"Ugh, he doesn't like me"
This year, I ended up meeting this junior girl in high school by making a cold approach, asking her to play cards with me. Every once in awhile I would ask her again, but honestly, I don't think she would've agreed every time if she wasn't at least slightly interested. She would laugh, tease, giggle, smile, etc, but I just ignored everything. She's got a boyfriend now, and I'm sure they're going well, but here's what happened with me that (in my opinion), I shouldn't be doing again.
I only talked to her once a week or less
The thing is, although I know I was perfectly capable of building up an attraction with her, no one has the patience to wait around forever, especially people that may have many other options to choose from. She may have liked me all she wanted, but nothing was going to change unless someone decided to do something. She already knew that it wasn't going to be her, and I had to figure that out by myself as soon as she began to become completely cold against me in class, unless I of course made an approach.
I hardly looked at her
Now I know that no one would like to be caught staring at someone else, and with my terrible peripheral vision, I wasn't able to see whether or not she was looking at me. I decided not to stare at her at all because of this, unless I was already looking in her direction with her back turned. She never would've thought that I was looking at her because let's face it: people always look for signs from anyone they like, and unless they get sufficient signs, they won't believe that you like them back. The only few times where I had stared at her was after I was having a good laugh with a few of my male/female friends, and I'd bet that she was thinking that I was only looking at her because I felt as though I had to for whatever reason.
I was unclear with her
Basically saying, I probably played cards with her too often. I would have rather just got down to relationship business, but it really felt like that was the only way to get her to comfortably talk to me and tease me, since she wasn't able to impolitely do it at any other time. She was too shy, and although I had talked to her many times before, building up an attraction, because of my friendly behavior intertwined with my flirtatious behavior, it may have gotten her confused about what I wanted, since I was unclear with her.
I did not ask her out
Top reason why I lost her: I didn't ask her out. If there's one thing I've learned, if you like a person, you are ready to begin a relationship with them as soon as you realize it. She once asked me if there was anyone important in my life, signaling the desire for a relationship, and I completely brushed it away. I was less focused on her and more focused on the memory of the moment, where I could've had more moments to come, if I had decided to ask one simple question.
Even after all of the signs, I didn't capitalize on my own interest in her. Guys, if you see the signs, please make a move. These women want it to happen, and unless you do it, you're going to receive negative feedback either from her and her newly cold attitude towards you, or yourself for being so stupid and not taking action on the person you like.
I hope this inspires you to make a move. I know I should have, but didn't. Don't make the same mistake I did.
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