly ask you out, but don't count on it.
- You always look preoccupied. Hurray, you're in a coffee shop, and many guys are passing by. But, if you're staring at your phone or a book or you have earphones in, there might as well be zero men in your vicinity.
- You've got female company. It can be nerve-racking enough exposing oneself to just one girl's judgement! How many guys are willing to be judged by multiple girls at once?
- Or, even worse, you've got male company. Even many confident guys will be put off by this one, as getting into a fight isn't worth it for a girl a guy doesn't even know!
- You're too hot. If you're very hot, wear less make-up and less-flattering clothes.
- You're not hot enough. Note: as long as you're young and make a reasonable effort on your appearance, this is rarely a factor.
- You look too happy. If you look very happy, many guys will assume that you already have a boyfriend.
- You have the infamous 'resting bitch face'.
- You wear obviously expensive clothes and carry obviously expensive handbags and other such accessories. Guys don't want high-maintenance.
- You look trashy. Drawn-on eyebrows, crop tops, fake fingernails and spray tans are just some of the things that many men find trashy. Perhaps this could be a myTake of its own!
- You dress or act in accordance with a particular subculture. If you're a hipster, emo, Goth or ghetto, for example, don't expect guys outside of that subculture to approach you. The same goes for wearing religious clothes.
- You don't do enough to avoid being stereotyped. For exampe, blonde women will more quickly be labelled as ditzy than brunette women, black women as aggressive than white women, etc. Sad but true.
- You've rejected other guys. When you reject a guy, keep it civil, and keep quiet about it. If a guy finds out you rejected another guy, he may not approach you because he now fears rejection too or because he doesn't want to antagonize the rejectee.
- You've rejected other guys rudely. This will put off confident guys too. Who wants to be with a girl like that? The only guys not put off by this will be the guys who see you as a challenge rather than as someone to be taken seriously.
- You don't respond to cues. Very few guys these days will cold-approach a girl. A guy may well stare at you first, for example. If you don't smile or blush or do anything to show reciprocal interest, he likely won't approach. In a more familiar context, a guy may say things to test the waters, the common "Do you have a boyfriend?" for example. Answer such questions wisely.
- You're too tall. Guys rarely approach girls who are taller than they are. Compensate by smiling a lot and toning down your looks if you're also good-looking (that's assuming you want shorter guys than you to approach you).
- You look much younger than you are. Since most men don't approach outside of contexts such as bars and schools and workplaces, this is rarely a factor. But, looking underage is certainly not going to help.
"Don't be intimidated. These are just my brothers, I swear!"
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